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MasterSlaveLA -> RE: what if (12/21/2009 6:36:51 PM)
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ORIGINAL: lally2
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ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA
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ORIGINAL: lally2
in making that suggestion you made a judgement..
No... that's just your perception. And one that's wrong.
if it isnt judgement over what you choose or dont choose to write on here, what other process do you follow.
In this case, you were given a suggestion.
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its more youre opinionated determination to be right even after ive taken the trouble to tell you youre wrong.
No, actually it's not my determination to be "right"... I simply feel I am in this case. Here's why...
1) You stated those D-types that have "grown" and "learned" to strive towards ensuring their s-type is "happy", will result in an s-type that's "worth more" than an s-type who is not focused on their own happiness, but their D-type's happiness. This is false, as not everyone seeks the SAME dynamic YOU seek.
2) You stated your thread was based on a "hypothetical". This is false, as you also stated:
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... ive already used alot of this advice and directed it at him. he knows he has alot to do to rebuild my trust.
The above is not "hypothetical", but REAL.
3) You stated "judgement" was passed on you. This is false... another (moi) simply inquired if you had explored a LDD/TiH and/or D/lg dynamic, as those dynamics seem to place greater emphasis on the s-type's happiness than do typical D/s or M/s dynamics.
Thus, none of the above is someone needing to be "right", but rather, simply addressing that which YOU have stated; and where you've become needlessly defensive.
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