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HerLord -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 12:10:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CougarStud Cali & DrkJourney, I am only talking to the abusers, not those that offered insight. Lockit, I have been using public message boards for many years and never encountered so much hostility as I have here. Sure most every board has a resident asshole or 2 but this thread is just an example of peoples power trips. Not untill they had beaten some into submission, do they finally start act caring and open. sheeeesh, talk about childish games or mallcop mentality! What you are saying is that if we post a personal question, we are fairgame to verbal abuse? Some community. Yeah Cali, and drkjourney... Quit stealing my glory... He's talking about me. Maybe some one else... but definitely me.

RedMagic1 -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 12:12:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HerLord There are just too few individuals here I want to read from. And I piss most of them off any way. I think you overestimate your effect on others. This is the internet. You (and lots of other people) talk big when they know they'll never have to meet other posters in real life. I doubt you'd even talk to the OP in real life the way you are typing at her right now. You're full of keyboard courage, but I can't help thinking that you sound upset about something that has nothing to do with this thread, or this site. You're looking for an audience to complain to, and a cause you can be self-righteous about. You didn't used to post this way. Your posts a year ago were full of love for your wife, and happiness about your life. Something happened, and you are now spitting venom, and making no logical sense. I don't know what changed you, but it's sad to see.

Lockit -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 12:13:26 PM)
No I am not saying that. I am saying that when you put things in a public forum, it is a public forum and some will respond in different ways. I am saying that when you ask a question and then there is a bit more to the question that people are able to put together or see and there is a problem that means it is more than a question and gets into area's where people have strong opinions and reactions, you will get them. Fair game? I don't know... I don't make the rules... but I sure as hell don't ask personal questions in a public forum, leaving myself open if I am doing something unlawful or really stupid. Sometimes our history here on the boards is known... sometimes we do stupid or we play games and people see it. It all will come out at some point. If I am going to act stupid in my personal life and go public about it, I expect to get slam dunked by someone. lol

RCdc -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 12:16:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HerLord I do miss the days of Sailing Bum and DomiGuy. Dark. I like ya. I like what you got to say. I know I am an ass hole. I know I crossed wires with ya and ya don't like me, I can live with that. It sucks but I'll get over it. My apologies either way. You have your way, I have mine. SB is still around, he is still posting. HerLord, I don't find you an asshole. And I don't dislike you. Just because we may disagree does not mean I have either of those opinions. So please don't try and second guess me. What you might think, isn't what is necessarily true. If I thought either of these things, I would tell you directly. And as for the apology, as I have said, I neither deserve nor wish it. Save the whole apology thang for the priest.[;)] the.dark.

DrkJourney -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 12:16:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HerLord quote: ORIGINAL: CougarStud Cali & DrkJourney, I am only talking to the abusers, not those that offered insight. Lockit, I have been using public message boards for many years and never encountered so much hostility as I have here. Sure most every board has a resident asshole or 2 but this thread is just an example of peoples power trips. Not untill they had beaten some into submission, do they finally start act caring and open. sheeeesh, talk about childish games or mallcop mentality! What you are saying is that if we post a personal question, we are fairgame to verbal abuse? Some community. Yeah Cali, and drkjourney... Quit stealing my glory... He's talking about me. Maybe some one else... but definitely me. lol...you are pitiful...it's all yours darlin'

HerLord -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 12:23:07 PM)
Yeah... You right.. _____ aint gonna hear what they aint listening for. ( the blank is for well you fill it in.) I did not START this way. I started being nice giving the same advice being given now. She didn't wanna hear it. then when lying and endangering this site was exposed, ONLY then did I get nasty. Don't make it right, but what can I do It's done now. I'm over eighteen now. It is a bitch when those you offer real advice to don't listen. Notice however, that after being blasted, by more than just me, her tone about it changed. And THEN some of you were able to communicate to her what a silly stupid immature DANGEROUS thing she did. So... to those who doubt my methods... the effect while not mine alone is... she sees it. she confesses it. and mouths that she gets it. I don't know if she does. I can never trust a word she says. Some one willing to put that many people at risk for their own selfish cunt behavior, can NEVER re earn my trust. Yeah... You're right, I would make a HORRIBLE daddy. Good thing thing I'm a dom, not daddy. No I would never treat My Love like this. My Love would also NEVER risk the freedom of over 100,000 folks. My Love isn't that selfish. She is also LEGAL. So sorry bout... nothing. fuck me running for giving a shit about my safety My Love's safety, and the safety of EVERY ONE ON THIS SITE, from the likes of those who HAVE not just would jeopardize the entire community here.

