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Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 2:10:46 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I have belonged to Master for over 3 years actually closer to 4 now. From the eime i submitted and told him i wanted to be his i have called him Master. he is not hung up on titles but it was a natural form of address for me so he allowed it.

Today my friend came over she is also a collared sub to HER Master. Master cme over to see me (as always). Master was looking in my candy dishes and she said Master ther is more over here.It might be silly but that bothered me. I call him Master but he is MY Master. I said why did you call him that ? Master saw it bothered me and asked why. I said you are my Master she has her own. Seeing how much it bothered me Master told my friend you may call me Sir. She agreed and everything is good now.

Did another Sub/slave who does not belong to you Master call him Master? If so did it bother you? Why or why not?

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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 2:44:06 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		It doesn't bother me when other subs/slaves call my Sir    "Sir"     -   but then, i call him "my Sir".

When i started doing this he objected because he said i was his, not he mine.  But as i explained - if i belong to him, then in a way, he is mine.  Sort of along the lines that you are responsible for the life that you save.

Anyway, since i call him "my Sir", and no-one else does , or has the right to, i don't have negative feelings for others calling him Sir.  Maybe you could try something like that.

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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 2:57:18 PM   
BoundDragon


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Status: offline 		This one has got me thinking.

Given that I haven't been put in this situation yet I have had to think hard about it. I think I wouldn't like if anyone else called him Master. I would be happy with Sir though.

Looking at it on the flip side... I wouldn't dream of calling anyone Master (or Mistress), courtesay and respect would drive me to call them Sir or Ma'am.

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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 3:40:45 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Other slaves and Masters, who use titles, call me Master Fire. In other words, they use both the title and name. My boy, on the other hand, uses simply Master or Ma'am.

Perhaps doing something like that might be a compromise?

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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 3:42:51 PM   
SubOnlyForHim


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Status: offline 		Someone called my Sir by the nickname *only* I use for Him, once (only once in my presence). I had a COW, a full-grown one! I was the one that came up with the nickname when we were "vanilla boyfriend/girlfriend"  and Sir's Dom side had really started coming out. We had broken up for a bit and His newest "pet" or whatever she was called Him by MY NICKNAME! I was outraged! Oh and I told her so. Sir was not happy about this, but it was a long time ago and He had freed me at the time! For others to call Him Master or Sir, does not bother me. Everyone is different.

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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 4:50:55 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

Did another Sub/slave who does not belong to you Master call him Master? If so did it bother you? Why or why not?




It might bother me if someone else called him Sir or Master. I think it would startle him and he would just stare at them blankly. But it would also depend on how and why it was said. If someone simply believes that all dominants/masters are to be given that title, we would either ignore it or politely ask if they would mind calling him by his name.

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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 4:57:19 PM   
angelwithhonor


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Status: offline 		...this is my thought only, but i feel its wrong and disrespectful of another sub/slave calling a Sir "Master"...if they arent their sub/slave...i myself couldnt call a Dom Master if i wasnt His sub/slave..titles are just that but they are well earned,and should be respected as that.....kate

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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 5:19:05 PM   
Roselaure


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Status: offline 		If someone else addressed my Master by a name that bothered me, I would express my feelings to my Master privately and he would handle it as he deemed appropriate.  I would not say anything to the other person, it's not my place and also a bit too "cat-fighty" for my taste.

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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 5:54:39 PM   
SubOnlyForHim


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Roselaure

If someone else addressed my Master by a name that bothered me, I would express my feelings to my Master privately and he would handle it as he deemed appropriate.  I would not say anything to the other person, it's not my place and also a bit too "cat-fighty" for my taste.


I wouldn't dare even think of saying anything to the other person now either. He does not belong to me. I belong to Him.

< Message edited by SubOnlyForHim -- 9/24/2009 5:57:08 PM >

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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 6:07:39 PM   
IrishMist


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quote:

Did another Sub/slave who does not belong to you Master call him Master?

Some did, some did not. It depended on what their owners wished for.
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If so did it bother you?

No
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Why or why not?

