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RE: The need - 10/21/2009 2:42:30 PM

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JFWPeVfWB9o

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RE: The need - 10/21/2009 4:59:59 PM

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Wow. Bono used to be so young & pretty . . . . . I mean, he's aged well, but still, wow . . . . . The young ones are so pretty . . . . .

*looks up*

Oops, y'all are talking about stuff . . .. .

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JFWPeVfWB9o

my final answer.

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ETA: Thanks, Ron. That song rocks hard . . . . .

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RE: The need - 10/21/2009 9:24:00 PM

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Yes it does

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RE: The need - 10/22/2009 12:54:10 PM

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If you had a friend who was a masochist and they came to you and said "I just need to play, I need to get pain, I need a scene" or anything along those lines...would you do it? Would it in any way cause a conflict to your friendship?

*This is if you knew them and had maybe played with them in the past or were comfortable playing with them*

I guess I don't get it...if you've played with them in the past or were comfortable playing with them, why would it suddenly cause a conflict to do so...unless there had been some previous discussion or mutual decision that such was a bad idea....in which case, again, there is no question.

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RE: The need - 10/22/2009 5:11:11 PM

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My Sir has a number of friends of the female persuasion that are comfortable coming to him for a plutonic beating -and he does it so well.

For me, as long as it is a beating only, i would be comfortable with male or female friends. After all ,i would let a friend give me a massage - and a beating is a massage taken to extremes.

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RE: The need - 10/23/2009 10:08:55 AM

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I'm not sure if this is where this goes, but here goes.

If you had a friend who was a masochist and they came to you and said "I just need to play, I need to get pain, I need a scene" or anything along those lines...would you do it? Would it in any way cause a conflict to your friendship?

*This is if you knew them and had maybe played with them in the past or were comfortable playing with them*

Maybe... regardless of what they apparently need or want... the question that I would answer first... do I want to play with them? and in making that choice I would accept all the consequences from that choice good or bad!

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RE: The need - 10/28/2009 10:05:21 PM

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this is an interesting question, from both sides. would it come into conflict in your friendship, and also your relationship with a vanilla lover( if it applies). and how many people on here have two lifestyles going on? some dont understand the need a masochist can have to feel some pain. or as a sadist to give it.

my friend pays big money for his visit to the pro-dommes. i have been practicing with the bull ship and getting pretty good. i asked him if he wanted to help me and he refused. he is terminally straight and would rather pay pro-domme fees.

i would allow my slave bruno to get his pain from previous users(not owners), so as bruno could get what was needed when i was not available.

most sadistic people,,, i would think,,,, would likely give it out to anyone that would get a kick out of it, seeing how a pain session has nothing to do with sex. but there are also people(like myself) that may have difficulty going out of their type range.

how it would conflict with a friendship? i suppose it depends on the people. would it bother me? doubt it.

i never understand how come gender specifics always come into play, with s/m and M/s. neither are really about sex, but rather, a different need that sex doesnt fulfill for some.

as a tattoo artist i do actually have a couple friends who come to me and NEED a tattoo. they need to feel that burn.

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RE: The need - 10/30/2009 3:41:50 AM

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If you had a friend who was a masochist and they came to you and said "I just need to play, I need to get pain, I need a scene" or anything along those lines...would you do it? Would it in any way cause a conflict to your friendship?

*This is if you knew them and had maybe played with them in the past or were comfortable playing with them*

I have a young friend who has done exactly that when she has been between Masters and being bitten by her Maso itch. We'd drive each other nuts if We ever tried a sustained relationship, but the friendship works well and an occasional play session simply flows naturally from that friendship.

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RE: The need - 10/30/2009 11:56:26 AM

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most sadistic people,,, i would think,,,, would likely give it out to anyone that would get a kick out of it, seeing how a pain session has nothing to do with sex. but there are also people(like myself) that may have difficulty going out of their type range.

I wouldn't say most. I am a sadist but my sadism is fairly specific. I don't want to play with just anyone that wants to take pain. I want to play with people that enjoy my sort of pain and more importantly can communicate back to me.
I learnt all of my sadism from the communication of good masochists but they are masochists that are on the same wave length as me and they are masochists that I have struck up a good rapport with.
I too have recently had a long term friend approach me about a session. The reason he approached me is he feels the need to be taken to a fearful place and he feels I am the person that could do that. A lot of masochists wouldn't touch me with a bargepole because they have seen my form of sadism and even if they did I would decline those that didn't desire to go on the same journey or who couldn't sit down and intelligently communicate with me.

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RE: The need - 10/30/2009 12:49:15 PM

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A simple pain session among friends? Sure. It is a safe way for a person to release and not let nasty desires cloud their judgement while looking for a permanent partner. It takes the edges off. If I am a close friend, which I imagine I would be to even be asked, then I would be pretty familiar with overall body language and boundaries this person has anyway. I don't think it would adversely effect the relationship. If people can manage to be mature, it shouldn't be a big deal. My only concern would be doing unintentional harm, as I would always be worried about. I should hope a friend such as this can accept my humanity and know my motives. If not, we didn't have the relationship I thought we had.

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