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RE: Am I too shy for this? - 10/31/2009 7:25:23 AM

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In a world where most people are programmed to think that nothing but the typical model type = attractive, it's not incredibly hard to find a model and take some photographs that people will want to look at. Now, if you say you can take everyday people and bring out their beauty in ways that make even them see the beauty, then you're really challenging yourself and doing your part to get people to see different body types in a new light.
I have to admit your comments about not being interested in anyone who won't let themselves be photographed seemed a little insensitive to me at first, but if it's because that's the way you make them see who they are, and show them the beauty that you see in them, well then I misjudged.

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RE: Am I too shy for this? - 10/31/2009 8:21:28 AM

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I know what you mean about shopping. Sometimes on the weekends I wish I had a machete so I could just cut my way through the crowd...
Something I've noticed is that sometimes when someone's need for reassurance or comfort is met nearly all of the time, it feels good, and so wanting to feel good, our need grows and we actually become less assured and less comfortable because it becomes impossible for that person to constantly meet the need.
In a case like that you wind up with more hurt feelings in the long run. I don't know him from a hole in the wall, but from what you describe, it sounds like he has your best interests at heart even when it hurts a little.

Hello,
Yes, he does.
Reading back, i hope i don't sound like i am complaining. It's hard to discern what tone comes across in text.
The truth is, i only rarely seek affection or reassurance, even when i really want it, which is my own issue.

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RE: Am I too shy for this? - 10/31/2009 8:34:54 AM

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but if it's because that's the way you make them see who they are, and show them the beauty that you see in them

Here is a recent one of My girl, she is someone who hated photo's of herself to start with. she still isn't exactly comfortable with having them taken but, given she is My property and doesn't have a choice in it, she is getting used to it.... and even she admits, some of what I produce make her look damn good.

http://img4.imageshack.us/img4/3536/cyberpunksazzy2s.jpg

Personally it is more a case of being able to capture what I see in her, in a manner even she can then appreciate. Just one of the tools I use but she is a far more confident person now than she was when I first took Ownership of her.

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RE: Am I too shy for this? - 10/31/2009 3:40:59 PM

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Very Classy, Raven.

aj- nope... didn't sound like you were complaining. Just explaining. Thank you for that.

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RE: Am I too shy for this? - 10/31/2009 4:00:48 PM

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I love the photo, RM :) You do have an artistic eye!

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RE: Am I too shy for this? - 10/31/2009 5:07:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: PainfullyCurious
but if it's because that's the way you make them see who they are, and show them the beauty that you see in them

Here is a recent one of My girl, she is someone who hated photo's of herself to start with. she still isn't exactly comfortable with having them taken but, given she is My property and doesn't have a choice in it, she is getting used to it.... and even she admits, some of what I produce make her look damn good.

http://img4.imageshack.us/img4/3536/cyberpunksazzy2s.jpg

Personally it is more a case of being able to capture what I see in her, in a manner even she can then appreciate. Just one of the tools I use but she is a far more confident person now than she was when I first took Ownership of her.

That sounds very familiar for what sir has tried doing for me.
Unfortunately I have let it slide and had few pics taken of me recently (as I have got a bit curvier than I like) but I am determined to become happy with myself again and let him take some snaps.

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RE: Am I too shy for this? - 11/1/2009 12:43:10 AM

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RE: Am I too shy for this? - 11/4/2009 5:03:12 PM

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I agree. I do notice in the profiles that it seems to be very easy for people to be plain and honest about what they want and I've always believed that's the only way to make things work. I was really surprised to see so many people who could do that all in one place.
I agree about the pic too. If I get to the point where I am single and I decide I'm ready to meet someone, I will have to find a way to post something. I'm comfortable with the idea of someone seeing a picture eventually. It's hard for profile right now.

The simple answer is "welcome to 31 flavors, with the nuts, sprinkles and toppings we have something that's right for you".
Not every dominant will want or expect everything a certain way, keep looking for the one that's a fit for you. .

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RE: Am I too shy for this? - 11/4/2009 5:07:52 PM

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My pic for example is currently being used in thousands of "Before" ads for plastic surgeons.

That's too funny!

But the point you make is so true. Just today I came across a profile here on CM of a woman in my area and as I was going through her pictures I found one that I know belongs to someone else. The funny thing is I actually knew this other person so I immediately called her. So yes, sometimes even those profiles with photos can be problematic.

Aramis

I've seen that issue. There is a person that posts in the forums with a pic of a friend of mine, thought she'd joined CM only to find out it's someone COMPLETELY DIFFERENT physically in a different state. Talked to my friend who models and was flattered so never made an issue of it but laugh every time I see the pic.

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RE: Am I too shy for this? - 11/5/2009 12:00:37 AM

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i think one who is shy can be involved in the lifestyle. i'm probably as shy as they come lol

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RE: Am I too shy for this? - 11/5/2009 2:10:05 PM

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Hello PainfullyCurious!

I'm new here too and can't wait to get rid of this "Vanilla" icon! Ugh!

Looks like we're both in HR! Sent you a PM here.

I don't think you'll have any problems as long as you're selective about who you get involved with. Find the person who can bring out your full potential. My personal point of view (others differ, of course), is that dominance is not the imposition to the Dom's will on another AS MUCH AS it is the Dominant tapping into the desires of the the Sub and, through control and authority, removing those self-imposed barriers. The Dom should help the sub to reach past shame and guilt to help her reach a new level (sexually and otherwise).

But I'm new here, and even new to this line of thought.... so what the hell do I know? Haha. I'm looking forward to learning from others here and developing myself as a teacher and leader along the way.

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RE: Am I too shy for this? - 11/5/2009 5:26:14 PM

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Thanks. You have nice eye-
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RE: Am I too shy for this? - 11/6/2009 7:33:24 AM

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Hehehe... thanks! I have another just like it! :D

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