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Why did he flipp like this - 11/26/2009 6:27:20 PM   
QueenPenelope


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Status: offline 		I just started talking to this guy I met online and he said in his emails that he is interested in being a 24/7 sub to a Domme. We were talking for a while and he told me he is fairly new to this and that he is wanting to know more about things in this sort of lifestyle. We were talking for nearly an hours and I was answering a lof ot his questions. So I asked him would he be willing to relocate and move in if his Domme wnated him to. He got very angry and started yelling and asking me why the hell would I ask him that and that I must be crazy. Then I calmly explained to him that is what most 24/7 sub's do and he said that's not true and that I must be crazy and kept on shouting and cussing. So finally I said ok, its been nice talking to you. Then I blocked him from my messenger list and from contacting me on this sight as well. What would make him act like that?
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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/26/2009 6:31:21 PM   
Venatrix


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Status: offline 		My first thought?  He's married and realising that you are looking for more than online play.  Even if it were too much, too soon, most subs would consider a step like that after a sufficient courtship, and would indicate that in further conversation.  On the other hand, I've had so many guys flake on me in the past, that it could be any one of 1,356 reasons, including because the sun rises in the east.

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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/26/2009 6:43:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		Perhaps he was living in a fantasy world, and something you said jolted him from his dreams?

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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/26/2009 7:07:59 PM   
rockspider


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Status: offline 		Well i find it a litlle odd. But then on the other hand i do tend to scare off as well if somebody starts talking about moving on the first e mail or date. Just like in my young days the question about marriage or when they started taking an interest in what was in babies prams would send me hightailing. Maybe something on those lines.

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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/26/2009 7:09:46 PM   
Underumam


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Status: offline 		What TRUE sub/slave would just "go off" on his potential Mistress like that?

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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/26/2009 7:12:03 PM   
rawkmehard


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Status: offline 		or maybe...he just isn't right for you and you're lucky you don't have to waste your time?

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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/26/2009 7:14:29 PM   
QueenPenelope


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quote:

ORIGINAL: rockspider

Well i find it a litlle odd. But then on the other hand i do tend to scare off as well if somebody starts talking about moving on the first e mail or date. Just like in my young days the question about marriage or when they started taking an interest in what was in babies prams would send me hightailing. Maybe something on those lines.


I was asking him would he be interested in moving. Not that I want him to move in with me. Which I explained to him. He asked me what it meant to be a 24/7 sub and I told him what all a Domme might want and then I asked him would he be willing to do that. Then he flipped, that's what I don't understand, he went Biserk. So I just blocked him and was like whatever and thought to myself, if good bye help you, good bye.


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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/26/2009 7:18:11 PM   
Muirren


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Status: offline 		Bi polar perhaps? I would NEVER go off on someone like that for no good reason,,especially someone that's trying to be helpful.

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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/26/2009 7:39:47 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Sorry, but I'm more the type to not care why he did it.  Just glad he did it quick so I wouldn't waste My time on him.

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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/26/2009 8:35:33 PM   
eihwaz


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ORIGINAL: QueenPenelope
What would make him act like that?

You may never know even if you ask him directly.  In the world of dating, one encounters such mysteries.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Sorry, but I'm more the type to not care why he did it.  Just glad he did it quick so I wouldn't waste My time on him.

A wise attitude.

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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/26/2009 11:53:47 PM   
ThatDamnedPanda


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Status: offline 		Some people are just unstable. Sounds like you found one of them. I don't think it's any more complicated than that.

Don't let it get you down, and try not to waste too much time or emotional energy trying to figure out what the lesson is, because the only lesson is that some people are nuts. It's impossible for people who aren't nuts to make any sense out of the actions of people who are, because there's no way to understand their way of thinking. Your profile sounds like you're a really nice person. Try to just move on and put it behind you; there's someone out there somewhere who'll appreciate you for who you are and make you as happy as you deserve to be. Forget this idiot and go find that other one. Good luck!


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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/27/2009 2:19:04 AM   
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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/27/2009 6:05:35 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		My guess is that his wife just happened to wander in and he wanted a good story to tell her about this woman that came on to him online, with him stoutly resisting her advances, in case she checked the IM window.

