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Elisabella -> RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? (12/7/2009 4:45:52 PM)
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ORIGINAL: AnimusRex
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ORIGINAL: Elisabella
...an older (mid 40's+) man would make an excellent date for an event or something but I can't see myself being long term with someone who has such a different worldview and experience.
My thoughts exactly.
Age is only a number, they say.
Really? How sad and depressing is that!
I am a year away from 50.
How awful would it be to think I am not better, not more wise and mature and worldly that I was at 25. Wouldn't it be horrible to think that I am nothing more than a 25 year old man, who is 25 years closer to death.
I am a 49 year old man, with 49 years of wisdom, 49 years of experiences, travels, 49 years of mistakes and corrections and adjustments, and most importantly, 49 years of growth.
How could a 25 year old woman understand me- how could she possibly know how I feel and think? How could she be my emotional peer?
Its not that younger women are not intelligent, or even mature. I have had interesting and provoking discussions with younger women, and have met some 20 year olds who had plenty of emotional maturity and wisdom. I could see myself having a wonderful romance and short relationship with someone of just about any age.
But we would always be at a remove from each other, separated by that gulf of experience and growth.
There are limits to everything in life, and there is a beauty and grace in accepting and embracing them.
Exactly!
I have experience in this - when I was 19 I had a liaison with a 45 year old for close to a year...I loved him and adored him and everything but sometimes he got so annoyingly *paternal* with me. I'd tell him "yes you might have made that mistake when you were younger, but I might not make it. And even if I do make it, it's my mistake to learn from, I can't just internalize *your* experiences."
There's always going to be a disconnect in a May-December relationship, of course for some women that's exactly what they're looking for and that's why it works so great, but regardless it's going to be there.
I remember when the US was about to go to war with Iraq, a lot of people I knew in my mother's age group said things like "This is exactly like Vietnam, they're going to start to draft people," while everyone my age said that was ridiculous. The world has changed so much - back then you could be exempt from the draft if you went to college...today who *doesn't* go to college? Back then you dug up some bizarre obscure medical history to get yourself exempt...today half the people would be too *obese* to be drafted. Back then, men were drafted. Today, men still are the only ones to register but you won't be able to draft them without someone saying that since women are equal now, they should be drafted too.
You're 49 - you were in your mid 20's/early 30's during the first 10 years of my life, the 80's and early 90's *shaped* me as a person, while they just sort of influenced you. That's a huge thing, and again since some people are looking for that, that's great, but denying it exists might cause problems.
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