HerLord -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 12:44:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: HerLord There are just too few individuals here I want to read from. And I piss most of them off any way. I think you overestimate your effect on others. This is the internet. You (and lots of other people) talk big when they know they'll never have to meet other posters in real life. I doubt you'd even talk to the OP in real life the way you are typing at her right now. You're full of keyboard courage, but I can't help thinking that you sound upset about something that has nothing to do with this thread, or this site. You're looking for an audience to complain to, and a cause you can be self-righteous about. You didn't used to post this way. Your posts a year ago were full of love for your wife, and happiness about your life. Something happened, and you are now spitting venom, and making no logical sense. I don't know what changed you, but it's sad to see. You don't know me well, I promise you I was just as vicious then as I am now. I still speak in tones of love for,about and to My Love, But go back and look up my tyrates. I am sure 11 can help you find them, being as she cut me out of so many.

agirl -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 12:45:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HerLord Yeah... You right.. _____ aint gonna hear what they aint listening for. ( the blank is for well you fill it in.) I did not START this way. I started being nice giving the same advice being given now. She didn't wanna hear it. then when lying and endangering this site was exposed, ONLY then did I get nasty. Don't make it right, but what can I do It's done now. I'm over eighteen now. It is a bitch when those you offer real advice to don't listen. Notice however, that after being blasted, by more than just me, her tone about it changed. And THEN some of you were able to communicate to her what a silly stupid immature DANGEROUS thing she did. So... to those who doubt my methods... the effect while not mine alone is... she sees it. she confesses it. and mouths that she gets it. I don't know if she does. I can never trust a word she says. Some one willing to put that many people at risk for their own selfish cunt behavior, can NEVER re earn my trust. Yeah... You're right, I would make a HORRIBLE daddy. Good thing thing I'm a dom, not daddy. No I would never treat My Love like this. My Love would also NEVER risk the freedom of over 100,000 folks. My Love isn't that selfish. She is also LEGAL. So sorry bout... nothing. fuck me running for giving a shit about my safety My Love's safety, and the safety of EVERY ONE ON THIS SITE, from the likes of those who HAVE not just would jeopardize the entire community here. I'm not sure she ever mentioned wanting your trust ..or caring about it. But all the same.....you're talking to yourself and inventing conversation that hasn't taken place...... I didn't mention what kind of daddy/dom you were/are or would/could be. You just look as if you're jumping up and down over something the site owners have managed and sorted sans drama. agirl

starshineowned -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 12:47:13 PM)
quote: 5.1.2. We specifically disclaim any responsibility or liability for any misrepresentations regarding a User's age. quote: BTW) by my signature of being eighteen here, I am informed that any content on this site is the responsibility of this site to moderate that it also be legal, so, if I were to receive any legal charges on me for any thing obtained that is illegal in regard to the violation of their admissions policy, it is deferred to site owners and MY LEGAL stance are covered, because, I signed a legal contract with a site who professes to not allow illegal (minor) pornography. Just curious but doesn't the first quote you posted somewhat relegate the second post HerLord Sir? To the OP...yep you screwed up, you know it. It was intentional and I believe you were informed enough to have enough forethought of the what could happen implications as a result of your actions. Hopefully lil..the berating and airing this out will be a good stepping stone for your future persuits. Do take it serious and to heart but as some have eluded to here..age doesn't always equate to maturity. Usually life experiences and the ability to accept and learn from wrong choices yields that. I fully understand your interest and somewhat sense of urgency. I see it my own son who's almost 22. It is as if everything that was told to him went in one ear and out the other when it came to taking your time..be young and don't push or rush. Infact..I haven't met a teen or ever knew of any when I was that age range, to include myself that didn't feel the "gimme now" attitude..lol. It is sometimes ironic that in one sense adults tell you to wait..don't rush..take your time when it comes to garnering life experiences that interest you..yet on the other hand tell you that your not or incapable of being mature enough because you've not experienced life enough yet. It will come. Do try and do yourself a favor, and open your avenues to other possible interests first. Take that pause, and all the precautions you can think of before embarking on one of these life experiences. I wish you luck starshine

