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too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 9:16:39 AM

misstressnew

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is there a size limit to being a domme?

the reason i ask is that i have received a message from a guy stating im too fat and to give up now

now im thinking he is just in need of some very firm discipline

just thought i would check though as i dont want to spend anymore cash than i already have on equipment. most seem great on here.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 9:19:48 AM

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First...welcome to the forums.

Ignore those types of messages and do not allow fly-by ass-holery to get to you. You have no control over what others write to you, but you have all the control over how you react.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 9:23:25 AM

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Yes, if you can crush a guys eyesockets by queening him..............

Nope, you can get little pillows or chair like things to avoid that..........

so, at first I was gonna say yes, but it is a decided no...

There are men that like Zaftig, Voluptuous, Curvaceous, Comely, Robust (yadda yadda yadda) women, so far, only one you have traded cmail with don't like fat girls.........

So, like everything else, just consider that there is at least one guy out there in the entire world that don't get it, you will run into more, I am sure, but you will run into a fuck of a slithering pile of men that are just thinking, that right there? that's the ticket.........

Don't let the bastards get you down.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 9:23:51 AM

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By chance did he give you this pearl of wisdom after you had rejected his request for a laundry list of things that he needs to express his submissive self?
People who cannot get attention or responses seem to love nasty hit-and-run messages.
You are a Domme if you feel you are one and the sub(s) you choose find in your time together strength and confidence. Size does not make a Domme, nor does age or any superficial measure.
Trust me, be a nice person and this idiot will quickly be forgotten for someone who is truly submissive.
The odds are greatly in your favor and the nasty person who sent you the note knows that.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 9:24:29 AM

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A lot of sub/slaves actually like it better. You will find some that you float their boat, others you don't. Just ignore the ones that want to be asses or that don't have someone bigger as a preference, and focus on all the ones that find you perfect.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 9:24:56 AM

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Thats like telling a man he is to skinny to be a Dominant.

What rubbish. Ignore it!

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 9:28:37 AM

misstressnew

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thanks for that. havnt let him get to me . wont even give him the satisfaction of a response. just wanted to check

more shopping for kit now me thinks

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 9:38:42 AM

DrkJourney

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You are going to get messages like that no matter what. Some people just like to go from profile to profile and insult...I guess that's their thing trying to hurt people. Block him and move on. Chances are he didn't even read your profile or look at your pic for that matter. I have a Domme friend here and we are total opposites in color and body type, and this one..um "person" sent us both the same exact insult.

Don't understand those types, but certainly not going to waste any time on them

Have fun on the site and good luck on your search

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 9:43:55 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: misstressnew

is there a size limit to being a domme?

the reason i ask is that i have received a message from a guy stating im too fat and to give up now

now im thinking he is just in need of some very firm discipline

just thought i would check though as i dont want to spend anymore cash than i already have on equipment. most seem great on here.

<<chuckles>> No, there is no such rule and it appears the your emailer's penis size is also the number that is given when he is asked about his IQ

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 9:48:15 AM

misstressnew

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Acer49

quote:

ORIGINAL: misstressnew

is there a size limit to being a domme?

the reason i ask is that i have received a message from a guy stating im too fat and to give up now

now im thinking he is just in need of some very firm discipline

just thought i would check though as i dont want to spend anymore cash than i already have on equipment. most seem great on here.

<<chuckles>> No, there is no such rule and it appears the your emailer's penis size is also the number that is given when he is asked about his IQ

lol now that made me chuckle

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 9:54:02 AM

SubOnlyForHim

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Fat chicks need love too!

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 9:55:15 AM

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i will say there isn't a size limit and people who send those kinda messages should be ignored

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 10:01:13 AM

LadyPact

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It sounds to Me more like it was the hit and run insult type. Some people get off on that.

To answer your question though, no. There's no such thing as too fat to be a Domme. Just like there's no such thing as too short, too poor, have too little formal education and so on. I'm all of the above and not only am I a good Dominant, but I'm also a damned accomplished top. There aren't too many people around who would argue the point with Me.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 10:20:09 AM

Voodali

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In my opinion, part of being a Domme is empowering yourself to the point where you are able to own your power and beauty regardless of how far you stray from the media's current ideal of how you should look. Interestingly, most of the longterm lifestyle Dommes I know in real life are large women. I don't know if this is coincidence or choice, or perhaps a sign that they enjoy the sensual pleasures in life, including eating. I think you should check out more fetish art, as BBWs are often featured and celebrated. Lindi St. Clair, the former Miss Whiplash, famed and successful London pro Domme, was not a svelte woman. The opinion of an insignificant internet peon shouldn't phase you.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 10:24:05 AM

mnottertail

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Voodali

In my opinion, part of being a Domme is empowering yourself to the point where you are able to own your power and beauty regardless of how far you stray from the media's current ideal of how you should look. Interestingly, most of the longterm lifestyle Dommes I know in real life are large women. I don't know if this is coincidence or choice, or perhaps a sign that they enjoy the sensual pleasures in life, including eating. I think you should check out more fetish art, as BBWs are often featured and celebrated. Lindi St. Clair, the former Miss Whiplash, famed and successful London pro Domme, was not a svelte woman. The opinion of an insignificant internet peon shouldn't phase you.

Yanno, in thinking about that (funny I never have before, but then I am on the same side of the sheets.....) I wonder if part of it is their size helps cower a man, and that when they say something, they physically have a really great shot at backing up what they say......

Just musing, I guess.

edit: got a little too physical
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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 10:37:55 AM

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Some guys that send really rude comments are looking for a fight via e-mails so he may have been goading you on.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 10:41:42 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: misstressnew

is there a size limit to being a domme?

the reason i ask is that i have received a message from a guy stating im too fat and to give up now

i'm trying to wrap my mind around your question but i can't. because you're talking about two people relating. the last time i checked this occurs in all shapes and sizes. why would your sexuality change that truth? furthermore, why would a virtual comment from someone you'll never meet cause you to question your common sense? i think the answer is fairly obvious.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 10:44:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Yanno, in thinking about that (funny I never have before, but then I am on the same side of the sheets.....) I wonder if part of it is their size helps cower a man, and that when they say something, they physically have a really great shot at backing up what they say......

Just musing, I guess.

does that mean i can smack you around? lovingly of course. *grins*

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 10:46:47 AM

IronBear

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Most of the lifestyle Dommes I know are delightful BBWs. The only valid reason I have heard from one bloke I know well is that he is terrified that his tallywacker is too small to penetrate a larger woman.. Go figure..

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 10:46:48 AM

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total hit and run. of course not!!!!! there are so many out there ready to bash you the minute you log in. every single day, ill get at least one saying something negative about me. and at least one saying something about Master. Why some people get off on that, ill never understand.

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