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DrkJourney -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 2:51:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth quote: ORIGINAL: DrkJourney quote: ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth quote: ORIGINAL: DrkJourney zeph, you'd better stop worrying about her and give me my dang cookies...lol I gave you the damn cookies it's not my fault that Steven ate them! You watch your tone missy!!!! Your job was to deliver said "damn" cookies to ME...and until said "damn" cookies are delievered.....you are on my list (that should put some fear in ya)....lol Ummm not really lol. You're too nice to put fear in me...your rep preceeds you grins OH COME ON!!! I ain't either nice....I'm mean and evil I tell ya.... (here, have some milk to go with the cookies you're gonna bake, it's good for ya)

angelwithhonor -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 2:53:13 PM)
...you know op in respect of the ppl here with maturity...i know you came here for a answer...maybe you didnt get what you wanted for the most part..the whole real issue here is with the adults here that respect this forum and site with the age they are. sure you are legal now, but you arent getting that bigger pic and you arent either...i had a friend on another site that i befriended cus she really needed a friend..but i didnt know that she was only 15 seriously now...her playing with a Dom who was 33 made me disgusted...she never met Him but man what does a 33 yr old knowing thats her age want her for???....i know you are smart on that answer.....i reported her not wanting to hurt her bc i know that the forums and friends she had is all she had in life..but was that a place for her??? i dont question her submission, but she needed to be at school dances and the pool with boys her age..and formost the site is adult minded, we have these sites for a reason..if we allow this under age to go on then there isnt sites for consenting adults to come here....i havent been 18 long time,but it scares me that you at the age you are is to be up and moving to a another state to be poly...live a little ....hell i still need to grow up, its called learning.....good luck to you...and i hope your safety and be smart....and i cant help to wonder if you dont get pulled off this site,it will be looked in ..i didnt take lightly what i did, but i did it for her and for the site only....kate

DrkJourney -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 2:53:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes Wow, DrkJ, I peeked at your myspace page (well, the public part, anyway, lol) and you're gorgeous!!! [:)] Oh myyyy..........yes. awww LT...thank you...but I've always wanted to steal your movie star looks and you know it.... miss seeing your pic [;)]

agirl -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 2:55:44 PM)
You haven't been talking to them for very long, if you only met them months ago and two of those months you've not spoken to his wife at all, and little to him. I'd actually be more concerned (being a Mummy to children your age) that you may not being taking sensible precautions regarding getting involved with people in this way. I understand why you lied to access the site, and to a degree, I understand people's reaction to that where it comes to damaging the site etc........but I also know that my children have lied about their age when they have been to the pub for a beer and risked getting their bum's hoofed out if they didn't pass for 18, or if they were asked for ID. They have gone to the cinema and seen films underage too. Let's just say that lying about your age wouldn't be much of a big deal to me but the risks you may be taking where other people are concerned and where you, yourself, are concerned would be worrying. A little like a bit too much a bit too soon. It's a pity you don't have some type of Mum-figure to advise or guide you. I'd really hate my children to be negotiating this type of thing alone. agirl

mnottertail -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 2:55:53 PM)
I see her at the top of the forum, and she hasn't said anything lately, so maybe she went out shopping for her costume and just left the thread up. God, I hope she buys a mature adult costume. Ron

HerLord -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 2:59:16 PM)
Maybe no one has said anything to inspire more offensive, self serving, immaturity from her

DrkJourney -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 3:01:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail I see her at the top of the forum, and she hasn't said anything lately, so maybe she went out shopping for her costume and just left the thread up. God, I hope she buys a mature adult costume. Ron hey as long as it's not that "kate plus eight" wig or anything to do with the octomom or balloon boy and I'd say she is ahead of the game....lol

LaTigresse -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 3:01:47 PM)
Like this? http://www.halloweenmart.com/adult-costumes/Comical-Costumes/whoopie-cushion

windchymes -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 3:01:49 PM)
I'm wearing my bestest reading glasses, sweetie, no squinting here! [;)] Hope you feel better soon!

HerLord -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 3:04:33 PM)
LT... I don't need a costume to be a fart in a bag....

