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Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 12:37:11 PM

JezzaV

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OK... here's the story, I'd appreciate feedback from all aspects/personalities (as usual).

So we where still cementing our relationship. A difficult one too, due to the vagaries of distance.

But what with one thing and another things have become strained between us.

So as we retire to bed she says no offence, but she'd rather just cuddle and sleep. I'm fully-on, but I want her like mad. But I love her, and she's all that matters to me, so I relinquish the whole "I'm the Dom" bit and say OK, let's just cuddle then. We talk for a while, and soon sleep's warm, sultry caress is calling to my unconscious.

All of a sudden she's caressing me, touching me, all over me.

I won't into details, but she basically switched from "get your filthy hands off me you yukky... MAN!!!" to "I want you now I'm damn well gonna HAVE YOU!!!"

I remember at one point crying out that this what it must feel like to be raped as she pinned my arms to the bed ...

And then... just "rape me rape MEEEEEE!!!!" it was like she was drilling into the bed ... er ... but in reverse...

It was totally random and the BEST fuck I've ever had. I have no problems saying it. I have no idea how long it lasted, but I was well and truly HER Bitch!!!

Even when I cracked her up laughing by shouting stuff like "I'll be your man-slut forever, just don't EVER stop" it just felt... I can't really describe it.... Like she really WAS raping me, and I loved it, being HER source of pleasure/passion/emotion... I can't explain it in words. It's as though my soul was weeping in joy, singing in the caress of an Angel's wings.

To this day, for all the games we've played, how honored I am at the trust she places in me... I just LOVED the way her lust just took over, especially when a Vanilla would just roll over, fart and go to sleep.

It's funny. To me it really cemented our relationship. In day-to-day life, when facing the world, I'm the Big Bad Dom!!! But in real life, I'm really only her servant and soldier to feed her and give my life to protect her.

I just wonder if alone in this, just have the bollocks to tell it like it is, or just ... weird!

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 1:58:57 PM

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It may have felt like rapeplay to you but real rape..nope..highly unlikely, quite doubtful. If it had you wouldn't be here writing about how intense and exciting it was.

But as for the fun and great time you had...congrats. Glad to hear you had such a wonderful time with your partner.

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 2:29:43 PM

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Jezza,
i'm going to give you the huge benefit of the doubt that you had no intention of minimizing the experience of so many women who had been completly brutalized and victimized by power hunger rapists. The fact that you could even cogntively think on any level confuse this experience of exstacy or ultimate orgasm or awesome sex or however ythink about ou really desire to describe it and would even comparing it to something so vile and criminal is pretty pathetic in my opinion....
But, could just be me.

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 2:36:06 PM

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Jezza,
i'm going to give you the huge benefit of the doubt that you had no intention of minimizing the experience of so many women who had been completly brutalized and victimized by power hunger rapists. The fact that you could even cogntively think on any level confuse this experience of exstacy or ultimate orgasm or awesome sex or however ythink about ou really desire to describe it and would even comparing it to something so vile and criminal is pretty pathetic in my opinion....
But, could just be me.

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i'm going to go out on a limb and guess he was bragging about being "taken" by his sub and not "raped" in the literal sense you mean. There is a difference in being proud of what your penis did and forcing it up on others.

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 2:45:52 PM

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Oh my you have both taken this in completely the wrong context!!!!

Jezza my Dom is meaning fantasy forced sex and yes "taken" but used the term "rape" But not as the real rape you have suggested. He is fully aware of the difference.

Also with all respect he is not bragging he is in fact asking a question if other Dom's ever get this, feel this way ABOUT with their sub's.... And would ever let them take them in this manner?

I AM sure knowing my Dom very well that he has meant no disrespect in his post what so ever!!!! I can assure you.

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 2:48:04 PM

Elipsis

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Well, he did put it in quotes.

In any case JezzaV, maybe you've got some submissive tendencies? Is this something you want to play around with more or was it just a one time thing for you?

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 2:50:15 PM

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Yeah, been there. I wasn't "her bitch", and it wasn't rape, but she did get very forceful and intended to get her rocks off whether I did or I didn't.

I did.

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 2:52:56 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: theRose4U

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kalista07

Jezza,
i'm going to give you the huge benefit of the doubt that you had no intention of minimizing the experience of so many women who had been completly brutalized and victimized by power hunger rapists. The fact that you could even cogntively think on any level confuse this experience of exstacy or ultimate orgasm or awesome sex or however ythink about ou really desire to describe it and would even comparing it to something so vile and criminal is pretty pathetic in my opinion....
But, could just be me.

Kali

i'm going to go out on a limb and guess he was bragging about being "taken" by his sub and not "raped" in the literal sense you mean. There is a difference in being proud of what your penis did and forcing it up on others.

Despite the fact that his definition might differ even though he clearly states:"I remember at one point crying out that this what it must feel like to be raped as she pinned my arms to the bed ... " it does matter that he chose those words.

In doing so, he should be aware there is a difference between being actually raped and a voluntary exchange of power.
He knew he was not in danger.

Speaking only for myself, that this is what might be his perception of rape (as he states) is disconcerting to say the least.

It does matter what words we use.
There is an inherent responsibility in those choices.

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 2:59:32 PM

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Putting aside the word usage, and yes using a word of violence such as rape does minimize what so many have gone through, there is always something very exciting when a person you love and desire, loses their control, loses their veneer of civilization and is overwhelmed by lust for you.

Real rape such as happens to men in jail, bears no resemblance to your experience.

