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RE: Orgasm Control - how to? - 11/20/2009 10:43:09 PM

kasumi

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I faked it with a couple of my exes and quickly realized that it really was a bad idea. Perhaps some of your partners were considerate and genuinely concerned, DemonKia, but I got the real jerks that thought all they needed to do was thrust and it would be good for both of us. -.-

Sexual communication didn't even exist between us... In fact, with one of them it was less me "faking" and more me just.... not saying anything. So he'd finish, get off of me and stand by the fan with a self-satisfied look ... it was like some weird, "manly" ritual. It wasn't until he heard from a friend's boyfriend that I hadn't had an orgasm that he started to try other things. He ended up being the first to ever bring me to orgasm but not without a lot of complaining because "there must be SOMETHING wrong" with me because I couldn't cum from intercourse. I ended up with some pretty bad self-esteem issues because of him... luckily that relationship ended 8 years ago. Unfortunately, it sort of made me the type of girl that might disclose a bit - too much? - at the onset of a relationship. XD

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RE: Orgasm Control - how to? - 11/21/2009 12:47:37 AM

hiddentreasures

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I have little experience of orgasm control so cannot comment about if it's possible. Perhaps it's possible with some and not with others???

I have been denied orgasm beause i don't orgasm through penetration, only by direct stimulation...so controlled in that i'm i'm truly denied. This is about the limit of the control i've ever had. I can't imagine someone ever saying 'now cum' and i do....i doubt i could...but that's me.

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RE: Orgasm Control - how to? - 11/21/2009 11:06:09 AM

ranja

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Here's the thing... why cum on command like that? what's so sexy about cumming at the snip of his fingers? i really do not get this at all...

My Husband is in control of my orgasms... not in a way of Him saying "CUM NOWWW"... and me going "aaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhh... thank you Sir was that good for you too?"
But more in a way of me asking "please may i masturbate today and am i allowed an orgasm Master?" and then abiding by His decision.
Maybe that might be an option for you to start with?... it might also add some spice to your situation as in the other thread you felt a bit down on the imagination of your man... and who knows... if you ask Daddy if you may do dirty things... it might be even hotter still

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