DrkJourney -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 3:10:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse Like this? http://www.halloweenmart.com/adult-costumes/Comical-Costumes/whoopie-cushion Don't show that to Ron...that's just all he needs is another idea to get women to sit on his face...lol

DrkJourney -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 3:11:27 PM)
Thank you windchymes! Gonna crawl back to work on the morrow...lol

ishyB -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 3:33:23 PM)
~FR~ Who here has never lied before? Did nobody here ever did stupid things as a kid? Did nobody here ever had a beer before there were old enough to drink? Did nobody here ever went to a bar before they were 21? Did nobody here ever drove a car when they had a couple beers? Did nobody here ever tried cigarettes before they were 21? Did nobody here ever tried drugs, or smoked pot? Did nobody here ever try to drive a car, on a dirt road, before they had a license? Did nobody here ever had sex before they reached the age of consent? Did nobody here ever saw a movie that they were to young to watch? Really, I feel like a terrible terrible person now, because I did at least some of the stuff on that list... As to "endangering" this site and everybody on it... It seems to me that publicly making this big of a circus about the whole issue is doing more to endanger the site than anything the OP ever did. She never went to flaunt the fact that she was underage before she was pressed publicly for an answer on it. If the real, serious, concern was that she might have been underage, it seems to me that, in the name of the safety of the site, such a matter should have been handled privately by those concerned about it... perhaps followed by reporting the issue to the CM administration. Further, as to endangering men and being "jailbait." There are many places within the US and the rest of the world where the age of sexual consent is not the same as the age upon one reaches maturity. In many countries and States, the age of consent is 17, or even as low as 16 (Alabama, Alaska, Arkansas, Connecticut, District of Columbia, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, North Carolina, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Vermont, Washington, West Virginia for example, or in the whole of Canada.) Also, in many places, if the adult engaging in sexual relations with a person under the age of consent has reasonable grounds to belief that said minor was old enough to consent (reasonable grounds being things like the minor looking older than they are, and them lying about their age) then the adult will not face criminal charges. Perhaps some people here are dramatising the whole issue a bit? That is not to say that I don't think the OP made a mistake, she did... only, I feel most of us out there might have made some mistakes growing up, right? So maybe, just maybe, she isn't the worst person on the planet after all... I wish you all well, ishy

Viridana -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 3:38:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ishyB ~FR~ Who here has never lied before? Did nobody here ever did stupid things as a kid? Did nobody here ever had a beer before there were old enough to drink? Did nobody here ever went to a bar before they were 21? Did nobody here ever drove a car when they had a couple beers? Did nobody here ever tried cigarettes before they were 21? Did nobody here ever tried drugs, or smoked pot? Did nobody here ever try to drive a car, on a dirt road, before they had a license? Did nobody here ever had sex before they reached the age of consent? Did nobody here ever saw a movie that they were to young to watch? Really, I feel like a terrible terrible person now, because I did at least some of the stuff on that list... As to "endangering" this site and everybody on it... It seems to me that publicly making this big of a circus about the whole issue is doing more to endanger the site than anything the OP ever did. She never went to flaunt the fact that she was underage before she was pressed publicly for an answer on it. If the real, serious, concern was that she might have been underage, it seems to me that, in the name of the safety of the site, such a matter should have been handled privately by those concerned about it... perhaps followed by reporting the issue to the CM administration. Further, as to endangering men and being "jailbait." There are many places within the US and the rest of the world where the age of sexual consent is not the same as the age upon one reaches maturity. In many countries and States, the age of consent is 17, or even as low as 16 (Alabama, Alaska, Arkansas, Connecticut, District of Columbia, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, North Carolina, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Vermont, Washington, West Virginia for example, or in the whole of Canada.) Also, in many places, if the adult engaging in sexual relations with a person under the age of consent has reasonable grounds to belief that said minor was old enough to consent (reasonable grounds being things like the minor looking older than they are, and them lying about their age) then the adult will not face criminal charges. Perhaps some people here are dramatising the whole issue a bit? That is not to say that I don't think the OP made a mistake, she did... only, I feel most of us out there might have made some mistakes growing up, right? So maybe, just maybe, she isn't the worst person on the planet after all... I wish you all well, ishy [sm=yourock.gif] Excellent posting in every way.

Icarys -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 3:46:44 PM)
"I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along?" This post my be a good example of it.

HerLord -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 3:47:20 PM)
many places have a different age of consent. Agreed. Absolutely correct. But... the facts are the facts. She lied. She "JAILBATED" herself willingly and knowingly to those who use this site conditionally that it be fucking MINOR GODDAM FREE! So how about instead of... oh she's not the worst person in the world... crap. we... as conditional users of this ADULT fucking site, we admonish and repeal her admission to this site on the basis that she VIOLATED a contract she electronically signed to be a member here... THAT SHE WAS LEGAL! No poor her, she had the big mean wolves of the really real internet call her a LIAR, (names) and berate for her lack of give a fuck about anything but her wants... So.. the whole issue of it's legal some fucking where else has ZERO fucking bearing on it being CONTRACTUALLY ILLEGAL here! I am sorry that you think that only the public Gasey's should be arrested. I am also sorry that she feels no ill will about the danger you seem to be minimizing she put herself in, and the THREAT she posed to this site and in particular this sites members by POSING as and adult and potentially intentionally getting some one arrested. By her own admissions she was TRYING to score with some one from this site as a minor... how can you possibly be so... can't find a word insulting enough, to think that there is a world where that is ok?

