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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 11:07:17 AM   
lally2


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Status: offline 		maybe it would have been better put, - when did you decide to do something about it. - maybe

the thing is you dont really 'become' submissive - cant speak for doms, but generally speaking you are what you are.

for myself ive always been me and for years i thought i was a lonely freak with wierd fantasies. so i kept my fantasies to myself and had no clue that there even was Ds or Ms

i discovered D/s on aol, ages ago - it blew my brains out. things made sense suddenly and from there ive done everything i can to learn as much as i can about 'it' and me.

i knew about BDSM and kink - but i had no idea that people lived this life, in the way that i had fantasised about it, since i was a kid.

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 11:09:27 AM   
Jeffff


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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 11:10:22 AM   
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for myself ive always been me and for years i thought i was a lonely freak with wierd fantasies.


you are but come on in with the rest of us

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 12:23:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

It was a tuesday.


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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 12:28:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

It was a tuesday.


But which! C'on man we need dates and times! To the minute!

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 12:31:47 PM   
Jeffff


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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 12:32:37 PM   
AquaticSub


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How am I supposed to calculate the star charts of when twue doms are made without accurate information....

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 12:35:02 PM   
Jeffff


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I am still waiting for the definetive thread!

late afternoon


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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 12:36:09 PM   
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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 1:48:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: osf

quote:

for myself ive always been me and for years i thought i was a lonely freak with wierd fantasies.


you are but come on in with the rest of us



well ok, since im here

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So all I have to do in order to serve him, is to work out exactly how improbable he is, feed that figure into the finite improbability generator, give him a fresh cup of really hot tea ... and turn him on!

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 1:50:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

I am not sure if I am true or fake.

I am still waiting for the definetive thread!

late afternoon


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if she believes your lies you'r true

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 1:56:50 PM   
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Well, it was in the afternoon, if that helps



you wouldnt happen to live in chicago, illinois by any chance, its just that i remember reading that the constellations collided on a tuesday afternoon and the whole of chicago, illinois was showered in a great domly energy of magnificance - so it might have been that tuesday. the coincidence is compelling.

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 2:04:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lally2

you wouldnt happen to live in chicago, illinois by any chance, its just that i remember reading that the constellations collided on a tuesday afternoon and the whole of chicago, illinois was showered in a great domly energy of magnificance - so it might have been that tuesday. the coincidence is compelling.


ILLINOIS!

It all makes sense now! You see the Big Bang created a clusterfuck of Domliness which has been showering down in the weather patterns... yes, YES!

*goes to write her One Twue Way book*

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It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 2:06:14 PM   
Jeffff


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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 2:15:22 PM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		I can look back at my whole life and realize that I've been submissive the entire time. Every fantasy I have ever had has revolved around power exchange, domination and rape....long before I even knew what sex or any of those things were. I didn't accept it until my late 30's. I have no choice as to whether or not this is part of my life because it is a core part of me.

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 2:51:01 PM   
Acer49


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ORIGINAL: osf

the question is often asked when did you decide to be a dom/slave

as i always have a different take on things such as the early worm gets eaten, i turned the question around and it becomes, when did you decide to stop not being a dom/slave

i'd like to hear other opinions


A little over 30 years ago

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 3:35:08 PM   
LadyAngelika


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There wasn't a decision involved. I just am.


Initially I was going to ditto AquaticSub. But I'm going to modify it slightly and I slowly came into myself. I've always had a dominant personality but I only really started becoming comfortable with it being a part of my sexuality in my early 30s. I had experiences prior to that on both sides dom/sub but really got to know what I wanted after I met my mentor.

Everyone gets to where they are going at different rythms and by different paths. The importance is discovering who we are and what makes us happy.

- LA

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 3:41:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

quote:

There wasn't a decision involved. I just am.


Initially I was going to ditto AquaticSub. But I'm going to modify it slightly and I slowly came into myself. I've always had a dominant personality but I only really started becoming comfortable with it being a part of my sexuality in my early 30s. I had experiences prior to that on both sides dom/sub but really got to know what I wanted after I met my mentor.

Everyone gets to where they are going at different rythms and by different paths. The importance is discovering who we are and what makes us happy.

- LA


it seems to take dominant types longer to sort out the details

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 4:08:28 PM   
LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: osf


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

quote:

There wasn't a decision involved. I just am.


Initially I was going to ditto AquaticSub. But I'm going to modify it slightly and I slowly came into myself. I've always had a dominant personality but I only really started becoming comfortable with it being a part of my sexuality in my early 30s. I had experiences prior to that on both sides dom/sub but really got to know what I wanted after I met my mentor.

Everyone gets to where they are going at different rythms and by different paths. The importance is discovering who we are and what makes us happy.

- LA


it seems to take dominant types longer to sort out the details


Without having actual evidence of this, I will say that I wouldn't be surprised if that comment was true.

For me it's really, the hesitation to fully accept my sexuality is threefold:


  • The Dominant Woman: If I had a dime for everytime I heard something along the lines of "Men don't like aggressive women, they might have them as a lover but they won't be the woman they marry. Try working on acting more demure, more passive." Wanting a stable, lasting relationship, I tried to suppress this side of me, but of course it would resurface and it would cause tension. I've always been attracted to socially dominant men, so this rarely turned out well for me. It wasn't until I started meeting socially dominant men who desired to be submissive in a relationship that things started to go better.

  • The Bisexual Woman: Now my dominant side worked better with certain women (not all) and so I stayed on this side of the fence for a while. But I always felt incomplete in relationships with women. I really feel more complete in a relationship with a man. That took some time to figure out too.

  • The Sadistic Woman: This was the scariest bit. The first time a boy put a crop whip in my hand, I was 27. We started to play, at first he wanted more so I let myself go, and as I did, I started to feel so incredibly alive and excited. When he started telling me that it was getting too much, I didn't want to stop. It took everything in me to stop (to be honest, he had to beg me a few times to stop). That scared the crap out of me. I mean, what kind of monster was I? I didn't want to be this? I was a good person. It took another 3 years before I picked up another torture instrument. In the meantime, I was a bottom to sadistic tops, trying to understand this dynamic.

I can talk about this clearly now. Hindsight is 20/20. It wasn't so clear while it was going on. It was actually really confusing at times.

It feels so good to have a clear grasp on where I'm going now. A great deal of this I owe to my mentor, a Sadistic dominant man. Also, being on these forums 5 years ago and lately have helped a lot in talking it (writing it) through.

- LA

< Message edited by LadyAngelika -- 12/23/2009 4:12:06 PM >

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RE: when did you decide - 12/23/2009 6:35:55 PM   
lally2


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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2

you wouldnt happen to live in chicago, illinois by any chance, its just that i remember reading that the constellations collided on a tuesday afternoon and the whole of chicago, illinois was showered in a great domly energy of magnificance - so it might have been that tuesday. the coincidence is compelling.


ILLINOIS!

It all makes sense now! You see the Big Bang created a clusterfuck of Domliness which has been showering down in the weather patterns... yes, YES!

*goes to write her One Twue Way book*



yes well dont forget that i am the font of all universal knowledge where submission is concerned, so ill need to approve it

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So all I have to do in order to serve him, is to work out exactly how improbable he is, feed that figure into the finite improbability generator, give him a fresh cup of really hot tea ... and turn him on!

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