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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/27/2009 2:34:56 PM

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osf your here on cm expecting a poetry reading at the library of congress?
Why not. Littlepet cmail me and I'll send you some poetry.

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/27/2009 2:38:43 PM

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osf your here on cm expecting a poetry reading at the library of congress?
Why not. Littlepet cmail me and I'll send you some poetry.

i thought you were a gentleman

you would inflict me on lilpet?

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/27/2009 2:50:44 PM

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There once was a big burly dom
Who ubered with vicious aplomb.
Along came a sub
Looking for lub
So he tamed her and made her a mom.

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/27/2009 2:53:59 PM

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There once was a big burly dom
Who ubered with vicious aplomb.
Along came a sub
Looking for lub
So he tamed her and made her a mom.

interesting, i think

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/27/2009 3:57:49 PM

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There once was a big burly dom
Who ubered with vicious aplomb.
Along came a sub
Looking for lub
So he tamed her and made her a mom.

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/27/2009 4:02:10 PM

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osf your here on cm expecting a poetry reading at the library of congress?
Why not. Littlepet cmail me and I'll send you some poetry.

Found this message.

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/27/2009 4:15:36 PM

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Awwww. I'd like to grovel to you, for all the world to see, for blowing you off when I was in the northeast. I wrote you, said I wanted to meet you, and then dropped it like a rock. I didn't see how to make it work; maybe someone better at scheduling could have. ... And, dayum girl! Your new pic is hotttttttttt. (You know I'm still male, right?)

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/27/2009 4:28:52 PM

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Awwww. I'd like to grovel to you, for all the world to see, for blowing you off when I was in the northeast. I wrote you, said I wanted to meet you, and then dropped it like a rock. I didn't see how to make it work; maybe someone better at scheduling could have. ... And, dayum girl! Your new pic is hotttttttttt. (You know I'm still male, right?)

It was my fault just as much as yours. I know that you were pretty busy, and NJ is a trip from Boston. One of these days we'll be in the same time zone again, and I'll take a few days off work and drive to wherever you are.

Not that I object to you groveling, mind you. Nope. Do not object at all. (I'm glad that you like the new pic.

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/27/2009 9:20:39 PM

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It might not be your intent... it is your result......

lets say it's your interpretation

why can't the intention of the op be the accepted intention instead of the intention of those that merely read

Yes... it is indeed my interpretation of the OP as you present it. This doesn't discount your intention... just that your behavior as I interpeted it doesn't support your intentions.

So either... my interpretation is incorrect of your behavior... or your behavior conveys and reveals a subtle undercurrent of emotions you have for your situation. I thinking the latter rather than the former.... but I suspect you will disagree.

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/27/2009 9:44:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: osf

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It might not be your intent... it is your result......

lets say it's your interpretation

why can't the intention of the op be the accepted intention instead of the intention of those that merely read

Yes... it is indeed my interpretation of the OP as you present it. This doesn't discount your intention... just that your behavior as I interpeted it doesn't support your intentions.

So either... my interpretation is incorrect of your behavior... or your behavior conveys and reveals a subtle undercurrent of emotions you have for your situation. I thinking the latter rather than the former.... but I suspect you will disagree.

define behavior in the context of posting here, what does that mean

now if you want to pick apart my words and disagree thats another thing

but being under incessant nagging attack is enough to frazzle you at times

i have no problem with legitimate critique , hell people that always agree with me bore me

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/27/2009 9:56:59 PM

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to simplify the reason for this thread, it's about the psychology of some dominants and submissive and how it hinders them getting together, it really isn't as simple as hey bitch on your knees, though i wish it were and i bet so do they

how to spank and how to do this , that and the other, i have little interest in hearing adnausium, i'm more into feelings, emotions and drives

i love the mental/emotional aspects of authority, i don't see it as my power over her, to me i have the right/authority to control, that right stems from the natures of the two participants

in conclusion i'm only speaking about a small subset of the larger bdsm cohort

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/28/2009 6:37:19 AM

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OP - have you even looked at your profile from the standpoint of a "real woman" who is a Sub and not someone who wants to be used and abused? There is nothing there that says: this is someone I could trust, someone who would care for me, someone who can care for me, and someone I can respect. From what I read it does not even look like you know what you want out of this lifestyle.

