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RE: ~A Relationship is built on .......~ - 9/30/2009 1:13:49 AM

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I think a relation is not build on....but build by ( people)

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RE: ~A Relationship is built on .......~ - 9/30/2009 4:48:16 AM

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For me, a relationship (the way two or more people relate to each other) is based on the commonality of a goal for that relationship. Relationships can be a bowling team, no love, no sex, but with a common goal for the team, the relationship is great.

I have had so many wonderful relationships with people with whom I have not felt romantic love whatsoever. I have had wonderful relationships with people who I didn't exactly trust in many areas. I've had fabulous relationships with lots of people I would never fuck in a million years. The key element was not even commonality of interests, but the commonality of goals for the relationship itself.

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RE: ~A Relationship is built on .......~ - 9/30/2009 4:56:01 AM

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So what do you think a Relationship is Built on?

Commanality.

Wanting the same goals in life and a willingness to achieve them with the partner that you have chosen; no matter the means.

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RE: ~A Relationship is built on .......~ - 9/30/2009 5:09:03 AM

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I think a relation is not build on....but build by ( people)

D - did you have to come onto the thread with a response so good?

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RE: ~A Relationship is built on .......~ - 9/30/2009 5:21:24 AM

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I will add that a certain amount of willing to just slog your way through helps. If one person can't grit their teeth and keep on during times of stress, then the relationship will not last because it puts too much stress on the partner who will resent him/her being a fair weather person.

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RE: ~A Relationship is built on .......~ - 9/30/2009 5:33:47 AM

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think our relationship is mainly built on a mutual agreement to put up with each other no matter what... leaving is just not an option

Ohh, careful there. That could be delusional. Leaving is always an option. Fifty percent divorce rate, remember?

yes and for them leaving is obviously an option

we just shovel shit until we're in the clear again

i would also like to add that He is my second best type of person... Mr Perfect always turned out to be a faker... after several Mr Perfects i was so lucky to be chosen by a man i can build on eventhough He is most definitely not Mr Perfect... He farted really loud on the first night we spent in my bed... it was clear from the start that a good shit shovel would be needed at some point...

also eventhough acceptance helps... (i accept i have to shovel shit at times) i do not think that all things have to be accepted... i certainly won't accept a lack of sex like i have done ever again and He knows i will kill Him with my shovel before i will look for it elsewhere...
I quite agreed with Des calling it glue...

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RE: ~A Relationship is built on .......~ - 9/30/2009 7:28:11 AM

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I will add that a certain amount of willing to just slog your way through helps. If one person can't grit their teeth and keep on during times of stress, then the relationship will not last because it puts too much stress on the partner who will resent him/her being a fair weather person.

Agreed. Tis what I meant when I said I not only want but need a person who will not just run when the going gets tough but who will hang in there and fight...and wants to. In all honesty, I am long past growing weary of being the one who fights to hang onto something worthwhile in order to prove that I really want it or because since I am the "man" or the "dominant", it is somehow only my job.
Fuck that...

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RE: ~A Relationship is built on .......~ - 9/30/2009 10:49:49 AM

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D - did you have to come onto the thread with a response so good?

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Must be the lack of coffee

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RE: ~A Relationship is built on .......~ - 9/30/2009 10:57:57 AM

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I understand that the concept of happiness, while living your life the way you feel it should be lived, is foreign to you, Prop. But it is not a strange idea or ideal for most other people.
Generally, people strive to find situations and relationships that are favorable for/to them. Although not always true, a great many of us also care about the things which please the people we know. That potentially creates mutual happiness.
As a rule, when two people are happy, content, and glad to have the other in their life, they will stay together. However, as the saying goes; there is always the exception which proves any rule.

obviously you have misunderstood me. happiness is far from a "foreign concept" to me. my statement was simply that i have never had a relationship...whether friendship, casual sex, or romantic...that was based upon happiness. the base is the foundation, what you build upon, and that is the question posed in this thread. happiness is a part of my life and a facet to many of my relationships with others. but it has never been the foundation. to base a relationship upon so fickle and fleeting a thing as happiness is an interesting concept to me, that is all.

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RE: ~A Relationship is built on .......~ - 9/30/2009 11:19:17 AM

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After reading the TPE thread, it became very clear to me that a certain amount of mutual respect is the basis for any long term relationship that does not promise to end in bloodshed.

Unless you're into that.

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RE: ~A Relationship is built on .......~ - 9/30/2009 11:33:47 AM

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is the basis for any long term relationship that does not promise to end in bloodshed.

Unless you're into that.

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh bloodshed........that's hot

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RE: ~A Relationship is built on .......~ - 9/30/2009 12:58:45 PM

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is the basis for any long term relationship that does not promise to end in bloodshed.

Unless you're into that.

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh bloodshed........that's hot

so violent!

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RE: ~A Relationship is built on .......~ - 9/30/2009 3:13:49 PM

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so violent!

Nothing makes me take notice faster than a bit of bloodshed...preferably my own
*sighs in total bliss *

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RE: ~A Relationship is built on .......~ - 9/30/2009 4:01:31 PM

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I will add that a certain amount of willing to just slog your way through helps. If one person can't grit their teeth and keep on during times of stress, then the relationship will not last because it puts too much stress on the partner who will resent him/her being a fair weather person.

I agree! It does at times take rigid jaws to deal with one another! But when you know in your heart the happy is still there somewhere and you will feel it together again, it (hopefully) gets you through!

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RE: ~A Relationship is built on .......~ - 9/30/2009 4:23:24 PM

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obviously you have misunderstood me. happiness is far from a "foreign concept" to me. my statement was simply that i have never had a relationship...whether friendship, casual sex, or romantic...that was based upon happiness.

Perhaps I did, Prop, and my apologies.
But I do base my friendships and relationships on happiness. In the beginning, if the other person isn’t happy with me, or I don’t feel happy to be with them, then there is nothing to build on.
I won’t be friendly to someone who acts as if they would rather not spend time with me, nor will I be willing to start a friendship if I feel the same. And if we initially are happy but that happiness permanently fades, the entire structure of that relationship becomes weakened. I am sure I have made my friends unhappy at times, as they have me, but the fact that most of the time we are pleased to be in each other’s company will keep us friends forever.

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RE: ~A Relationship is built on .......~ - 9/30/2009 4:23:53 PM

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Master's and my relationship is built on trust, friendship, compatibility, mutual goals, respect and love... i am one very lucky sub/slabve

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Master's and my relationship is built on trust, friendship, compatibility, mutual goals, respect and love... i am one very lucky sub/slabve

also on me learning to shut the hell up.

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