HerLord -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 1:13:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: agirl I'm not sure she ever mentioned wanting your trust ..or caring about it. But all the same.....you're talking to yourself and inventing conversation that hasn't taken place...... I didn't mention what kind of daddy/dom you were/are or would/could be. agirl I was making an observation to that of my not doing things the way whomever was portraying they parent theirs. Laughable but obvious. quote: quote: 5.1.2. We specifically disclaim any responsibility or liability for any misrepresentations regarding a User's age. quote: BTW) by my signature of being eighteen here, I am informed that any content on this site is the responsibility of this site to moderate that it also be legal, so, if I were to receive any legal charges on me for any thing obtained that is illegal in regard to the violation of their admissions policy, it is deferred to site owners and MY LEGAL stance are covered, because, I signed a legal contract with a site who professes to not allow illegal (minor) pornography. Just curious but doesn't the first quote you posted somewhat relegate the second post HerLord Sir? that still relieves my responsibility. but any way... I think I'm Gone.

Acer49 -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 1:24:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss Ok, well first.. I met this dominant couple on here months ago. We get along over the phone great. I was always asked when I could come out this last summer... I was working a lot though and the trust wasn't quite there so of course we decided to wait. They ended up doing this project on a house of their dreams and it turned into a huge ordeal where they have build the house on the property up before they can tear it down.. I don't really know how to explain it, lol. But, he's been taking.... I'd say at least two months on this house. We use to talk a lot.. but now it's dwindled down to where we barely talk. Today is the last day before the appraiser? comes so he said it'd be more back to normal after today. We will talk a lot more. So if that doesn't happen..should I just say bye at this point? (continue reading to answer that question please) One of the times through this whole thing I talked to him on the phone and he seemed way stressed, but he was still really nice to me..but i could tell he was dealing with a lot. I mean, but It's been 2 MONTHS NOW. I talked to him on the phone a couple of days ago and he mentioned the plane ticket and getting me out there, he promised we will be talking a lot more before that happens (but it's kind of hard to believe that right now). I mean, he seems soo genuine and sincere. I usually can tell right away if someone isn't and my gut is usually right..only problem is..i have no idea what my 'gut' feeling is at this point..no idea. His wife who I really adore... i guess is always up at the house and doesn't get reception so I haven't talked to her since this whole thing has happened...not at all...which is a little weird to me... I have no idea what to think or do at this point. Am I just being silly? Is it really just the fact I can't be a priority right now because the house is a huge deal (i mean ..it's a matter of having a place to live for them..)...am i being unreasonable and impatient? He says i have nothing to worry about..their feelings for me haven't changed at all it's just the situation..but i don't flipping know. I have attachment issues and with people I haven't met face to face I seem to have this huge problem with thinking they are going to ditch me and it really bothers me with people i really care about. Well if he is promising things will be better in a day or so. you've waited this long, whats a few more days to see if what he says pans out? Maybe you should talk to the wife and see if you can get a read on what her feelings are

subtlebutterfly -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 1:26:13 PM)
wow..16 pages..amazing

agirl -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 1:28:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HerLord quote: ORIGINAL: agirl I'm not sure she ever mentioned wanting your trust ..or caring about it. But all the same.....you're talking to yourself and inventing conversation that hasn't taken place...... I didn't mention what kind of daddy/dom you were/are or would/could be. agirl I was making an observation to that of my not doing things the way whomever was portraying they parent theirs. Laughable but obvious. quote: quote: 5.1.2. We specifically disclaim any responsibility or liability for any misrepresentations regarding a User's age. quote: BTW) by my signature of being eighteen here, I am informed that any content on this site is the responsibility of this site to moderate that it also be legal, so, if I were to receive any legal charges on me for any thing obtained that is illegal in regard to the violation of their admissions policy, it is deferred to site owners and MY LEGAL stance are covered, because, I signed a legal contract with a site who professes to not allow illegal (minor) pornography. Just curious but doesn't the first quote you posted somewhat relegate the second post HerLord Sir? that still relieves my responsibility. but any way... I think I'm Gone. Fair enough. Your approach is your own obviously. I have a lot of young people flooding through my home and am used to all sorts of ups and downs, woes and mistakes. None was ever made any brighter, better or more constructive by aggressively bemoaning their stupidity at any given time. Mention it , look at it, talk about it....face it and move right on to possible solutions and better times, leaving them with some sense of not being a total wanker.. for ever. agirl

