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AnnaOfAramis -> RE: Collar vs wedding ring (3/12/2009 2:48:18 PM)
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ORIGINAL: slavejali
They mean different things to me too and see them both of significant importance.
To answer the question you posed to ownedgirlie: I could give my collar up before my wedding ring. Reasons:
1. My collar is representative of my slavery to Master. It represents an intimate, private, inner commitment to a Master/slave relationship. Its not there to advertise to the world what Master and my relationship is...it represents something to us, privately.
2. My wedding ring represents Master and my relationship and union to the outside world. Everyday people can look at my finger and comment "Oh your married"...which in essence means that I'm owned, or claimed.
3. Wedding ring is a worldly (external) thing to me, a collar is an internal thing...so to give up my *collar* would make no difference whatsoever, that internal reality of Master and my connection would still be there.
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They mean different things to me too and see them both of significant importance.
To answer the question you posed to ownedgirlie: I could give my collar up before my wedding ring. Reasons:
1. My collar is representative of my slavery to Master. It represents an intimate, private, inner commitment to a Master/slave relationship. Its not there to advertise to the world what Master and my relationship is...it represents something to us, privately.
2. My wedding ring represents Master and my relationship and union to the outside world. Everyday people can look at my finger and comment "Oh your married"...which in essence means that I'm owned, or claimed.
3. Wedding ring is a worldly (external) thing to me, a collar is an internal thing...so to give up my *collar* would make no difference whatsoever, that internal reality of Master and my connection would still be there.
I was going to post and then I saw this, which is almost exactly what I would have said! My Master recently asked me to marry him. It was an issue for him for awhile, he vacillated because he wanted to marry me but he worried that if we married I would want to be a "wife" and that would mean rights and would perhaps interfere with my slavery to him. But I don't see it this way. For one thing, my view of being his wife is more of the middle ages style- ie chattel. To me, as you say, I am his slave, and as his wife, it is simply another extension of his ownership- one that is recognized legally, and an ownership that is recognized by vanilla people. I have always hated trying to explain my relationship with him to vanilla people. "Boyfriend" does not come anywhere close to "Master." "Fiance" is working much better for me :) And though I wear my collar all the time, there have been occasions where it has to be removed temporarily. And even without it, though I miss it greatly, I feel no less his and know the true collar is worn round my heart, the neck collar being only a symbol.
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