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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 6:03:54 AM

vincentML

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Look Des ~~smiles~~ I don't doubt there are wankers and spamers on the other side. I am puzzled to know why you or the OP would even open mail in your inbox designated light blue. Seems simple enough to delete before opening and save yourself the frustration of confronting unwanted solicitations.

I figure that if my profile is extremely clear that I AM NOT LOOKING that I should have some reasonable expectation of not getting these numbnuts posting to me asking me to domme them or submit to them or whatever. Of course, that expectation turns out to be unreasonable. But I do occasionally get conversational email from other people I'd not want to delete unread!

Your point is well made and I thought of the possibility of occasional genuine conversational email that is desireable as I was answering Des. But if the message begins as Des says "Dear Mistress" it would be an obvious delete.

Vincent

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 6:08:02 AM

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I had one sub guy who told me that the way I'd written my profile with blunt honesty and made it very clear that there were certain things that I absolutely would not be interested in made me seem "more like a domme," and so he asked me how much I would charge for CBT with him.

Anne

Anne, I think the going rate is between $100-$200 an hour. Just sayin'.

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 6:14:30 AM

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I don't have any hard data to support my instincts but my instincts tell me that there are not all that many dommes running around who aren't looking for a business transaction of some sort. If there were a plethora of non-pros available you and others like you probably wouldn't not be deluged with these types of emails.

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 6:30:02 AM

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Even if I do delete the obvious, my point is still valid. That they are targeting females of any persuasions, they aren't seeking femsubs or a female with specific qualities that appeal to them as you stated.

And yes, I get mail from all sorts of people who do just want conversation including male subs. Anybody who posts a lot will get mail from those who read the forums but are too shy to enter into them.

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 6:32:40 AM

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They dont read your profile and they dont care. They look at your profile and think youre hot. So they most of the time arent really in the lifestyle. They just want to get laid and this is the avenue. I mean subs are sluts right?

I think it is a bit more complicated than you suggest. First they make the decision to search Female Submissives. So it is a deliberate selective process.

Vincent

Its deliberate to search for ALL women. THAT doesnt take a rocket scientist.
Though most frequently its a scammer from Guam.

It is quite impressive that you know with absolute certitude the searching methodology used by everyone on CM.

Vincent

What termonlogy did I use to make you think I said I was referrring to everybody? First, we are talking about men who call themselves subs yet message female submissives.

But yes, I am impressive.

Also as far as needing touch. The research was done on infants. Its called Marasmus. Failure to thrive. But once you have developed through puberty this is not an issue. Its really the time when neuro pathways are forming that touch is so important. But a grown adult can get affection from friends and family and they will not die without affection.

Are you defending perhaps why you contact female submissives?

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 6:34:52 AM

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Here is a dirty little secret I have been hiding.......

I allow female subs to domme my dick with their mouth.

Ron

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 6:43:56 AM

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Here is a dirty little secret I have been hiding.......

I allow female subs to domme my dick with their mouth.

Ron

lmao

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 6:44:26 AM

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Look Des ~~smiles~~ I don't doubt there are wankers and spamers on the other side. I am puzzled to know why you or the OP would even open mail in your inbox designated light blue. Seems simple enough to delete before opening and save yourself the frustration of confronting unwanted solicitations.

I figure that if my profile is extremely clear that I AM NOT LOOKING that I should have some reasonable expectation of not getting these numbnuts posting to me asking me to domme them or submit to them or whatever. Of course, that expectation turns out to be unreasonable. But I do occasionally get conversational email from other people I'd not want to delete unread!

Your point is well made and I thought of the possibility of occasional genuine conversational email that is desireable as I was answering Des. But if the message begins as Des says "Dear Mistress" it would be an obvious delete.

Vincent

If its light blue and we know you from the message board, we certainly will open it. But a complete stranger who we have never dialouged with. Either they never bothered to read the profile, or they dismissed it.

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 6:54:35 AM

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I would also suggest that if the OP wishes to avoid her frustration she simply not reply to letters from men of an s-type persuasion in the first place. The designation by color is quite clear in her inbox and a quick look at his Profile will confirm his desires. If it bothers you then avoid the trap and delete immediately. Seems simple enough. But perhaps it was more fun to have a tiny rant at submissive men.

Aaah. But therein lies the rub. The light blue in the inbox could be either male sub OR male SWITCH.

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 7:03:01 AM

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

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ORIGINAL: vincentML

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ORIGINAL: Drifa

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ORIGINAL: vincentML
Look Des ~~smiles~~ I don't doubt there are wankers and spamers on the other side. I am puzzled to know why you or the OP would even open mail in your inbox designated light blue. Seems simple enough to delete before opening and save yourself the frustration of confronting unwanted solicitations.

I figure that if my profile is extremely clear that I AM NOT LOOKING that I should have some reasonable expectation of not getting these numbnuts posting to me asking me to domme them or submit to them or whatever. Of course, that expectation turns out to be unreasonable. But I do occasionally get conversational email from other people I'd not want to delete unread!

Your point is well made and I thought of the possibility of occasional genuine conversational email that is desireable as I was answering Des. But if the message begins as Des says "Dear Mistress" it would be an obvious delete.

Vincent

If its light blue and we know you from the message board, we certainly will open it. But a complete stranger who we have never dialouged with. Either they never bothered to read the profile, or they dismissed it.

Good. Then it seems it sould be nothing but a minor annoyance for you and how would we appreciate joy without contrasting to the minor annoyances? ~~smiles~~ we should be grateful the annoyances are only minor. Much joy, luscious.