Wolf2Bear -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 1:39:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HerLord Yeah... You right.. _____ aint gonna hear what they aint listening for. ( the blank is for well you fill it in.) I did not START this way. I started being nice giving the same advice being given now. She didn't wanna hear it. then when lying and endangering this site was exposed, ONLY then did I get nasty. Don't make it right, but what can I do It's done now. I'm over eighteen now. It is a bitch when those you offer real advice to don't listen. Notice however, that after being blasted, by more than just me, her tone about it changed. And THEN some of you were able to communicate to her what a silly stupid immature DANGEROUS thing she did. So... to those who doubt my methods... the effect while not mine alone is... she sees it. she confesses it. and mouths that she gets it. I don't know if she does. I can never trust a word she says. Some one willing to put that many people at risk for their own selfish cunt behavior, can NEVER re earn my trust. Yeah... You're right, I would make a HORRIBLE daddy. Good thing thing I'm a dom, not daddy. No I would never treat My Love like this. My Love would also NEVER risk the freedom of over 100,000 folks. My Love isn't that selfish. She is also LEGAL. So sorry bout... nothing. fuck me running for giving a shit about my safety My Love's safety, and the safety of EVERY ONE ON THIS SITE, from the likes of those who HAVE not just would jeopardize the entire community here. Just to point out...handing out advice to others always carries a risk of them ignoring what you have to say.....that is life and no biggie and sure the hell ain't getting my knickers in a knot over. As an FYI, my own safety in life and on the internet is solely MY responsibility...not yours nor is it any one else's.

LadyPact -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 2:05:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CougarStud Cali & DrkJourney, I am only talking to the abusers, not those that offered insight. Lockit, I have been using public message boards for many years and never encountered so much hostility as I have here. Sure most every board has a resident asshole or 2 but this thread is just an example of peoples power trips. Not untill they had beaten some into submission, do they finally start act caring and open. sheeeesh, talk about childish games or mallcop mentality! What you are saying is that if we post a personal question, we are fairgame to verbal abuse? Some community. The site promotes itself as the largest BDSM community on the planet. All well and good. If it's going to be looked at that way, you also have to think of it as how you would any other type of community. Any time a random group of folks with one particular interest (in this case kink) are drawn together, that doesn't mean that they are all particularly going to like each other. There's going to be a whole range of character types, etc. Just because I'm part of said 'community' by posting here, doesn't immediately lead to the assumption that I like everyone here, would trust them to be in My home, or that I care about every one of them,. There's a good number of them that I do, but it's certainly not all. Which, I'm led to think is all right, since the same works in reverse.

Moonhead -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 2:42:44 PM)
You don't know: in my experience if you knew that you were being strung along, they couldn't string you along in the first place, could they?

lilmisssubmiss -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 9:02:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DrkJourney quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick quote: ORIGINAL: CougarStud Good to see people here actually offering advise to this girl now. We offered her advice a year ago. And in fact, the very first reply to this thread offered advice. Cali I also offered her advice, from my very first post. Didn't you see it? or are you one of those that can only concentrate on the flame? I will never understand this. I get so tired of people bitching and moaning about wanting advice, and those that actually give it are ignored. People seem to want to seek out the posts they consider rude and mean, and those are the posts that are focused on. Then not only are we ignored, we get generalized with everyone that supposedly "picked on" whoever the op is at the time. Thought we were supposed to be helping the OP, not jumping on each other. Healthy discussion is one thing, but this name calling, etc is not helping anyone Wondering what the point of giving advice is if no one sees it. (this op, however, finally did start acknowledging the advice as well as the others, so I give her credit for that, more than others have shown) Personally, I have seen some changes in her since this thread started...so at least she is "trying" and listening. Although worried about her choice, I wish her all the luck in the world you did offer me advice...and i appreciated it...from what i can remember:/

Hierodule -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/28/2009 9:41:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CougarStud I have been using public message boards for many years and never encountered so much hostility as I have here. Really? I have been on a lot of message boards too. All the boards on topics that people are passionate about (esp music) seem to be filled with flame wars and faceless internet put downs (you liek that band!!!? U R soooooo giegh!!!????!!!11!). This board is actually one of the most welcoming that I have ever read. Believe it or not.

LaTigresse -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/29/2009 4:03:29 AM)
No shit. I remember wayyyyyyyyyyyyyy back when, I used to go into chat rooms on AFF. Oh good god. It was as bad as middle school. "OMG, can you believe that colour font she is wearing?!?! That was SOO last season!"

AnimusRex -> RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just stringing you along? (10/29/2009 9:41:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hierodule This board is actually one of the most welcoming that I have ever read. Believe it or not. U R soooooo giegh...

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