Just take note of things like this in case you decide to write a country western song at some point. 


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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/27/2009 6:38:02 AM   
missyandy


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Status: offline 		i have been dating my slave\sub male for 18 months he likes cages and sleeps in chains and gags and ropes. he wears nappies and drinks from bottles and i love him so much but i do the slightest thing wrong in his eyes and now three time he has beaten me up.so some times you are just a joke to them.

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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/27/2009 6:54:05 AM   
CarrieO


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ORIGINAL: missyandy

i have been dating my slave\sub male for 18 months he likes cages and sleeps in chains and gags and ropes. he wears nappies and drinks from bottles and i love him so much but i do the slightest thing wrong in his eyes and now three time he has beaten me up.so some times you are just a joke to them.


Sounds more like if you don't play by HIS rules.....who's the dominant in this scenario? 

OP...sounds like you should stop trying to understand why and focus on being glad you saw through the crap before you invested more time and effort.  At this point, does it really matter why?

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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/27/2009 6:55:37 AM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: missyandy

i have been dating my slave\sub male for 18 months he likes cages and sleeps in chains and gags and ropes. he wears nappies and drinks from bottles and i love him so much but i do the slightest thing wrong in his eyes and now three time he has beaten me up.so some times you are just a joke to them.


If your post is not a gag, then report him to the cops and get the hell out of that relationship.  I can understand getting beaten up once, but there never should have been two more times.


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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/27/2009 7:11:35 AM   
Lucienne


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ORIGINAL: CarrieO

OP...sounds like you should stop trying to understand why and focus on being glad you saw through the crap before you invested more time and effort.  At this point, does it really matter why?


This the best advice, and I've gotten better at applying it in my own life through the years. But damn... sometimes it is hard. I recently found myself falling into the "what is he thinking, what game is he playing, what effect is he trying to have on me?" game. And then I had to smack myself with the whole - who fucking cares what he's thinking? His actions are not consistent with his words. Move on. Honestly, I think this lesson should be part of the sexual education curriculum. So much time wasted trying to divine the thoughts and intentions of people who have little fair claim to your attention.

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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/27/2009 7:27:15 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		OP you have no experience in this. Discussion about relocation comes way after you've established commonality and chemistry and genuine liking. If some dude I'd never spoken to before had asked me if I would relocate on the first chat, I would have assumed he was nuts.

Relocation is major, and sometimes it's the dominant who moves. It happens after you've established a good, long term relationship not before.

You're 22 so I doubt you have the world's greatest job. Yet you assume any sub would give up a paid for home, a six figure income to flip burgers near you. I'm just surprised he went off on you instead of simply blocking you first.

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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/27/2009 7:38:07 AM   
Venatrix


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
OP you have no experience in this. Discussion about relocation comes way after you've established commonality and chemistry and genuine liking. If some dude I'd never spoken to before had asked me if I would relocate on the first chat, I would have assumed he was nuts.

Relocation is major, and sometimes it's the dominant who moves. It happens after you've established a good, long term relationship not before.

You're 22 so I doubt you have the world's greatest job. Yet you assume any sub would give up a paid for home, a six figure income to flip burgers near you. I'm just surprised he went off on you instead of simply blocking you first.



I'm going to argue with you on this.  I see nothing wrong with bringing up the topic fairly early on, if it's in a "for instance" sort of way.  Why waste time getting involved with someone if it turns out that neither of you has any interest in relocating, and this is important to the people involved?  Even if the sub felt that it was too early to discuss something like that, going off on a wild rant is not the way to handle it. 

Also, you're making outlandish assumptions about their lives, which I think is completely out of place.  How do you know what the OP assumes or what her life is like, or that of a potential sub?  For all we know, the OP might be the heiress to a trust fund.

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RE: Why did he flipp like this - 11/27/2009 10:24:53 AM   
eihwaz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: missyandy
...and now three time he has beaten me up.so some times you are just a joke to them.

... I can understand getting beaten up once, but there never should have been two more times.


No, not even once.


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