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RE: Own Worst Enemy - 2/26/2006 5:55:53 PM   
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Here's the problem. How do i STOP reading His e-mails and wondering to myself, is He real, is He who He says He is, is this just a wanker wanting to trick me? Worse yet, i have caught myself wondering if He is my 'x' trying to find out what i may or may not say about him (the 'x' has done that before). There are other issues that will need to be faced if this goes anywhere at all. my question is, for Tthose that may have gone through the similar thought processes, how did Yyou overcome them? Can they be overcome? Am i being unfair to Him? (lol ok more than one question here).

angelic


Speak to Him by phone so you know He's someone new; and go slowly.

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RE: Own Worst Enemy - 2/26/2006 10:01:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		as an update... i'm glad i hung on tight to that treetop... and it's ok!!! someday

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RE: Own Worst Enemy - 2/26/2006 11:26:20 PM   
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RE: Own Worst Enemy - 2/27/2006 12:45:08 AM   
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that is why, Sir.. if He is not comfortable in giving it out then if i ask, i have then put Him in a position that He will be uncomfortable with.

ok thinking this thru, i suppose i could just give Him my phone number... if He choses to call that is His choice.

angelic


Giving Him your phone number is no different than giving Him your street addy; get an unlisted number first.

my 2 cents.

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RE: Own Worst Enemy - 2/27/2006 12:52:17 AM   
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btw RavenMuse is also one of my favorite posters. He's honest, upfront, straightforward and i've yet to see Him be unkind to another.

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Ladies, thank you for the compliments. I don't blush like IB but I guess I best go be unkind to someone now before you two ruin my street cred

*Picks up a stick to beat someone with*

Oh on second thoughts.... knowing the folks around here they would only enjoy it!

*Puts stick away*

RavenMuse


i happen to enjoy RM's posts for their maturity and kindness.

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RE: Own Worst Enemy - 2/27/2006 7:02:31 AM   
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ORIGINAL: angelic

as an update... i'm glad i hung on tight to that treetop... and it's ok!!! someday


Aw - that sounds as though things didn't work out. :(



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RE: Own Worst Enemy - 2/27/2006 7:38:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		The obvious answer is to meet him somewhere neutral for a cup of coffee and a chat. Then at least you'll know if it's your ex and you'll have a lot better idea who you are dealing with.

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RE: Own Worst Enemy - 2/27/2006 7:53:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: OscarHargraves

The obvious answer is to meet him somewhere neutral for a cup of coffee and a chat. Then at least you'll know if it's your ex and you'll have a lot better idea who you are dealing with.


the issue sort of took care of itself last night.

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RE: Own Worst Enemy - 2/27/2006 7:54:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		i'm headed off to work, but wanted to again thank Eeveryone here for Yyour comments, suggestions and most of all Yyour support!!!



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RE: Own Worst Enemy - 2/27/2006 12:04:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		That's what cell phones are for. And did you know that if you preface any call with *67, your number will be concealed.

So now, inquiring minds want to know... how did this matter resolve itself?
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RE: Own Worst Enemy - 2/27/2006 12:09:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Given that wasn't a smiling face after the comment then I guess it didn't go well. Shame, give yourself a little treat, pamper yourself for an evening and then get on out there and find someone who you deserve

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RE: Own Worst Enemy - 2/27/2006 1:11:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think it's a big PLUS that you are thinking that way... matter of fact, I would continue thinking that way all the way up until the day you meet him for coffee and see him face to face.... and even then, I'd still kinda question some things... but at least I would see that he wasn't really my ex...

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RE: Own Worst Enemy - 2/27/2006 4:29:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		I understand well where you are coming from, as I have had a toxic ex and individuals I have communicated with online who were anything but what they claimed to be. When I catch myself reacting in the way you mentioned, when communicating someone new, I remind myself that everyone is an individual and that I shouldn't judge anyone by another's actions. This works for me, but again I do understand why you would question someone's motives......

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ORIGINAL: angelic

i have in the past week been exchanging e-mails with a very nice Man. (Luckily i don't think He reads the forums or He will know i'm speaking of Him and might stop talking to me). He seems very real, kind and hasn't asked 'how long have you been in the lifestyle' (an immediate turn off for me).

Here's the problem. How do i STOP reading His e-mails and wondering to myself, is He real, is He who He says He is, is this just a wanker wanting to trick me? Worse yet, i have caught myself wondering if He is my 'x' trying to find out what i may or may not say about him (the 'x' has done that before). There are other issues that will need to be faced if this goes anywhere at all. my question is, for Tthose that may have gone through the similar thought processes, how did Yyou overcome them? Can they be overcome? Am i being unfair to Him? (lol ok more than one question here).


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RE: Own Worst Enemy - 2/27/2006 5:36:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

Given that wasn't a smiling face after the comment then I guess it didn't go well. Shame, give yourself a little treat, pamper yourself for an evening and then get on out there and find someone who you deserve


You are correct, Sir... and it's ok... not sure it was my 'x' (probably wasn't)... but it's all good!

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