Because he did not belong to me. He was not 'mine'. He was simply the man who happened to own me. I had no right to become angry if another called him Sir or Master. It was not my decision to make.

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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 6:18:51 PM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		I don't even call him sir or master.  Can't imagine that anyone else would.  Although...seeing his reaction to that might just be priceless.  And I'd have to tease him endlessly about it for weeks. Heh heh heh

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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 6:58:30 PM   
sweetsub1957


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Status: offline 		This situation has never happened to me.  Plus, I call my Sir, "Sir."  If I called Him Master and another sub/slave who was not His called Him Master, I think I would ask her/him to "Please call Him "Sir" as He is not your Master and 'Sir" would still be respectful."  Sir and I have a relationship where He would not mind my doing that.

As for what I'd call other Dominants besides my own Sir, I'm under instructions to be polite (which I would be anyway) and call them "Sir" or "Ma'am" as the case may be, unless Sir tells me otherwise in a specific situation.

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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 7:17:47 PM   
porcelaine


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

Did another Sub/slave who does not belong to you Master call him Master? If so did it bother you? Why or why not?


regardless of the honorific utilized, my position as his slave is clear and has been impressed upon my mind. to derive an emotional reaction from something that does not negate or threaten my status seems futile. what is worse is allowing those feelings of insecurity and possessiveness to breach my mindset and inspire behavior that is not indicative of who i am to him. rather than dwell on such things, i remain secure in the place he provides with continued awareness of what my station entails. words echoed by other parties could never compare to this.

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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 7:45:56 PM   
BeserkBeast


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Status: offline 		In my personal oppinion, the title master is something to be earned by a servant.  It is like saying I have some ownership of him because he has ownership of me.  Some people feel it isn't so much a issue, but it is all based on the individuals at hand.  My previous servants and I have had discussions in this matter, and although they don't mind I tend to.  Your master didn't mind but saw how it had upset you so he corrected the issue.  I wouldn't get to hot and bothered by this because she was probably simply showing it as a means of respect or position.

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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 8:34:08 PM   
slaveluci


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

It doesn't bother me when other subs/slaves call my Sir    "Sir"     -   but then, i call him "my Sir".

When i started doing this he objected because he said i was his, not he mine. But as i explained - if i belong to him, then in a way, he is mine.  Sort of along the lines that you are responsible for the life that you save.


I like that, kiwisub. Actually, the situation was reversed with us. I felt awkward calling Him "my" Master. But, as He explained, I only have one Master and it is Him. Therefore, He is "my" (one and only) Master. It's not that I own or control Him. It's that He does indeed happen to be the one Master that I have. Yep, makes perfect sense

luci

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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 8:44:10 PM   
worthlesstrash


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Status: offline 		I hate it, plain and simple. I am the same if he calls another girl, "slut"..that is my name and a sign of affection.

I really don't like when they call him "Sir", but I let that go much easier than anyone else calling him "Master". He is mine and I am his, let them find their own.


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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 11:39:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would be peeved; what's mine is mine. 
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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 11:46:05 PM   
Sunnyfey


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ORIGINAL: DavanKael

I would be peeved; what's mine is mine. 
Davan


Ditto. Unless shes in my poly family. But even then I'd prefer it if she called him something besides Akri (which is what I call NZ, basically means the same thing as Master someone else ever called him that I'd go off the deep end).


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RE: Call him Master? - 9/24/2009 11:54:28 PM   
Kirata


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One solution that seems to work, in settings where "Master" is used, is to call your Master "Master" and to address the others as "Master [Name]". That seems to me to nicely distinguish between its use as a respectful honorific and its use as a matter of fact.

K.







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RE: Call him Master? - 9/25/2009 3:34:51 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		On the other end of the kneel, as a D type I do not like another sub/slave calling me "Mistress" that title is reserved for my property only. I would much prefer to be called "Ma'am or Madame" by an s type who does not belong to me.

As for my sub he agrees with you, he doesn't like it when other s types call me "Mistress" that is a special priviledge reserved just for him.

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