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LadyNTrainer -> RE: Is now the time to ban pro Dommes from Collarme or should we just live and let live (11/12/2009 12:41:31 PM)
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ORIGINAL: DemonKia
I hope it's obvious how useful the extension of professional adult services would benefit us all by alleviating some of the sexual frustrations, kink frenzy, et al, that drives so much socially annoying behaviors? I mean, the ideal will be when there's also the FuckBot 3000 in the mix, helping to keep many of the more socially problematic people contentedly at home & offline & out of everybody's hair . . . . . . .
I had a "friends only" social profile here for years. What finally caused me to remove it was the constant deluge of rude, crude, sexually explicit emails demanding my time and attention. I rewrote my profile to be less and less open and friendly because of it, and eventually it got to the point that I realized I simply didn't like the person I was becoming in my profile in response to that kind of pressure. Nice people I would like to be friends with don't deserve an angry, defensive attitude, but because the nice people are a tiny minority of the people who write to women here, my profile here was being influenced a lot more by the sexually frustrated and aggressive majority. There was just no way to get away from that, so I finally opted out.
What they wanted - actually, what they expected and demanded from me - just wasn't fair. Overwhelmingly all they wanted was to take and not to give. They said over and over again what they wanted, what they needed, what got their dicks hard, without a word about me or what I might be personally interested in. I wasn't even treated as a real human being with wants and needs of my own, just some kind of adjunct to a fetish delivery system, or a drive-through McDomme's who existed only to cater to their whims. Occasionally they got aggressive in ways that probably qualified legally as assault, complete with actual threats of battery when I expressed a firm non-interest. Yes, I reported those. It didn't help.
When I was not a pro, I was very deeply grateful for the existence of pros. For better or worse, there are a LOT of men on this site who are absolutely not prepared to be in a relationship or even to treat a dominant woman like an actual human being. They have fetish needs and they want them sated NOW. Their own need screams too loudly for them to even be able to see another person's existence, let alone consider her needs and wants. Pros who will trade the satisfaction of those needs for a simple commodity are desperately needed to handle some of this deluge and keep it out of the inboxes of women it's really not fair to. Giving and getting has to go both ways, and if you are really overwhelmed by the desperate do-mes, eventually you may just give up and leave.
As it is, with plenty of professionals out there, it's still bad enough to drive a lot of non-pro women off of the site. Ban the pros and it would be much, much worse. I certainly would not have lasted as long as I did here if *all* of the frustrated, needy, but totally non-relationship-suited men had no quick and easy outlet available to them at all. With pros in our midst, at least the "fair trade" option is available to the men who are able to give money but not kindness and consideration for others. I think that having that option available is absolutely crucial if you actually want women to stay on this site and not be driven off even more quickly and put under even more pressure than they already are.
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