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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 9:16:46 AM   
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when did you decide to stop not being a dom/slave

stop not being is the heart of the question




This is implying that you weren't of a dominant/submissive nature and then actively chose to become so for whatever reason. I think that we are trying to say that it isn't a choice.  You may come to the realization that you are, indeed, a dominant/submissive personality, but you don't just wake up one day and decide, "Hey, I was vanilla yesterday.  Let's see what being submissive is like today.  And tomorrow, I'll try being dominant just for kicks!"



when did you decide to stop, not being a dom/slave


does the coma help?


Ok, if you mean when did I decide to cease not being a submissive than the answer is still the same. I never did. I always was submissive. I couldn't decide to stop not being one because I always was one just like I was always bisexual and I've always been female.

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 9:18:58 AM   
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when did you decide to stop, not being a dom/slave


does the coma help?


If this is a coma, I don't want to know what the real world is like.

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 9:29:16 AM   
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when did you decide to stop, not being a dom/slave


does the coma help?


If this is a coma, I don't want to know what the real world is like.



i have no idea, i thought i had a good idea for a topic, one that interests me but it just started going that ------> way

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 9:38:04 AM   
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i have no idea, i thought i had a good idea for a topic, one that interests me but it just started going that ------> way


I think the problem is that it is not entirely clear.  I saw the question as asking "when did you actively decide to reject your vanilla lifestyle?" as a switching of the more traditional, "when did you decide to become dominant/submissive?"

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 9:40:18 AM   
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the world is round

i don't like roll playing, i couldn't do it with out laughing

i am who i am , she is who she is and we live a real life, it's just that i like abusing the bitch

there's no higher purpose for what i do, it's base, it's deviant and it's highly sexual, and there's no growth, whatever that is

my attitude makes many uncomfortable, they think my attitude is that women are inferior which is far from the case

it is just that the woman i want, want's what i want to do to her, for that i make no apology

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 9:42:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't see anyone saying anything about role-playing nor do I think your attitude has made anyone uncomfortable. Just that we often can't tell when you are joking.

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 9:44:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		Never was other than who I am. However having a brain, I chose when and who I would submit to. So I didn't submit to any one person until I met one I could totally respect and trust. Which by no means says that I wasn't submissive beforehand, I just didn't allow it out willy nilly.

The question assumes action means personality. It is as senseless as asking when I chose to become female when you mean when did I become sexually active. I'm still female even when I am not in a relationship and celibate. I'm still submissive even when not in a relationship and not submitting.

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 9:45:54 AM   
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I don't see anyone saying anything about role-playing nor do I think your attitude has made anyone uncomfortable. Just that we often can't tell when you are joking.


if i'm being derisive you'll know it

usually if i don't exactly appreciate you, you'r ignored

i have better things to do than carry on a feud

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 9:49:07 AM   
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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 9:55:55 AM   
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when did you decide to stop not being a dom/slave



I was 50, if You're talking about first enlightenment.  I remember it well.  It was a submissive man that I met on a vanilla dating site who explained to me what a submissive is.  I then realized I always have been, but that vanilla men didn't appreciate the difference between that and being a doormat, and that's when I became aware of why it always felt like there was something missing in my relationships.  At that point I started investigating things on the web and found myself signing up for a bdsm dating site.  After that came my first encounter, and I realized what had been missing in my relationships up until then.  I also realized I'd never go back to 'nilla.  It's not like I was actively avoiding being a sub, I just didn't know anything about it. 

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 9:56:41 AM   
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I don't see anyone saying anything about role-playing nor do I think your attitude has made anyone uncomfortable. Just that we often can't tell when you are joking.


if i'm being derisive you'll know it

usually if i don't exactly appreciate you, you'r ignored

i have better things to do than carry on a feud



I didn't say you were being derisive.

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 9:59:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: osf


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I don't see anyone saying anything about role-playing nor do I think your attitude has made anyone uncomfortable. Just that we often can't tell when you are joking.


if i'm being derisive you'll know it

usually if i don't exactly appreciate you, you'r ignored

i have better things to do than carry on a feud



I didn't say you were being derisive.


i know you didn't i was just explaining for future reference

tell you what, if you have any question on my meaning, ask

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 10:00:09 AM   
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I had to find a new path that would allow me to plunder the oddest of orifi.

I first dabbled in some ren faire activities but those fuckers don't bathe. Then I moseyed on over to a tottling little town called Gor.  The pussy, though large, was enjoyable, but I was soon spotted as a fraud when I mentioned that I thought John Norman was a part of the original cast of "Three's Company."

The I decided to become a Dom.  Been nothing but a walk in the park....Knee deep in gash and blowjobs to spare. 

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 10:00:49 AM   
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It's not like I was actively avoiding being a sub, I just didn't know anything about it. 


zakly, but even after awaking some try to suppress it

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 10:02:16 AM   
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i know you didn't i was just explaining for future reference

tell you what, if you have any question on my meaning, ask


I usually do. I just don't see what your two posts there had to do with the thread or anyone else's post.

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 10:02:59 AM   
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love that, i'm stealing it

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 10:59:22 AM   
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if i'm being derisive you'll know it

usually if i don't exactly appreciate you, you'r ignored



That speaks volumes about how you communicate here, both with those you do 'appreciate' and with those who you don't. It's not an equal exchange, you call the shots.

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i have better things to do than carry on a feud



If you don't appreciate someone ('s posts), the other person is automatically attempting to carry on a feud? Interesting.

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 11:01:41 AM   
osf


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ORIGINAL: Dominasola

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ORIGINAL: osf

i have no idea, i thought i had a good idea for a topic, one that interests me but it just started going that ------> way


I think the problem is that it is not entirely clear.  I saw the question as asking "when did you actively decide to reject your vanilla lifestyle?" as a switching of the more traditional, "when did you decide to become dominant/submissive?"



actually i don't mind any of those interpretations, they are all good for discussions

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 11:04:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		I believe one can choose to act on being what they are inside, so based on that yes you can start and stop, choosing to act or not act on something.

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Is it something we can influence..or start/stop?
I don't know. It is like the sun going up or down.....no influence..it just happens/happened.

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 11:05:40 AM   
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That speaks volumes about how you communicate here, both with those you do 'appreciate' and with those who you don't. It's not an equal exchange, you call the shots.


you have to be more than an asshole before i get to that point

i don't have to like you to exchange ideas

but when exchanging barbs would become disruptive, i ignore you

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