Sorry but why would he care about how his profile reads to someone who is by definition NOT what he's looking for. If he wants a hardcore TPE relationship he shouldn't have to sanitize his profile so that it seems more interesting to women who aren't looking for the same.

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/28/2009 9:14:09 AM

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Everytime I look at the title of this thread, I imagine a really bad sitcom.

Probably staring Jim Belushi.

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/28/2009 9:28:59 AM

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Everytime I look at the title of this thread, I imagine a really bad sitcom.

Probably staring Jim Belushi.

Jeff

the title could have been more descriptive

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/28/2009 11:45:54 PM

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Elisabella Sorry but why would he care about how his profile reads to someone who is by definition NOT what he's looking for. If he wants a hardcore TPE relationship he shouldn't have to sanitize his profile so that it seems more interesting to women who aren't looking for the same.
Because the bottom line is that he has a sales job to do! Even if he is a "woman hater" looking for a 24/7 person who wants to be abused. I mean you don't go to the pickup bar dressed like the homeless mentally ill person you see on the corner wearing the garbage sack, with clothes that have not been washed in two weeks, smelling of urine and alchohol because you've spilled both on you resently and expect to meet someone who would want to be with you. His profile sucks but maybe that is good because the last thing the world needs is another abused woman.

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/29/2009 3:57:38 AM

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Honestly, i can't see any woman who sees herself as submissive would willingly become linked to a man who is so proud of the fact he's a misogynist he puts it in his signature.

A submissive/slave needs to know that she is precious to her Master, and any man who proudly hates women can't possibly feel that.

i think you need to seek help about your woman-hating.

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/29/2009 7:56:04 AM

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Elisabella Sorry but why would he care about how his profile reads to someone who is by definition NOT what he's looking for. If he wants a hardcore TPE relationship he shouldn't have to sanitize his profile so that it seems more interesting to women who aren't looking for the same.
Because the bottom line is that he has a sales job to do! Even if he is a "woman hater" looking for a 24/7 person who wants to be abused. I mean you don't go to the pickup bar dressed like the homeless mentally ill person you see on the corner wearing the garbage sack, with clothes that have not been washed in two weeks, smelling of urine and alchohol because you've spilled both on you resently and expect to meet someone who would want to be with you. His profile sucks but maybe that is good because the last thing the world needs is another abused woman.

as i see it my job is to convince her she doesn't really want me

her job is to convince me she does

since most see me as extreme i'm open about it

there are very few for me

so what's the beef?

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/29/2009 7:57:18 AM

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Honestly, i can't see any woman who sees herself as submissive would willingly become linked to a man who is so proud of the fact he's a misogynist he puts it in his signature.

A submissive/slave needs to know that she is precious to her Master, and any man who proudly hates women can't possibly feel that.

i think you need to seek help about your woman-hating.

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Honestly, i can't see any woman who sees herself as submissive would willingly become linked to a man who is so proud of the fact he's a misogynist he puts it in his signature.

A submissive/slave needs to know that she is precious to her Master, and any man who proudly hates women can't possibly feel that.

i think you need to seek help about your woman-hating.

all i can say about that is that you must have a sad humorless life

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/29/2009 8:35:13 AM

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all i can say about that is that you must have a sad humorless life

Misogyny isn't usually seen as something full of humour.

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RE: the trouble with doms - 12/29/2009 8:44:11 AM

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all i can say about that is that you must have a sad humorless life

Misogyny isn't usually seen as something full of humour.

like i said humorless

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