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Acer49 -> RE: Too Picky??? (9/20/2009 8:28:08 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Bimtrain
I'm sure I'm not the first person on here to post about this but I feel like I keep encountering the same situation.
In short it goes like this:
1. Sub lists twenty things she desires for/from her Dom and life as a sub/slave.
2. Dom says 19 of those are what he's looking for as well.
3. Sub basically tells Dom to fuck off.
I'm over simplifying but still... I know if I expected every condition of every situation I go into to be met I'd be living a very miserable and unfulfilling life.
And spare me the "everyone has a right to require what they want" speech. We're still talking about relationships here and no relationship in the history of this planet has ever been 100% perfect. Whether D/s, vanilla or otherwise, they ALL require compromise to one degree or another!
P.S. I've posted on the boards under my other profile before.
When I first read your post, I was thinking, 19 out of 20, seems pretty reasonable and that I could not understand why you were being treated so harshly, so I decided to look at your profile. I give you credits for that as many do not put anything. However…
Well after reviewing your profile I can see that the type of women you desire might be a little hard to find. While there is nothing wrong with wanting one to be healthy and try to look desirable as possible, requiring extensive body modifications it a little bit over the top. I am afraid only someone would have to want to be truly objectified would consider this to be acceptable possibility. Let us say, you were able to find such a woman, and she hands you a list of 10-15 things which require surgery for you. Are you willing to do the same thing that you are requiring of her?
I am afraid whoever gave you your definition of beauty did you a grave injustice. I can with 100% certainty that ones beauty is not determined by one’s outer packaging. Beauty is love, devotion, caring, trusting, and honesty.
I think that many may view you as one dimensional as you’re life focus is simply on one thing, sex. What value do you have to one another the other 22-23 hours of the day? You speak nothing of desiring true intimacy between yourself and your partner. You speak nothing of your partner’s value as a woman or as a human being. I must caution you that to make such requirements simply to be considered worthy of your manhood may backfire on you. While I am sure it would not be as fulfilling a 4.99 vibrator and two “C” batteries will get the job done for many women.
A quote from your profile
“She's generally pretty helpless and needs help doing anything I haven't already trained her well to do. She will want to surrender control of her entire life to her Master.”
Helpless; does the thought of a strong woman threaten you? Or do you have a need to micro manage as well? You profile, I am afraid, may give some the impression that you are a very insecure individual lacking in self esteem. This verified by your obsessive focus on the desire to look perfect when in view of others.
I am sorry but your profile suggests nothing as to your desire or ability to be a well rounded dominant, much less someone who would be comfortable in a TPE. I truly hope that when asked about previous experience, you can produce 10 years live-in experience that can be verified. But in all fairness, I guess it does not take much to tell someone to spread your legs, bend over or suck my….
I am afraid the stress of always being perfect may wear very heavily on most, for fear you may at some point feel them not perfect enough, despite all the surguries, exercise and make up, terminate the relationship, no matter how devoted they had been
I did not post this to degrade or disgrace you, but to simply show you how you might be being perceived. Good luck and I hope you get what you looking for
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