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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 3:20:02 PM   
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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 3:21:45 PM   
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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 3:26:16 PM   
mnottertail


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gonna miss that asstit.

shhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 3:32:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hi Acer

I have really strong bias on this. I feel if in a marriage it is hard enough to keep it going, without one or the other wanting to go outside of it. If staying for the kids, well sorry but the kids know. I do not believe anyone should stay in an abusive relationship either, but working with a lot of victims of abuse, it is somewhat understandable why it is hard to leave.

I am not addressing poly here either, cause imho it is amongst all people knowing and agreeing. That oddly i have no trouble with, providing it is in a grouping of an 'us'. To be married though and have a Dom or sub outside of your releationship, even if the married spouse knows to me is selfish. I am sure everyone who does this has their reasons, and they would have to, to make it right with them. For me, it could never be. If not happy, either of us , then we need to depart and set each other free. Just my opinion and how i live my life. I don't seek groupies and let others'do what they wish. To try to moralize it to them is useless, since they already have accepted their own truths, which isn't minr. Plus i dont believe in absolute truth, just a person's truth to themselve's and the responsibility it carries.


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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 3:34:20 PM   
Acer49


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ORIGINAL: deansslut

yes ace 49 your smug attitude or your opions was not asked for. Your opions on how other people run their lives should be kept to yourself. Remember opions are like assholes everybody has one, but not everyone wants to see or hear from them!!! He had no right to share our story with any of you. I've not read one constructive thing from your advice, just put downs and jugement, and the world is full of that. I truely feel sorry for you partner.


This is what is known as an open forum which people use for the exchange of ideas and thoughts. You are free to comment or not, reply or not, whatever works for you. It is not your right or responsibility to attempt to impose your views on what should be posted and what should not be.

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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 3:35:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lockit

No... it is just hidden... I still have my emails from her and if it was gone, gone... they would be gone too.


We are the lucky few...As the years roll on and the name deansslut  becomes a just distant memory for so many, as Jefff said, we shall always have something to hold on to...

In twenty, no thirty years from now I can see myself sitting besides a warming fire on a Wintery night...Gazing down, bathed in the firelight, as I strain my aged eyes to read these immortal words..."why you gonna cum from shy town and do something ? I thought not bitch suck some more dick.".....  

Beautiful in their simplicity.

Come back to me deansslut.  What does dean have that I do not?

You are my eternal flame and I shall always hunger for your presence.

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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 3:36:37 PM   
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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 3:37:16 PM   
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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 3:40:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: domiguy

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ORIGINAL: MMagic

<lifts her wig to scratch her head and wonders wtf happened to this thread> Started out well then degenerated to name calling? Ugh. <holds out her cup for tea and adjusts her wig as it's sitting crooked and shakes her head.>


I thought after watching "good hair" you would have finally gotten rid of that ol' nasty ass wig and gone all native and shit.

Without name calling and finger pointing how are we going to be able to identify the fucking asshats of the world?


I was already wearing my natural hair when good hair came out. So I thought I'd do the reverse. I gots me a front lace. Besides makes it easier to escape crazy Doms when they try to grab my hair. It slips right off and I keep running.  Hair as an escape tactic...learn it ladies.




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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 3:46:10 PM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		Smart ploy...I like how your profile photo has that blurred "yetiesque" feel to it. 

Is that your wig whirling about?  Is that when you gots you dat front lace?

Poor Deansslut...Now would be the appropriate time if you have any last thoughts you would like to add.

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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 3:49:21 PM   
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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 3:58:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: deansslut

fuck you you nasty fucking freak come and get me bitch you ain't shit !! nor do you know the whole story get back on your knees bitch for whatever fucking weirdo you serve and know your place. seen not heard.

Let me guess.
18
Never did any education.
Pimples all over his face so the girls laugh at him.
No job, ok maybe flipping burgers.
Sitting in his mom and dads basement and wanking of to his pc.

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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 4:00:34 PM   
Acer49


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ORIGINAL: wisdomtogive

Hi Acer

I have really strong bias on this. I feel if in a marriage it is hard enough to keep it going, without one or the other wanting to go outside of it. If staying for the kids, well sorry but the kids know. I do not believe anyone should stay in an abusive relationship either, but working with a lot of victims of abuse, it is somewhat understandable why it is hard to leave.

I am not addressing poly here either, cause imho it is amongst all people knowing and agreeing. That oddly i have no trouble with, providing it is in a grouping of an 'us'. To be married though and have a Dom or sub outside of your releationship, even if the married spouse knows to me is selfish. I am sure everyone who does this has their reasons, and they would have to, to make it right with them. For me, it could never be. If not happy, either of us , then we need to depart and set each other free. Just my opinion and how i live my life. I don't seek groupies and let others'do what they wish. To try to moralize it to them is useless, since they already have accepted their own truths, which isn't minr. Plus i dont believe in absolute truth, just a person's truth to themselve's and the responsibility it carries.


My former worked a battered women's shelter and the stories she would tell me. I don't think I could have wife who needed to get her needs met outside of a marriage. I know some who tried to do it, how successful they were, I don't know over the long term. but for me, I would rather see the marriage end. Yes we are not that slick, the offspring know. they feel the tension, they hear the heated discussions. I just don't see that as a good enviorment for them to be subjected to.

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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 4:59:12 PM   
Acer49


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ORIGINAL: antipode

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I do not believe people should stay in situations that require them to sneak around, or to be dishonest with their partner in any way.


