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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: lally2

hm. whilst its more than possible that the OP is exercising some level of kink simply through being humiliated - something s/he mentions enjoying on her profile - and therefore manipulative - im not sure that lambasting her for being who she is and taking a dig at her mistress has any merit to it at all either.

in the end he is a guy trying to get to grips with being a woman - and lets face it there are plenty of men who freely admit they dont understand women and they never will

add in submission and i see someone who is really trying to handle a whole lot of stuff. i might be wrong, often am

Not lambasting, questioning. I never commented on my opinion of my suspicion, manipulative or otherwise and I did not dig at the mistress unless someone regards my statement that "This doesn't seem healthy" as a dig. Which I don't.

Given how enthusically the OP is agreeing with everyone, I believe I'm allowed my opinion that this may be an attempt to get their kink scratched. It also may not be. Only time and future postings will tell.

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ORIGINAL: lally2

then in a way youre feeding the kink.

i havent read all of his posts on here, but ive got the gist.

i think theres a double edge to all of this. on one hand he wants and loves to be humiliated by women because he 'thinks' we're wonderful (and who can argue with that (joking)), - but also in there is his dressing up as a woman and humiliating himself in that way with big girls knickers, so there is also a degree of 'reducing' himself to the female condition of being, as some men see it, the 'weaker sex'.

its complicated is all im saying and i dont think having a go at him is all that helpful. my opinion for what its worth.

and actually, yes, i thought youre comment about his dynamic not being healthy because his mistress was ignoring him was making a judgement you have no real right to make. each to their own and all that stuff.

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

*and the world revolves around me.  I can send you the memo  *wink
sunshine

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

*and the world revolves around me.  I can send you the memo  *wink
sunshine

Do you think if I get that etched in stone Valyraen will start believing it?

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Having a relationship with zero communication isn't healthy.

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ORIGINAL: osf

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Having a relationship with zero communication isn't healthy.

they're letting you know they have nothing to say

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: osf

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Having a relationship with zero communication isn't healthy.

they're letting you know they have nothing to say

And that they don't want to hear anything you have to say. Not healthy. IMHO, of course...

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ORIGINAL: osf

still a form of comunication

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No. It's really not. It's a lack of communication that, by it's absence, implies something as to the state of the relationship. If you are joking, it's not coming across.

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 Wondering *if* Mistress will talk to me is not healthy.  (whether on her part or the op's). 

OSF, it's the *IF* that is the problem here...

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ORIGINAL: osf

if i ask you if you have anything to say and you don't answer, you've answered in effect

a lack of communication is communicating they have nothing to say, and/or they don't think your worth talking too

we communicate on many different levels

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ORIGINAL: BeIgnited

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ORIGINAL: osf

if i ask you if you have anything to say and you don't answer, you've answered in effect

a lack of communication is communicating they have nothing to say, and/or they don't think your worth talking too

we communicate on many different levels

...or that they didn't hear the question or have suddenly been struck dumb.That the email didn't go through on either end or hasn't been read yet or the phone's been disconnected.

Saying nothing is too ambiguous to communicate anything definitely.

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

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ORIGINAL: sissyshoefetish

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ORIGINAL: EbonyWood

Just an apology for mentioning osf will be enough, because he will no doubt turn up here and think he has an impact.
 
Dont feed the trolls.
 
 

Then i humbly apologise for mentioning that contributor and i shall in future not feed the trolls.

Is E. W. now your Dom?  Is HE the one you are trying to please?  If not, then you don't owe him an apology.

Sunny,Tongue in cheek comment intended to show that both the OP looked like a serial apologiser, getting some humiliation kick that way, (and wasn't I proved correct!) and that osf, given his previous trolling, deserved little attention.
 
And I don't think osf is a troll.  I've had a couple of interesting conversations with him as have a few other folks.  Just because I don't like something someone says or I don't like the manner in which they say it doesn't mean they are trolls.

Sunshine, He IS a troll when he has explicitly stated that he says things for a reaction. There are numerous threads where he has stated that. He has also stated elsewhere on this thread that "agreement never makes you think". If you agree with that (ha) then every thread posing a position invalidates itself or becomes an argument. I don't think posting a thought or position in an articulate way is bad at all, but when your whole participation in a forum consists of making blank, usually unsupported, statements then yep, I think you are trolling - mostly for a reaction to get attention for yourself, and the comment was just a medium to get you there. My opinion.
 
Look, man, if you are going to follow what EVERY woman and EVERY dom says for your to do, you will go crazy.  You seem to be in a bit of sub frenzy.  (use the search button if you don't know what that term means). 

Your post is irritating - the whole fricking thread is irritating - Hence my posting not to feed it.
 
because you are acting like a jerk.  You are acting like a "doormat" ... you know... like you have no mind of your own.  To me that makes YOU more troll like than osf.  You want to be a useless, unthinking, pitiful shell, fine.  But don't say it's because you are submissive.  That's not submissive.  (A fairly common mistake for new folks or people in sub frenzy). 

Wake up.
sunshine

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ORIGINAL: osf

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No. It's really not. It's a lack of communication that, by it's absence, implies something as to the state of the relationship. If you are joking, it's not coming across.

if i ask you if you have anything to say and you don't answer, you've answered in effect

a lack of communication is communicating they have nothing to say, and/or they don't think your worth talking too

we communicate on many different levels