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RE: sex with a submissive - 9/14/2009 1:23:50 PM   
DemonKia


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& I think that's half man, all hedge-dong . . . . .

ETA for better funny . . . .

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RE: sex with a submissive - 9/14/2009 1:43:13 PM   
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In past relationships, sometimes it did and sometimes it didn't.

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RE: sex with a submissive - 9/14/2009 5:19:51 PM   
aidan


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Status: offline 		Personally I'd always held sex as a "soft limit" because it was something I only wanted to experience with a woman I really loved and cared about.

When I was 19 and met Mistress, fell in love with Her and Her with me, I was more than happy to give it up. Begged to actually, about half-way through our first week together. She seemed to enjoy that. ;)


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RE: sex with a submissive - 9/14/2009 5:42:44 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		If a man tells me that his submission is attached to his cock, I know he is not the submissive for me.  Sex, and the ability to have it, have nothing to do with service in my world.  Should I turn aside a fabulous servant, or a wonderful responsive masochist because he has ED?  Because he just doesn't "do it" for me in terms of sexual thrills?  There are truly too few chances for compatibility in this world for me to be so narrow in my view.  And, libido comes and goes, just like good health.  As in any relationship, if sex is the only point of commonality, boredom is imminent. 

Now, it's also true that there is a range of things that I will not engage in with the men who don't give me that thrill...  because I just don't feel motivated to.   This is when it's good to be poly...  and certainly good to be open to more than one play partner at a time!  I gotta say, I admire you folks who only want to play with ONE person forever...  but then, I don't connect the dots between sex and bdsm, either!

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RE: sex with a submissive - 9/14/2009 6:03:26 PM   
PeonForHer


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Wow.  Some diametrically opposed views on this thread!

Me, I'd always assumed sex would be part of the relationship.  But being submissive is more than sex.  How much more, I don't yet know.  And I'm currently re-examining my idea of what a 'relationship' must entail anyway.  In fact, I have one central assumption after another coming under my own spotlight these days.  Jesus, I must be getting old. 

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RE: sex with a submissive - 9/14/2009 6:11:54 PM   
ShaktiSama


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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

If a man tells me that his submission is attached to his cock, I know he is not the submissive for me.


I think there is a wide reach between "submission attached to his cock" and "submission DETACHED from his cock", don't you?

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  Sex, and the ability to have it, have nothing to do with service in my world.  Should I turn aside a fabulous servant, or a wonderful responsive masochist because he has ED?


No, I see no reason why you would.  On the other hand, are you going to be satisfied ONLY with that fabulous servant with the limp noodle?  Methinks not.

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  This is when it's good to be poly...  and certainly good to be open to more than one play partner at a time!


Bingo.  Especially if one of them has an operable penis.

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  I gotta say, I admire you folks who only want to play with ONE person forever...  but then, I don't connect the dots between sex and bdsm, either!


It's amazing how easy it is to live with one man when he's...multi-talented.


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RE: sex with a submissive - 9/14/2009 6:26:56 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

If a man tells me that his submission is attached to his cock, I know he is not the submissive for me.


I think there is a wide reach between "submission attached to his cock" and "submission DETACHED from his cock", don't you?



Possibly.  What I am avoiding , which I think you know, is that breed of male whose desire to please disappears when his erection does.  I'm sure you've met them, here and there.

Certainly I am open to having a sexual relationship with a submissive...  just as soon as I meet one that is SINGLE and appeals to me!

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RE: sex with a submissive - 9/14/2009 8:16:49 PM   
Andalusite


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Status: offline 		Kia, wouldn't that be sub-Sonic the hedgedong?

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RE: sex with a submissive - 9/15/2009 1:54:23 PM   
MissDita


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I'm a cuckoldress, but still I will also have sex with My main slave from time to time if I feel like it.
But you could be a service slave in a poly-household, or find a cuckoldress that is into complete denial. In that case you can have a relationship with a Mistress when She has sex with others.

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RE: sex with a submissive - 9/15/2009 5:09:41 PM   
Politesub53


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Status: offline 		Sex isnt exaclty a pre requisite with me, but being sensual and a sexual chemistry is. IE, I dont get my kicks from just cleaning for the sake of it, but because i like who I am with and knowing I am making her life easier. To me, intimacy is not just about the physical.

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