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Sharing - 12/15/2009 4:19:40 PM   
sweetsub1957


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Status: offline 		I'm curious, How many of You Masters/Doms share Your slaves/submissives with others sexually?  I mean, outside of a poly household.  I've been told it's common, but I'm wondering how common?  Thank You for any and all input.  :)

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 4:29:02 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Did it once.  I made it clear that they were to play but sex was out.  A week later, she left me for him.  Sharing won't happen again.

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 4:32:15 PM   
sweetsub1957


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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 4:41:04 PM   
Huntertn


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Status: offline 		You know, we hear alot about sharing all over the boards..some enjoy it, others hate it! I'm not that good at sharing whats mine, But I do understand the difference between love and sex...and maybe thats where in the problems lie? Who knows..grins..Huntertn

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 4:43:18 PM   
NormalOutside


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Status: offline 		No, haven't done it. It comes up mildly in fantasies from time to time, but I'm not really into it, and the girls I've owned haven't really been either, so it's not in the short term forecasts. You never know though, I guess.

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 4:44:43 PM   
NormalOutside


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Did it once.  I made it clear that they were to play but sex was out.  A week later, she left me for him.  Sharing won't happen again.

Damn, that's sick. I imagine you were REALLY hurt and betrayed. Sorry.
Hopefully at some point you'll realize it wasn't sharing that betrayed you, but the girl and the guy. I'm not saying you should try it with someone else someday, but holding a grudge against the act itself isn't the way to go either.


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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 4:45:48 PM   
ShoreBound149


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Status: offline 		The caveman part of brain kicks in with regards to this topic....not an option

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 4:46:44 PM   
subangi


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Status: offline 		I consider being shared  sexually just another name for swinging...if you are into swinging,  then being "shared" is the name you give it.

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 4:54:18 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		Yep, I've been told that it's common.  However, if it is so common why don't I know of anyone who does it?  I'm friends with lifestylers from Montana, Washington, Oregon, Arizona, and Canada and they are all sexually monogamous. 

It sure makes for a good fantasy at times.  The reality is that in this day of STD's many aren't into playing Russian Roulette with their health. 

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 4:54:40 PM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		That is the one and only thing that would make me walk away from him and probably the only thing I would refuse to do.

edited to add....just saw that he answered. We've discussed this and it's no surprise that we're on the same page.

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 4:55:43 PM   
sweetsub1957


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Status: offline 		The topic was brought up with me once quite some time back, before my former Sir, and I said "NOT.  And that's a 'deal breaker' btw."  lol

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 5:08:49 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		been there done that with others in the past.

can't say it's ever held any kind of interest for me though. I've never felt any kind of excitement or lust for it. I'm monogamous.

But if Master desired it then it would be done despite my lack of interest. His choice.

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 5:15:47 PM   
JBGolden


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Status: offline 		No way, no how. I'm a monogamous sort.

Being spanked by others is one thing but past that is pretty much a hard limit for me.

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 5:24:27 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		We are monogamous, both sexually and playwise.

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 5:34:25 PM   
tsatske


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Status: offline 		Part of the answer might lie in how you define 'sharing'. Is it sex? blowjobs?
Is it having another give birtday swats at a party? scening with another at a party? in Master's prescence? in private?

I do, in fact, know a lot of people who don't mind letting thier subs scene with others they know, trust and like in a public venue. Sex, or going private, is a differant matter.
I know a lot of people who 'swap' or 'share' for 'couple to couple' play where no slave ever leaves their own Masters sight and there is no sex, oral, anal or traditional.
I know of far fewer people who share when it comes to sex, or to going private and not staying in Master's direct line of sight. And I live in the middle of the country, so it has to be wilder on the coasts, right <grin>

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 5:35:34 PM   
sweetsub1957


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Status: offline 		For all the talk I hear from some Doms Who I've written to, saying it's so common, it sure doesn't sound like it on this thread so far.  Hmmmm.

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 5:38:05 PM   
sweetsub1957


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quote:

ORIGINAL: tsatske

Part of the answer might lie in how you define 'sharing'. Is it sex? blowjobs?
Is it having another give birtday swats at a party? scening with another at a party? in Master's prescence? in private?

I do, in fact, know a lot of people who don't mind letting thier subs scene with others they know, trust and like in a public venue. Sex, or going private, is a differant matter.
I know a lot of people who 'swap' or 'share' for 'couple to couple' play where no slave ever leaves their own Masters sight and there is no sex, oral, anal or traditional.
I know of far fewer people who share when it comes to sex, or to going private and not staying in Master's direct line of sight. And I live in the middle of the country, so it has to be wilder on the coasts, right <grin>


Well, I was referring to sexual, including oral, traditional/regular, and anal.  That sort of thing.

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 5:55:29 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		I know a disproportionate amount of swingers so it is kinda common among people I know. However, before meeting those people no one I knew liked to share. I am monogamous when in a relationship and if I am, I do not choose a mate who would be open to sharing.

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 6:48:42 PM   
Hierodule


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quote:

ORIGINAL: subangi
I consider being shared  sexually just another name for swinging...if you are into swinging,  then being "shared" is the name you give it.

Not necessarily, my Master permits me have other lovers. But He has to approve of them and He usually wants them to ask him personally. Sometimes its a reward, in other words: "You were a very good girl today. You can go out with so and so this weekend and he doesn't have to ask permission to touch you. " Sometimes he is very specific when I go on dates: "No penetrative sex tonight, oral only." So far  I have only "dated" two guys since He  has owned me and they are both guys that I had already dated, or were involved with, before I met my Master. They are also both vanilla, if you can consider a guy who asks a girl's owner permission to date her "vanilla". He doesn't necessarily need to watch, and he has absolutely NO desire to take other lovers himself. Its part of his kink and I wouldn't call it swinging at all.

He wrote a journal entry on our profile about "sharing" if anyone is interested in knowing what he enjoys about it.

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 7:13:49 PM   
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Fast Reply~

We don't share, he is actually more possessive than I am, however we both love to do sexually charged things like go to strip clubs together and get couples lapdances or erotic massages in the same room and watch each other getting sexually charged by that, without sex, but with lots of teasing and eroticism. There are lots of ways to involve others occasionally without having sex or sharing, be creative if that appeals to you. It so turns me on to see some sexy girl writhing against him while his hand is on my breast and another girl is pressing against me and we leave and have have wild hotel sex after. Yum..    


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