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ghitaPVH -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 6:10:49 PM)
Pretty much anyone under 20 who tells me they are a Dominant...I just want to pat on the top of the head and say "thats nice dear"

SomethingCatchy -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 7:19:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ghitaPVH Pretty much anyone under 20 who tells me they are a Dominant...I just want to pat on the top of the head and say "thats nice dear" Does that apply to submissive people as well? I knew I had a dominant personality and I was interested in some really 'weird' things even before I knew it all had a name to it, and that was before my 20th birthday for sure. I've also known quiet a few people who say they had submissive tendencies even at a young age.

hardbodysub -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 7:25:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: porcelaine quote: ORIGINAL: antipode quote: doesn't imply he's been involved in the lifestyle any longer than a younger counterpart It does. Younger counterparts can't have been involved longer, they've not been around longer. I think she is simply stating that she is more likely to find experience among those who've been around the block a couple times. Statistics, like... Antipode, i'm sorry, but i disagree. just because he's older doesn't mean he's been involved in the lifestyle all his adult years. as for experience, that's a misnomer. simply because someone has spent time doing something doesn't imply they're adept or have mastered their craft. slackers exist in all age ranges. porcelaine Neither age nor youth guarantees anything, and obviously experience doesn't guarantee mastery or wisdom. However, it is a fact that years of life provide the opportunity for experience, and experience provides the opportunity to develop skill. Someone who's 19 couldn't possibly have accumulated 10 years of meaningful experience in BDSM. Someone who's 40 could have.

porcelaine -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 8:10:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hardbodysub Neither age nor youth guarantees anything, and obviously experience doesn't guarantee mastery or wisdom. However, it is a fact that years of life provide the opportunity for experience, and experience provides the opportunity to develop skill. Someone who's 19 couldn't possibly have accumulated 10 years of meaningful experience in BDSM. Someone who's 40 could have. hardbody, could being the relative word and i'm not debating the premise of life experience. meaningful is very subjective and may have little meaning to one like myself that wants something specific that those ten years may not have exposed him to. making the assumption that just because someone is older would suggest he is more experienced or more adept would be a gross overstatement. some of the most challenging dominant men i have ever encountered on this site are in their thirties. however, i've spoken to men a couple decades older and i'm positive they couldn't hold a candle to the parties referenced in my opinion. there are too many factors that come into play with the varying forms of dominance and submission to make a generalization of this nature. being a dominant doesn't mean he can dominate me. that is what i'm interested in. porcelaine

Nightbird02 -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 8:47:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy When a man asks me this question when he's old enough to be my father, I wonder if he's trying to put pressure or expectations on me. "You said you didn't care about age, so why don't you like ME?!" If a guy older than my father whined at me like that, I'd send him home to mommy, even if he is a Dom. Yeesh! I will admit I am into older men around 10 years my senior. The only "good" reason I can think of is that most the guys my age that I know of don't quite have the maturity level I'm looking for. I cannot for the life of me even imagine any of my friends in BDSM lifestyle. I may have had a crush or two on a couple of my guy friends, but have never been attracted to them sexually (I know, that sounds contradictory). If you want to hear speculation, then maybe I'm following the stereotype that older men are more experienced. Or maybe I am trying to distance myself from my family's conservative views. Or it could just be all of the above. ::shrugs:: However, just because I am into older men doesn't mean I will automatically rule out men my age or younger...It all depends on the guy. If it clicks, it clicks.

ghitaPVH -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/30/2009 9:15:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy quote: ORIGINAL: ghitaPVH Pretty much anyone under 20 who tells me they are a Dominant...I just want to pat on the top of the head and say "thats nice dear" Does that apply to submissive people as well? I knew I had a dominant personality and I was interested in some really 'weird' things even before I knew it all had a name to it, and that was before my 20th birthday for sure. I've also known quiet a few people who say they had submissive tendencies even at a young age. I never said I didnt believe they had a dominant personality, even at that age. But there is a difference between "having a dominant personality" and BEING a "Dominant". Im sure there are plenty of young people with the desire to "take charge" and take the "top" role in their sexual adventures....but there is no way Id feel they were capable of taking on the responsibility of "owning" anyone. (yes. I understand this is "my opinion only". Of course its my opinion. Thats why I wrote it. You might have a different opinion...its ok...)

IronBear -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/31/2009 12:48:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ghitaPVH Pretty much anyone under 20 who tells me they are a Dominant...I just want to pat on the top of the head and say "thats nice dear" Prey tell, which head are you patting ghita lass?

blackcat39 -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/31/2009 2:35:34 AM)
Nope, I'm interested in younger women (30's). Call me an old man. ;0 It seems like the age question comes up alot though. I know when I was a kid in my late 20's , I'd set up age limits on what I would and wouldn't date. On dating sites they still do this.....I want this to this age. I mean, what if someone really compatible is a year too old or a year too young? ;0 heck, who am I kidding. I still have age limits on what I want and don't want. btw, I'm 40. if your under 30 and interested, tell me why I should make an exception to my age rule? ;0 ::She's a 29 year old Domme, pats her on the head. How cute.:: ;0

lilmisssubmiss -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/31/2009 2:50:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP quote: ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss I just seem to get along with older men.... some around my age are amazing also..but there is something about an older man having lived through a lot and having experience which i really really like. Must be difficult finding a 17 y. o. with real life experience. i wouldn't know don't go looking for someone younger than me