I'm glad you had a good time and you could laugh in the middle of it. Of course you may have released a hitherto unknown domme!

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 3:01:00 PM

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quote:

Despite the fact that his definition might differ even though he clearly states:"I remember at one point crying out that this what it must feel like to be raped as she pinned my arms to the bed ... " it does matter that he chose those words.

In doing so, he should be aware there is a difference between being actually raped and a voluntary exchange of power.
He knew he was not in danger.

Speaking only for myself, that this is what might be his perception of rape (as he states) is disconcerting to say the least.

It does matter what words we use.
There is an inherent responsibility in those choices.

As a Domme that has been non-consentually raped more than once...yeah I get it, but that doesn't mean you girls aren't taking an opportunity to castigate someone for a poor choice of words. He was bragging what his penis got to do and asking if anyone else has had/enjoyed something similar...not staking out the local street corner to drag someone into a dark alley.
As I said before I don't know the guy and can pick up a poor word choice. This horse is dead and yeah it stinks but lets let the thread die and hope he learns about word selection...his sub seems to have a decent grasp.

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 3:04:19 PM

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greetings to all,

OP, your post makes total sense to me. We had a similar experience. I'm sure that my Master would also agree with you.

well wishes,

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 3:08:30 PM

Chimortis

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Guess what? You're a switch. Now start exploring and enjoying it. ;)

And most of all, remember that it's nothing to be ashamed of. The fact is that life-dominance and in-bed-dominance don't always go hand-in-hand. True dominance comes out in terms of how one leads their day to day life, not just what they do and how they interact in the sack.

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 3:11:36 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Chimortis

Guess what? You're a switch. Now start exploring and enjoying it. ;)

I almost said this but wanted to see if the OP would make that conclusion himself.

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 3:15:51 PM

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quote:

I remember at one point crying out that this what it must feel like to be raped as she pinned my arms to the bed ...

you are pretty far off the mark there, dude.

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 3:19:17 PM

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Guess what? You're a switch. Now start exploring and enjoying it. ;)

Seriously. Why do you feel the need to label someone?

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 3:20:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: Chimortis
Guess what? You're a switch. Now start exploring and enjoying it. ;)

*laughs* Yeah... the good news is that it doesn't sound like the OP is all that worried about his domly street cred given that he was willing to both exclaim and subsequently post, "I'll be your man-slut forever, just don't EVER stop"

I'll be the first to admit that I enjoy bottoming in the bedroom as much as topping. Outside the bedroom, Carol's and my roles are pretty fixed. But once sex starts, we quite normally do several role reversals during the course of the evening. As near as I can suss it out, I'm a lifestyle dom and a bedroom switch. Three cheers for complex answers to complex questions.

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 3:23:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Elipsis

quote:

ORIGINAL: Chimortis

Guess what? You're a switch. Now start exploring and enjoying it. ;)

I almost said this but wanted to see if the OP would make that conclusion himself.

Its not really my place here but im not to sure what my
Dom is doing... no doubt typing out a long essay regarding previous posts.

So.. moving on, we where just discussing this on the phone and yes we think Switch is a possibility. That could be a new exciting path we are about to take.. though I dont think IM fully ready for that position... but the progress along the way will be interesting As I am very use to being the submissive one.. role changing is quite scary

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 3:23:28 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Chimortis

Guess what? You're a switch. Now start exploring and enjoying it. ;)

And most of all, remember that it's nothing to be ashamed of. The fact is that life-dominance and in-bed-dominance don't always go hand-in-hand. True dominance comes out in terms of how one leads their day to day life, not just what they do and how they interact in the sack.

No he's not a switch, but maybe for 30 seconds there, it made his dick really hard to not feel in control for once. BFD dont force your idea of Switch on someone else. Thats not cool

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 3:25:34 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Elipsis

quote:

ORIGINAL: Chimortis

Guess what? You're a switch. Now start exploring and enjoying it. ;)

I almost said this but wanted to see if the OP would make that conclusion himself.

Anyone one can tell him he's this or that, but he HAS to make that connection for himself. Only he can decide what label fits, if any. I would say it is something to seriously consider given what he described, but that is all.

OP, it sounds like you had an intense and wonderful experience. I think it can be the impetus for much fun and exploration in the future.

As an aside, I get really frustrated with people acting like it is so strange to use the negative terms like rape, abuse, ect to add further intensity to what is going on. I have been through both, so I am not minimizing anything when I say such things in the heat of the moment. It just makes it rougher and nastier somehow in a way that really taps into probably an emotional masochism of sorts. If it was a poor choice of words fine, but the venom is a bit much. As much as people like the darker terminology, I don't think this is really that exceptionally odd and disturbing.

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RE: Getting "raped" - 9/18/2009 3:25:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: leadership527

quote:

ORIGINAL: Chimortis
Guess what? You're a switch. Now start exploring and enjoying it. ;)

*laughs* Yeah... the good news is that it doesn't sound like the OP is all that worried about his domly street cred given that he was willing to both exclaim and subsequently post, "I'll be your man-slut forever, just don't EVER stop"

I'll be the first to admit that I enjoy bottoming in the bedroom as much as topping. Outside the bedroom, Carol's and my roles are pretty fixed. But once sex starts, we quite normally do several role reversals during the course of the evening. As near as I can suss it out, I'm a lifestyle dom and a bedroom switch. Three cheers for complex answers to complex questions.

I can totally understand that. Furthermore, any "switchy" stuff I do in the bedroom, it's because *I want to*. I don't think that's a submissive trait, or somehow makes anyone less dominant.

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