Good thing you are not in charge. It really isn't any of your business how others live their lives, how inadequate they are, how they deal with their foibles. If you wanted to demonstrate, through your car collection and the overabundance of words in your profile, combined with the smug attitude demonstrated here, that you're better than the rest of us, you've been wildly successful. None of this constitutes a personality, this is a pretty standard way to manipulate people into confirming your inflexible opinions. It always amazes me when somone goes "I am not here to judge anyone", then to proceed and do exactly that. If you really wanted to understand you'd have asked questions.


And my motivation for wanting to manipulate you would be what? It amazes me how two people can read the same thing and come away with two diverse opinions. And my profile is some how relevent? And you think I feel that I am somehow better than you. I don't think we are reading the same thing? Questions, yes I did ask several.

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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 5:05:23 PM   
Lucienne


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Status: offline 		So, um... what happened here? Husband of deansslut made the post on the first page under her handle?

Before things got crazy I was totally prepared to start a post with "this reminds of that episode of Coach where Coach and Christine tried to convince the AD and his squeaky wife that they needed to be more honest with each other about their feelings and it ended with the AD and wife all upset from the honesty and deciding that they were happier lying to each other because none of the lies mattered at the end of the day."

I guess my planned post would've ended like that, too. So, take THAT crazy tangent!

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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 5:19:20 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		The thread did go tits up there for a while, or tits down, depending on how you look at it.



Edited to Add.....  I'm starting to wonder if Eleven is off visiting relatives for the holidays or has bumped her head and slipped into a coma somewhere.  Best wishes to you, wherever you are.



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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 5:37:08 PM   
Acer49


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ORIGINAL: ranja

Acer i am not bovvered about your heartfelt sympathies at all

it is not so much about having my all important 'needs' met that i come here, it is about injecting additional fun and games into my life and to learn
These are lessons and fun and games i could well live without if He would forbid me to come here... then i would probably just read more books and watch more tv.

Nobody ever is a 100% true to another or even themselves, absolutely everybody fibs at one time or another
and to leave a partner just because you do not 100% honestly fit together means that you will be alone a lot of the time and i think it is a stupid decision to just leave someone because of this total honesty bs and having to have your needs met totally all the time...
i think people generally should be more realistic and patient and more creative and forgiving and more and also less selfish and try harder to stick together no matter what

maybe some people get their rocks off being- or having- a dirty little secret...
why judge?

oh and btw maybe by coming here (pardon the pun) some people actually safe their marriage and manage to pull things back together.. i know i did



it is not so much about having my all important 'needs' met that i come here, it is about injecting additional fun and games into my life and to learn
These are lessons and fun and games i could well live without if He would forbid me to come here... then i would probably just read more books and watch more tv.

OK, this is does not apply to you. Comming here, making friends, posting in the forums, I never said or implied there was anything wrong with that

Nobody ever is a 100% true to another or even themselves, absolutely everybody fibs at one time or another
and to leave a partner just because you do not 100% honestly fit together means that you will be alone a lot of the time and i think it is a stupid decision to just leave someone because of this total honesty bs and having to have your needs met totally all the time...

Since I have no idea what you are, let say you were a submissive who truly believed that was what you needed, the emotional bond with dom/me. You would give that all up for the sake of your partner? My post is about the person who felt they needed it so bad, but was unwilling to tell their partner and then tries to do it behind their back.

i think people generally should be more realistic and patient and more creative and forgiving and more and also less selfish and try harder to stick together no matter what

Would that include attempting to turn a vanilla person into a Dom/me or a submissive? That could be quite an undertaking

maybe some people get their rocks off being- or having- a dirty little secret...
why judge?

Well if one was and the secret got out, it more than likely hurt someone and some may view that as selfish and insensitive

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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 5:59:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
The thread did go tits up there for a while, or tits down, depending on how you look at it.



Edited to Add.....  I'm starting to wonder if Eleven is off visiting relatives for the holidays or has bumped her head and slipped into a coma somewhere.  Best wishes to you, wherever you are.

Obviously I hope Eleven is fine too, but I see no reason to think there's anything "going on."  I haven't been around much, but I know 2009 has been a quiet year on the boards -- there have even been threads about it.  Alpha as much as welcomed Jeffffffff (sp?) back personally, and I doubt that other guy's "lifetime ban" disappeared by itself.  It's the holidays -- and what better way to ring in the New Year than with a couple of firecrackers?

I'm looking forward to 2010.  My guess is that as long as nobody does anything hateful -- or talks about anything idiotically stupid (like sex with minors) -- we're in for a hell of a ride.  I feel the way I did when I first joined.  All these people, with so many backgrounds and experiences totally different from mine.  I can learn something from almost everyone... and laugh my head off doing so.  I think it's cool as fuck.


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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 6:05:38 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Not to hijack the thread at all, but you have got to give the comedy timing award to Ward and June.  I thought I was going to laugh Myself out of the chair with the tea bit.

(Sorry, Acer, but it had to be said.)


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RE: Married People and the Lifestyle - 12/28/2009 9:06:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		-I can't believe you low lifes had nothing better to do all day then talk shit about me,that made my day. thanks just love to piss people off and see what their really made of. were not even in the life ,just wanted some where to piss people off . Where better to do that then here. the whole story was to bring out the defenders , and it did . good job..

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