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RE: when did you decide - 12/24/2009 5:18:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I never decided. I have always been attracted to dominant personality men. Culturally I grew up in a place where men are head of the household, their word is the last word and their wives submit to them..ya know..traditional relationships. It's all I've ever known. It's what I feel comfortable in.

comfort is way underated

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RE: when did you decide - 12/25/2009 6:10:10 PM

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29. Sitting on the toilet in the house I shared with my first husband. Reading some bdsm fiction. It was an instant change for me. What I realized was that it didn't have to be a fantasy in my head. Pre-internet days, sheltered life, I didn't know anyone else real liked what I liked. But it finally dawned on me that if someone real could write this sort of thing, then someone real could also like it and practice it...and therefore so could I. Kinknito ego sum! Or something like that. ;)

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RE: when did you decide - 12/25/2009 6:25:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: CaringandReal

29. Sitting on the toilet in the house I shared with my first husband. Reading some bdsm fiction. It was an instant change for me. What I realized was that it didn't have to be a fantasy in my head. Pre-internet days, sheltered life, I didn't know anyone else real liked what I liked. But it finally dawned on me that if someone real could write this sort of thing, then someone real could also like it and practice it...and therefore so could I. Kinknito ego sum! Or something like that. ;)

i always thought if i'm like this then others are like me

and then i realized that if i wanted something there was someone wanting to give it to me

it's shared humanity/psychology

none of us is special

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RE: when did you decide - 12/26/2009 4:47:35 AM

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AAh yes, Ilove this question, brings back fond memories. When did I decide to become a freak? Hell, I could not get away from it. Looking back on it, I feel that my experances have been beautiful, epic, life affirming and mostly understood it at the time.
When I was 15 years old I Started pulling tricks, downtown big town that I lived in. I learned that men are pigs at 15, At 16 is when I lost it to females; prison sex;), locked up in a large youth home, co-ed!70 80 kids or so, we banged like caged monkeys or do they? simi-communul public sex was the way, we snuck around and watched out and watched each other. the girls mostly, rare did a girl go to the boys house. Anyhow I learned that females are relentless and I became in tranced. Due to the metropolitan area I settled in. I was able to live two lives.Hetro here Homo there. It was an outrage. 18 y.o. in the bathhouses, wulf the things that went on in those places. Through my young adulthood I maintained a few boy/girl love affairs, Like a normal guy. Even had a shame wedding in Vegas. When I was 23 I lived with a Woman ten years my senior. It was the other education of john. For three years I had the blessings of Her attention. just amazing. She refined me, cultured me and had a ribbon kink. I'd find a selection of ribbons on the bed or a chair brought up from the kitchen. What I learned the most ,was to slow down, foreplay can last for hours. Well, that and how to run a house. Good times, all of it.
I did decide, every time.
Did I tell you Im bi and switch ( insert curious grin here)

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