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Elisabella -> RE: TewHawt's Ten Commandments for Dominant Men (11/19/2009 9:00:38 PM)
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The Fiance gives his opinion via email:
"Feel free to add your own insight" suggests that this set of 10 rules has some insight to be added to instead of more or less representing the zero set, of which you are surely a member.
Let's take a look at these commandments from a calm less "up yourself" perspective. First thought, let me make it clear: there are no commandments in BDSM. There are suggestions, guides, quasi-rules, and advice. What works and how it works for two people is entirely up to them. That said, on with the 'show'.
1. "All true BDSM relationships" - what schlock is this? A BDSM relationship is one based on some combination of Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism - note that there is no mention of Dominance and Submission in the acronym, though it is frequently taken that way. BDSM relates to tops and bottoms, not dominants and submissives, though the one can be the other.
2. The dreams, desires, ideals, and principles of both participants are vital to a successful healthy relationship - what these are and how they work together to fulfill each party is irrelevant. For one, it may be complete abject submission and humiliation, for another it might be being treated like a pet, for a third it could be being treated like a strong woman who must be conquered.
3. Pain makes a far better punishment than emotional distress. Emotional trauma can leave lasting scars, doubts, and uncertainties far more often than physical punishment will. The key is to know when, what, and how to administer the punishment for the greatest and healthiest effect. The administering of physical punishment also provides a distinct closure to the event that emotional punishment does not.
4. Rubbish. Soft-cock rubbish. Stow it.
5. The interaction between a naturally dominant personality and a naturally submissive one is dynamic, and close to instantaneous. There is no gift of submission, such a ridiculous romantic notion. Even more indication that you have no real world experience, and your understanding of D/s and of women in general is confined to those five minute cyber sessions wherein you're left holding your limp cock once the girl departs.
6. The most sensual, powerful, and emotive organ is the brain - it is hardly a sex organ though, but then, D/s (and any relationship in generally) is not about sex. (again, your understanding is demonstrably limited).
7. I'll agree with this only in that it is important to be aware of the situation when you are the one in control, however it is still written with the air of one who has no experience and learned their game from romanticist web sites.
8. If you're looking then you aren't enjoying and living and experiencing and breathing. You are surviving and observing. Relish what you have, savor it to the last, and may what comes, come. That is the dominant's creed, the way a natural dominant's mind works. Not to fear or hunger for control but to meet life on their own terms, and to take the steps and make the decisions necessary to deal with it, accomplish their goals and achieve their objectives. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, the mouth of the taster, the hands of the holder, the ears of the listener et al ad infinitum.
9. Experience and wisdom provide the framework, the very trestles and beams that support and underpin every decision a dominant makes. Understanding comes with experience and insight, of which you have neither. I would not trust you to train a guppy, much less a full blooded human female.
10. Romantic nonsense. People are elevated by what fulfills them, and depressed by what does not. That is the simple way of the human condition. If a man or woman's needs are met, they are happy, if they are not, they are miserable. It has nothing to do with any 'gift'. Some give, some take.
My recommendation on having read this is that.. a) you get off the computer, and go out and look at some women and just enjoy that, b) realise you're probably a submissive man being used to fulfill the needs of female bottoms. c) forget everything you've read to date and start over, the accrued nonsense littering your head cannot be reconciled with reality.
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