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RE: submission vs. playing hard to get - 12/21/2009 12:25:25 PM

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I didnt think so either. However, some peoples views about what playing "hard to get" and others views are not the same.

Evidently. Not saying anyone is right or wrong the but the fact that "playing" is in the phrase really keeps me from seriously believing it's about being open, honest and demanding what your worth.

YMMV.

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RE: submission vs. playing hard to get - 12/21/2009 12:48:18 PM

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I didnt think so either. However, some peoples views about what playing "hard to get" and others views are not the same.

Evidently. Not saying anyone is right or wrong the but the fact that "playing" is in the phrase really keeps me from seriously believing it's about being open, honest and demanding what your worth.

YMMV.

Well that just semantics.

Perhaps if it would be phrased, "be hard to get"
"Dont have sex unless you feel ready and comfortable and you both want the same relationship"?

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RE: submission vs. playing hard to get - 12/21/2009 12:52:22 PM

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Evidently. Not saying anyone is right or wrong the but the fact that "playing" is in the phrase really keeps me from seriously believing it's about being open, honest and demanding what your worth.

YMMV.

Well that just semantics.

Perhaps if it would be phrased, "be hard to get"
"Dont have sex unless you feel ready and comfortable and you both want the same relationship"?

See... nothing about that strikes me as hard. It's just reasonable and what I would expect.

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RE: submission vs. playing hard to get - 12/22/2009 6:30:10 PM

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However transparency and honesty doesnt mean I have to engage is sex til I know there is a real emotional connection. I am very honest and transparent about this. So those who arent really interested in more than that will just fall out. But its not a game. Its me taking care of me.

I don't think KoM was saying you should engage in sex before you feel ready in the situation. Simply that playing hard to get isn't being honest and transparent because it's a game. A strategy, if you will, to win the prize.

I didnt think so either. However, some peoples views about what playing "hard to get" and others views are not the same.

Aquatic nailed it!

Just a note..... Kyra is rather similiar to you in that she is not one that will engage into sexually activity without first establishing a significant emotional connection with the person.... apparently she has a signifcant emotional connection with me.. cause I bang her from time to time ;)

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