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GYPSYMAMBO -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 9:45:54 AM)
OP: I get "Are you into younger guys?"..similar..and to do with age.. I think.."if that is what you base this on..older woman..younger guy" ..I know WHERE you are right away and what you are about.. 1 thing.. I answer.."I am into honest guys" However at times it has been to check if the age is an issue.. With "into older guys?" it may be to check the daddy-protector dynamic GM

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 9:56:52 AM)
I don't mind this question, and it's a valid question I feel, unless you state an age limit in your profile, When someone is like well if you like olderp eople you should like me why don't you, I'd think they awere immature, and pushy, and I'd tell them look it's not your age it's YOU PERSONALLY, I'm not attracted to. Yes I am sure older women ask younger men do you like older women. quote: ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy What is your take on the age question? Why do men insist on asking this question? Do women ask this question of younger men/women?

leadership527 -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 10:12:17 AM)
I would ask this question for obvious reasons. Let's see. If I was interested in you and I was 45 and you were 23, then I'd ask the question to find out if you were willing to consider me as a partner. Good god you have considered every possible motive to this question but the obvious one. Trust me, the world isn't that complex.

lilmisssubmiss -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 10:12:58 AM)
I think there are a lot of men...who are older and are still okay looking. i'd rather have older.. frankly..i don't trust many people around my age to be truly dominant... lol. an older person usually has experience.. doesn't just want sex...seems to really understand the depths of this kind of relationship.

porcelaine -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 11:19:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss frankly..i don't trust many people around my age to be truly dominant... lol. an older person usually has experience.. doesn't just want sex...seems to really understand the depths of this kind of relationship. lilmiss, i beg to differ. just because an individual is older doesn't imply he's been involved in the lifestyle any longer than a younger counterpart. people enter this at different stages of life based on interest, awareness, exposure, etc. however, your comments seem to reflect the mindset of older gentlemen i've encountered that wish to convey the same thing. experience and maturity go hand in hand. but i don't assume that both are readily available when conversing with older persons. i find it is usually ymmv with most. porcelaine

Surrenderwithin -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 11:31:21 AM)
when I was younger I always thought i would grow up to marry an older man. All through high school I dated much older guys, finding I had more in common with them than those my own age. In my early twenties I met Master and shockingly he was only a few months my elder. We have been together now for ten years ( in Dec). I am attracted to older men that are confidant, mature, and distinguisged. I lucked out having met Master. He has all of those qualities and more... and I will not likely out live him. That is a plus in my book! Maggi

antipode -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 11:37:31 AM)
quote: I don't set such arbitrary limits These limits aren't arbitrary - they're simply the person's personal preference. Stating someone's preference is arbitrary is disrespectful. People have reasons for their choices, and those reasons are always valid for them. They're not "right" or "wrong" or "arbitrary", they are theirs.

antipode -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 11:40:10 AM)
quote: doesn't imply he's been involved in the lifestyle any longer than a younger counterpart It does. Younger counterparts can't have been involved longer, they've not been around longer. I think she is simply stating that she is more likely to find experience among those who've been around the block a couple times. Statistics, like...

SomethingCatchy -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 12:08:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: leadership527 I would ask this question for obvious reasons. Let's see. If I was interested in you and I was 45 and you were 23, then I'd ask the question to find out if you were willing to consider me as a partner. Good god you have considered every possible motive to this question but the obvious one. Trust me, the world isn't that complex. Well besides the fact that our orientations just wouldn't mesh well, I think I'd be flattered if you were wondering about my interest in you. You're a likable guy!

Hierodule -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 12:29:42 PM)
Its worded like a sleezey pick-up line, so i understand your annoyance. But in all honestly some women are "into" older men. So its a fair question. Its a way of asking "do you find me attractive?" That is a more direct question, it might be too direct (esp if you just met or just started corresponding) and takes a little more confidence to ask. I'm not "into" older men. I am with an older man. He didn't ask me if i was into older men when I met him. He did ask me if I was attracted to him.It was one of the first things he asked me. It did surprise me but I answered honestly. I said "yes" becasue I was.

porcelaine -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 1:23:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: antipode quote: doesn't imply he's been involved in the lifestyle any longer than a younger counterpart It does. Younger counterparts can't have been involved longer, they've not been around longer. I think she is simply stating that she is more likely to find experience among those who've been around the block a couple times. Statistics, like... Antipode, i'm sorry, but i disagree. just because he's older doesn't mean he's been involved in the lifestyle all his adult years. as for experience, that's a misnomer. simply because someone has spent time doing something doesn't imply they're adept or have mastered their craft. slackers exist in all age ranges. porcelaine

looking4princess -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 1:24:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: looking4princess quote: ORIGINAL: Wolf2Bear I wouldn't get upset, chances are the quoted posters was being humorous. If so, I missed the context and I withdraw my concern, but I am not convinced as I see it continues. Most of the people on here are friends and are verbally jabbing one another in jest. Do not assume the worst for crying out loud. Or I will call you an old fuddy duddy! Well you scared me with that one LT. Old fuddy duddy is pretty terrifying ~~smiles~~ I realize people on here are pretty friendly and like to poke fun at each other. Their intent is usually benign. And as an old fuddy duddy I feel pretty comfortable on these boards. I like the folks. But i perceive a wee bit of an issue. So, just let me think out loud here in a friendly sort of way, okay? What other minority groups can we subject to body odor humour? All in the name of good fun of course. Hmmmm, let me think, how about.....Ah, nevermind. Guess I am being too darn sensitive. Sorry about that. [sm=banghead.gif]