IronBear -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/31/2009 4:38:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: blackcat39 Nope, I'm interested in younger women (30's). Call me an old man. ;0 It seems like the age question comes up alot though. I know when I was a kid in my late 20's , I'd set up age limits on what I would and wouldn't date. On dating sites they still do this.....I want this to this age. I mean, what if someone really compatible is a year too old or a year too young? ;0 heck, who am I kidding. I still have age limits on what I want and don't want. btw, I'm 40. if your under 30 and interested, tell me why I should make an exception to my age rule? ;0 ::She's a 29 year old Domme, pats her on the head. How cute.:: ;0 [8\|][8\|][8\|][8\|][8\|][8\|] [:-][:-][:-][:-][:-][:-] ROFLMFAO Stone the crows if this doesn't sound like the most condescending load of camel shit I've heard since the Ghan was upgraded and the Afghan Camel Trains disappeared I'll barrack for the Crow eaters to win the next AFL Grand Final or NSW to win next year's State of Origin... For God's sake someone please turn him loose for the Drop Bears and Bunyips to play with.. [:D][:D][:D]

Justme696 -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/31/2009 4:46:44 AM)
no..as in to beeing into older men as I am hetero sexual. Older females? Why not. It is hard to judge people just on their age. I noticed though that on some subjects I am to different to females that are much younger then me. For friendships I don't mind it...but for Ds relation I prefer not to young and some older is o.k.

SubOnlyForHim -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/31/2009 4:48:27 AM)
Back when Sir allowed me to have a "vanilla boyfriend" Sir always said "I just don't get it. He's not for you. He's not your type." because said "boyfriend" was 19years older than me. i never really understood Sir's reasoning, nor did i feel the need to ask. i was a good girl, said "Yes, Sir" and ended it. Age never really mattered much to me. i've been with guys 10 years younger to 20+ years older.

CelticPrince -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/31/2009 4:48:41 AM)
quote: I look at the person first. Obviously if a girl has contacted me she knows my age and if not she'll be told first up and have it explained that my wife Lady Neets is 30 years younger then I. If entering into a poly home and having the master of the home 64 is not a turn off we may have a starting point in which we can cover disabilities, our and hers if any. When I'm searching profiles anywhere, I usually set my search to 34 - 60. I have in issues with younger girls or boys, but I prefer someone who has sown their wild oats and are settled down with probably a clearer view of what they are seeking and want. As I say, it is the person that matters to me and how well we can gel. Claps, Well said IB! CP

sweetsub1957 -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/31/2009 4:58:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ghitaPVH Pretty much anyone under 20 who tells me they are a Dominant...I just want to pat on the top of the head and say "thats nice dear" Just because someone is a certain age, it doesn't mean they have more or less bdsm experience. A 20 year old who's been doing it for 2 years would have more than me. I'm almost 52 and I discovered bdsm only a year ago. OMG, now for some strange reason I'm remembering how I used to have my Ken doll tie up my Barbies in twine. I was just a kid & I already knew I was kinky, but I didn't know what is was or what it was called.....or how to find out more.

Viridana -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/31/2009 5:50:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lucienne quote: ORIGINAL: Viridana quote: ORIGINAL: Lucienne DesFIP makes some good points. It's also true that some women are "into" older men. Some have daddy issues. Some just prefer men who are more experienced and secure in life. And some, like yours truly, just like the physical attributes that come with age, when rugged replaces boyish. In my observation, that transition usually happens around 25-27. I guess you probably have a different definition of boyish. :) Very true [:D], I usually don't see the rugged features I find attractive until at least 35 years old.

lucylucy -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/31/2009 9:25:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Viridana And some, like yours truly, just like the physical attributes that come with age, when rugged replaces boyish. Well said. I'm a big fan of rugged. Very big fan.

lucylucy -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/31/2009 9:27:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lucienne In my observation, that transition usually happens around 25-27. I guess you probably have a different definition of boyish. :) I must have a different definition, too. I'm thinking more like 45-ish.

hardbodysub -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/31/2009 10:18:13 AM)
quote: could being the relative word "Could" is not relative. I think you mean that it's the "operative" word. That is exactly why I chose it. It doesn't assume that age is equivalent to experience, or that experience is equivalent to any skill or knowledge that you value. It merely suggests that more years of life provide more opportunity for experience, given that other factors remain equal. quote: meaningful is very subjective and may have little meaning to one like myself that wants something specific that those ten years may not have exposed him to Yes, "meaningful" is subjective. Again, that is exactly why I chose it. Experience is meaningful to you only if it promotes the skills and knowledge that you value. The word "meaningful" applies precisely to someone who wants something specific. To say it may have little meaning is missing the point entirely. quote: making the assumption that just because someone is older would suggest he is more experienced or more adept would be a gross overstatement I agree, and I certainly haven't done that.

breatheasone -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/31/2009 11:45:55 AM)
This has been a interesting discussion..... i feel like everyone has their own comfort zone when it comes to age, height, weight, etc..... i personally could NEVER be with anyone younger than say, 30..... Thats just me... If you can find someone that makes you happy.... and you make them happy..... Just shutup and enjoy already![;)]

blackcat39 -> RE: Are you 'into' older men? (10/31/2009 2:20:58 PM)
Um...People wanna talk about stuff, let them talk. Telling people to shut-up isn't nice. ;0 => breatheasone I'd like to point out to people that Jesus was jewish. For those who haven't read the bible and don't understand that the old testamant is Jewish in origin.... The fact that Jesus was a martyr who was invented to promote ideas is also obvious...... After rome fell trying to kill christians in their games, they still romp around talking about how they use to be great in religious crap with jesus on the cross. Symbolism like this is against the 10 commandments.... Though shall have no other god before me. Naming GOD jesus is sacriligious, and other I preach religious tolerance. Its okay if your ignorant....most people are....... The ideals jesus preaches are decent, but alot of crimes have been done in the name of jesus......oh, you don't like my religion, then die!! (dark ages)

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