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switch2please -> RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? (12/7/2009 2:27:08 PM)
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like omg i totally no wat u meen!! doms think im like hella hawt an they wanna fuk me, but it's like they can't actually conceive of me as a person with valid thoughts and ideas of my own. They're surprised that as a 20 year old, I can spell and type, I have my own opinions, I have a good idea of what I like and what I'm looking for, and I can *gasp* possibly even have a real grown-up conversation!
If this is really that surprising and unusual, I fear for the future...because I'll be stuck with all these immature inexperienced younguns until they figure their shit out.
Personally, I prefer older partners because I relate to them better and I feel more comfortable allowing a level of vulnerability into the relationship. There is usually a significant correlation between age, life experience, and maturity. More experience usually translates as stability. They have had more time to decide how they feel about social issues and usually there's a valid reasoning behind each stance, rather than just blindly supporting their parents' ideologies or siding with the majority opinion. If you fuck up, ideally you learn from it and move on. Younger people just haven't had the necessary experiences to form yet, they're still developing - so some inconsistency should be expected. Yes, younger women are easier to take advantage of, and I can see the allure in having access to someone still so malleable. That said, I don't see any kinky glory in babysitting a brat who doesn't know what she's into and is likely to lose interest in the lifestyle.
From a sexual perspective, there are attractive people in my age range, but I am more attracted to older men. No, it's not a daddy complex - I don't get off on the age difference. Again, there is a strong correlation between age and experience, and men 30-40 are more likely to know what to do in the sack than the post-pubescent boys my age. They also tend to know what they like, and actually seem more willing to experiment. I guess once you can say "penis" without giggling, you figure out what to DO with it. On the other hand, I am more attracted to females around my age, and I can understand wanting a casual fling - but because there is no significant age difference, I've never gotten any disparaging remarks for dating/sleeping with a hot tight 19 year old chick [;)] and I don't see how a true D/s relationship can be casual.
Be warned - these females are crazy. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, but hell hath no imagination like a vengeful teenager.
I know how incredibly hypocritical this is, but I can't stand most people my age. Let the pervy lecherous Doms have them - if they have low enough standards to be pleased with some pretty vapid teenager they can't have a conversation with, they deserve what they get - and maybe some of the silly little girls I've encountered will learn something.
Of course, there are no prerequisites to be a dumbass - there are idiots in every demographic. There are also no age restrictions on intelligence - I'm sure there are plenty of people 18-23 who defy the stereotype. I just haven't had the dubious pleasure of meeting them.
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