Vincent

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 7:08:18 AM

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I would also suggest that if the OP wishes to avoid her frustration she simply not reply to letters from men of an s-type persuasion in the first place. The designation by color is quite clear in her inbox and a quick look at his Profile will confirm his desires. If it bothers you then avoid the trap and delete immediately. Seems simple enough. But perhaps it was more fun to have a tiny rant at submissive men.

Aaah. But therein lies the rub. The light blue in the inbox could be either male sub OR male SWITCH.

Damn! There is always a rub someplace, sweet. More often than not in the wrong place sad to say. You have educated me there. I do not often look on the male side of the ledger.

Well, a toast of the bubbly to more pleasing rubs in more pleasing places and slowly if they please you. ~~smiles~~

Vincent

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 7:19:12 AM

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Let me share this. It is sorta on topic but also can be posted under scams. This to me, a subby male so listed, from a subby female in pink. Too amusing to just throw away with delete:

"Hello to you all,am not here to advertise myself,but to tell you the story of my life.Which begin from the very day i lost my mother in some years back which is a bad and bitter day in my life.Inconclusive i also lost my former master name'Master smith'which died as a result heart cancer in some four months ago at the city of Texas,someone i can describe as my Messiah,because is so there for in every area of my difficulties,caring,loyal,honest,kind,trustworthy,submissive,sincere,faithful.He dislike liars.Anyway am opportuned to go to college due my aunt selfishness she didn't want to have any education at_all, she want me to be rebellious in life.Ever since then life have been very meaningless to me,so now i need a good master so that i can sustain myself,as well you consider my relocation from this site due some reason,because am always monitored by my aunt.So u can email me [email protected]k's "

Poor master smith died of heart cancer in the city of Texas. Of course I replied to the poor woman immediately and with great sympathy....not.

LMAO!

Vincent

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 7:37:39 AM

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I agree with most of what has been discussed in that SOME male subs will contact any woman regardless of what she wrote. I understand, I get emails from many inappropriate people and just move on.

The thing that annoys me more than anything, is when said male sub, after being reminded that I am a sub, comes back with..."oh, you are a Domme, you really look like one, speak like one and you just have not not discovered your INNER Domme; I can help you, really". I am like, dude, you are so barking up the wrong tree and desperation is never pretty.

I cannot tell you how many times that has happened and interestingly enough, it recently happened when I went on a date from a VANILLA site. The guy seemed great, at first and on the second date he basically said the exact same thing that I wrote above.

What does "looking like a Domme" mean? There are many beautiful Dommes and many beautiful subs, so not sure what differentiates the "look".

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 7:53:20 AM

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I agree with most of what has been discussed in that SOME male subs will contact any woman regardless of what she wrote. I understand, I get emails from many inappropriate people and just move on.

The thing that annoys me more than anything, is when said male sub, after being reminded that I am a sub, comes back with..."oh, you are a Domme, you really look like one, speak like one and you just have not not discovered your INNER Domme; I can help you, really". I am like, dude, you are so barking up the wrong tree and desperation is never pretty.

I cannot tell you how many times that has happened and interestingly enough, it recently happened when I went on a date from a VANILLA site. The guy seemed great, at first and on the second date he basically said the exact same thing that I wrote above.

What does "looking like a Domme" mean? There are many beautiful Dommes and many beautiful subs, so not sure what differentiates the "look".

The paddle is in the eye of the dreamer, i think.

Vincent

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 8:46:06 AM

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Good. Then it seems it sould be nothing but a minor annoyance for you and how would we appreciate joy without contrasting to the minor annoyances? ~~smiles~~ we should be grateful the annoyances are only minor. Much joy, luscious.

Vincent

Yes. Just a minor annoyance. But the O.P. did ask why. Asked and answered.

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 9:53:19 AM

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Apparently build a bear workshop hasn't invented a create your own domme kit with optional whip action and a choice of leather outfits and boots.

Maybe not but wasn't there a movie called "Lars and the Real Domme" that touched on that subject?

You made me giggle!! Thanks!

ps--Lars and the Real Doll is a freakin hilarious movie for those of you who haven't checked it out!

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 10:02:10 AM

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Speaking as a female dominant with many female dominant friends, I will tell you that there are PLENTY Of us out there.

Are there plenty of male SUBMISSIVES? Well, that depends on how far you want to stretch the definition of "submissive", doesn't it? (whooops, cynicism showing!) It says very clearly on my profile that I am POLY, and interested in locals. Yet I was bombarded with mail from one guy (to the point of BLOCK) who clearly stated he wanted a MONO relationship, plus he was from another state. Purpose of that waste of bandwidth? They're just not reading, except off the fantasy script that lives in their minds. Female? WRITE!

Sexyred are you SURE you are not a dominant? You have red hair! Do you own any boots?

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 10:06:25 AM

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You have red hair! Do you own any boots?

THAT explains it!

beth has the red hair and there are plenty of pictures of her wearing boots.

See I never realized there was an expectation coming from that uniform image. You learn something every day on CM!

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 10:11:08 AM

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You have red hair! Do you own any boots?

THAT explains it!

beth has the red hair and there are plenty of pictures of her wearing boots.

See I never realized there was an expectation coming from that uniform image. You learn something every day on CM!

Glad I could share some good intel, Merc!! Now, just teach her how to look all fierce with a whip in her hand, get a webcam, and BOOM!! That villa in Tuscany is practically paid for!

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/11/2009 10:56:43 AM

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hahaha Good one, LadyHibiscus!

I had this one guy write to me and say "But you're looking for friends. Can't you just help out a friend this one time?" and I'm like "NO. If you were a friend, you wouldn't be pressuring me like that." I can tell they don't read profiles, or else they'd be in my "Viewed Me." lol The ones who write to me, they aren't really submissives, they're bottoms. They want me to be their "Mistress" as long as I would only serve their kinks. Sooooo not gonna happen!

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