RCdc -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 4:00:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HerLord By her own admissions she was TRYING to score with some one from this site as a minor... how can you possibly be so... can't find a word insulting enough, to think that there is a world where that is ok? And to think that there is a world where people think it is ok to try and find an insulting word. the.dark. (.whohasbeenreadingthiscarcrashofathreadandwonderingwhoexactlyis'matureandgrownup'again.)

Lockit -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 4:13:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ishyB ~FR~ Who here has never lied before? Did nobody here ever did stupid things as a kid? Did nobody here ever had a beer before there were old enough to drink? Did nobody here ever went to a bar before they were 21? Did nobody here ever drove a car when they had a couple beers? Did nobody here ever tried cigarettes before they were 21? Did nobody here ever tried drugs, or smoked pot? Did nobody here ever try to drive a car, on a dirt road, before they had a license? Did nobody here ever had sex before they reached the age of consent? Did nobody here ever saw a movie that they were to young to watch? Really, I feel like a terrible terrible person now, because I did at least some of the stuff on that list... As to "endangering" this site and everybody on it... It seems to me that publicly making this big of a circus about the whole issue is doing more to endanger the site than anything the OP ever did. This is untrue. We did not break a law or tos and the thread is still as it was, so if there is something we have done to threaten this site, you can bet they will remove it and correct us. She never went to flaunt the fact that she was underage before she was pressed publicly for an answer on it. If the real, serious, concern was that she might have been underage, it seems to me that, in the name of the safety of the site, such a matter should have been handled privately by those concerned about it... perhaps followed by reporting the issue to the CM administration. That might have been how you handled it, but not required. Further, as to endangering men and being "jailbait." There are many places within the US and the rest of the world where the age of sexual consent is not the same as the age upon one reaches maturity. In many countries and States, the age of consent is 17, or even as low as 16 (Alabama, Alaska, Arkansas, Connecticut, District of Columbia, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, North Carolina, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Vermont, Washington, West Virginia for example, or in the whole of Canada.) Also, in many places, if the adult engaging in sexual relations with a person under the age of consent has reasonable grounds to belief that said minor was old enough to consent (reasonable grounds being things like the minor looking older than they are, and them lying about their age) then the adult will not face criminal charges. Perhaps some people here are dramatising the whole issue a bit? The age of concent of a minor may be with another miner, I do not know, but could be different with an adult. You need to consider that this is online. It would depend on where the site was and crossing what state or national lines or borders and maybe even the use of a messenger service and where they are based in, etc. If an adult male has sex with a person under eighteen and was lied to, that might be all well and fine in the right situation, but right situations can go wrong and have and men have done time for it. They should not be put in that postition. Period. It is wrong and besides that, it can give real victims (both sides of this) a harder time of things in being believed. As for dramatising it all... I guess you have never been to court on some of these cases or knew anyone falsely accused becasue of a silly girl wanting what she wanted and not wanting to get caught being a bad girl. That is not to say that I don't think the OP made a mistake, she did... only, I feel most of us out there might have made some mistakes growing up, right? Even if the mistake is overlooked, her attitude about it being no big deal was an important factor in what people said and how they repsonded. To make light of it all wasn't productive and only caused many to determine she was being foolish about a serious subject that could have brought this site down. So sorry if we don't take that lightly. As for none of us ever doing anything wrong, you know that isn't the case, but when you narrow it down to... inticing an adult at a bdsm site by lying about our age and getting naked on cam with him and putting him and the site at risk... THAT is far different and not so many of us have done things that risked the rest of someone else's life. Stupid is stupid... but... you can't tell me a person even at the age of seventeen, past the age of knowing it all, that they don't know messing with adults will get them into trouble and just what kind of trouble that is. When we did things wrong... we knew we were wrong and what we were doing. It is one thing to make mistakes that can cost you, another thing that can cost someone else. When did we stop holding teens accountable and not teach them to think or pay a price? So maybe, just maybe, she isn't the worst person on the planet after all... I wish you all well, ishy

HerLord -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 4:36:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark quote: ORIGINAL: HerLord By her own admissions she was TRYING to score with some one from this site as a minor... how can you possibly be so... can't find a word insulting enough, to think that there is a world where that is ok? And to think that there is a world where people think it is ok to try and find an insulting word. the.dark. (.whohasbeenreadingthiscarcrashofathreadandwonderingwhoexactlyis'matureandgrownup'again.) It aint me... not growed up at all.Shame to have offended the likes of the Dark. My apologies to thee, but, hey, when dealing with children...

HerLord -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/27/2009 4:43:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit When did we stop holding teens accountable and not teach them to think or pay a price? Not sure... but me thinks it has some thing to do with the decline of civilization. No accountability taught, none taken.

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