IronBear -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 2:40:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: antipode quote: doesn't imply he's been involved in the lifestyle any longer than a younger counterpart It does. Younger counterparts can't have been involved longer, they've not been around longer. I think she is simply stating that she is more likely to find experience among those who've been around the block a couple times. Statistics, like... Bloody hell mate, you ought to know know better. Tell me do you know any top fighter pilots who are amongst us old farts and still flying F18 Hornets? at 30 they are pretty much moving on as reflexes are not as good. I know plenty of young bucks who have had the maturity and life experience to hold down executive promotions in the military giving them control of many lives under them and millions of dollars worth of machinery. Age and even life experience do not equate. Time alive does not give life experience it is how you spend the time which gives you quality life experience.

ghitaPVH -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 2:48:33 PM)
Define "older"...older than say...me? Well..that would be anyone 30 or older..am I "into" them? As in, do I find them sexually attractive? Depends on the person...my matial arts instructor is 61 and trust me if I ever got the chance I wouldnt even TRY to fight back if he ever wanted to slam me to the closest wall, or floor...or bed.......hehe.... on the other hand..Ive met some pretty awful looking 40 year olds who look like they havent taken care of themselves in 20 years. My Sir is 18 years older than me. I was born the year he graduated high school. As for being "into"...well..he's "into" me quite often........Im quite attracted to him. I have no issues playing with someone older than me..it isnt the age that attracts me...but I will say....as a switch...I have a hard time Topping someone who is older...I tend to choose men older than me to sub to, and men my age or younger to Top...not sure why, just a personal preference....

willbeurdaddy -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 2:49:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy I keep getting that question. My question is, why should it matter? If I don't find you attractive, that has nothing to do with your age and everything to do with your physical looks and a personality I don't mesh with. When a man asks me this question when he's old enough to be my father, I wonder if he's trying to put pressure or expectations on me. "You said you didn't care about age, so why don't you like ME?!" What is your take on the age question? Why do men insist on asking this question? Do gay men ask this question of younger men? Do women ask this question of younger men/women? Maybe they just dont want to waste your time or theirs? There are people where attraction does have something to do with age. If you want to stop the question, answer it in advance in your profile.

lilmisssubmiss -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 3:08:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: porcelaine quote: ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss frankly..i don't trust many people around my age to be truly dominant... lol. an older person usually has experience.. doesn't just want sex...seems to really understand the depths of this kind of relationship. lilmiss, i beg to differ. just because an individual is older doesn't imply he's been involved in the lifestyle any longer than a younger counterpart. people enter this at different stages of life based on interest, awareness, exposure, etc. however, your comments seem to reflect the mindset of older gentlemen i've encountered that wish to convey the same thing. experience and maturity go hand in hand. but i don't assume that both are readily available when conversing with older persons. i find it is usually ymmv with most. porcelaine why i said -usually- and -many- not all.

lilmisssubmiss -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 3:10:29 PM)
quote: different stages of life based on interest, awareness, exposure, etc. however, your comments seem to reflect the mindset of older gentlemen i've encountered that wish to convey the same thing. experience and maturity go hand in hand. but i don't assume that both are readily available when conversing with older persons. i find it is usually ymmv with most. quote: ORIGINAL: antipode quote: doesn't imply he's been involved in the lifestyle any longer than a younger counterpart It does. Younger counterparts can't have been involved longer, they've not been around longer. I think she is simply stating that she is more likely to find experience among those who've been around the block a couple times. Statistics, like... ^^^^

lilmisssubmiss -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 3:12:25 PM)
I just seem to get along with older men.... some around my age are amazing also..but there is something about an older man having lived through a lot and having experience which i really really like.

sunshinemiss -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 3:12:51 PM)
Ghita - great new photo! How's things over your way? As to the OP: Age... sigh... I have always dated men around the 28-33 age range. There is something about that. I don't know why. When I was 19 I dated them and thought I'd always date men ten years older than me... at that age, I was dating people (men and women) my age... "Ahhhh I've changed" I think back then. And then a couple years ago, all my flings, experiences, relationships were back to that age range. *Wonder if there's a pattern here. However, I've always said... it's about the person, not the age. While I don't theoretically have a hang up, my behavior tends to show that I have a preference - although not an absolute. Other people do have a serious hang up. And I respect that. We are attracted to who we are attracted to. A man spits from chewing tobacco, and I gotta tell you... He's perfect, gorgeous, brilliant, wealthy, swoony... NO THANKS. Chewing tobacco cancels out everything. For some people that's age. I'm down with that.

DesFIP -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 5:51:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss I just seem to get along with older men.... some around my age are amazing also..but there is something about an older man having lived through a lot and having experience which i really really like. Must be difficult finding a 17 y. o. with real life experience.

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