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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 5:25:19 PM

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And doesn't everyone, or at least most of us, really want to be "done"?

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 5:31:34 PM

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And done well.

Not "well done". *hopes that osf guy doesn't show up with his bbq spit*

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 5:38:27 PM

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If you want the relationship to last, then you have to acknowledge that it is a relationship and that both people must get their needs and wants met most of the time. And a dominant who is so selfish as to insist on the sub being profoundly unhappy, or who does things to the detriment of the relationship as a whole, is one who isn't going to have a sub for long.

Both of us should be do-me, both of us need to be satisfied and fulfilled. Compatibility is when our desires coincide.

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 5:45:14 PM

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And done well.

and done often

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 5:46:34 PM

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Hijacking is what I do..... or used too.

As I said I am rusty. Give me a couple of days and I will be fine.

Give me a week and I will be moderated.

give me an inch.....................

Jeff

It's Christmas...you asking as your Christmas wish to be moderated?/ **waits to see if it's still the giving season** or wait, in reality, are you secretly telling that you need to be given an inch or two or three??????

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 5:52:20 PM

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Hijacking is what I do..... or used too.

As I said I am rusty. Give me a couple of days and I will be fine.

Give me a week and I will be moderated.

give me an inch.....................

Jeff

It's Christmas...you asking as your Christmas wish to be moderated?/ **waits to see if it's still the giving season** or wait, in reality, are you secretly telling that you need to be given an inch or two or three??????

Ok that was some funny shit.

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 5:53:21 PM

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Are we talking rope.....or....?

:)

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 5:55:13 PM

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Notice****this is my personal opinion.

BDSM honors a dbl standard. It is the way it is set up. S-type is order to go find their Dom/mee another s-type so Dom/mee can play. Now can you see if a s-type asked her Dom to go to the boards and find a D type for her to play? Perhaps that does it happen, i don't know, but at tleast the D would have to give their approval, while the s has no say. If s type tries to have a say or remarks how that makes them feel, then s type is told my way or highway. Even if it was known and agreed upon that D type would not do this to s type,, if the D changes their mind and wants that experience down the road, s type obeys, or leaves. if she leaves what happens with her self -esteem? How does she feel in measuring up to being the ultiminate 'true' submissive? Do me Dom, who is not emotionally invested in his s-type or their relationship would just go and find another s-type. This, imo, is a do me Dom. One who gives the indication that it is a relationship, but takes no responsibility for how their s-type feels about anything they are told to do. They have trained thier s-type in a way that makes Them to their s-type to be MASTER. That word carries more weight to the s-type and to go against their training can have problematic results in their idenitity.

Yes some submissives and many slaves come with wanting to please all their Dom's desires. Some s-types are not emotionally invested in their Dom either, but i am referring to those who are and their whole essence is in the continuance to serve their Dom. When the Dom does not reach out to them to offer emotional support and understanding, the s-type that needs that and has been led to beleive He/SHE is always there to do so, can become very confuse. They let their Dom down, but the Dom also did not live up to their part of the 'promise'. to honor and listen and help them through those times.

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 5:59:56 PM

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And doesn't everyone, or at least most of us, really want to be "done"?

Jeff

smiles...i cannot wait to have done MD Sir in less then 3 weeks. completely done.....smiles..walks away

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 6:02:56 PM

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How does she feel in measuring up to being the ultiminate 'true' submissive?

That would depend on what her defintion of being a true submissive was. Now, I think most would see that the dominant in your scenario was a deal-breaker, and not true to their word, and would realize that perhaps the failure belonged to him. I realize some would not see this, and would blame themselves, and doubt themselves.

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 6:16:13 PM

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 6:19:26 PM

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And done well.

I prefer to think of myself as "rare"

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 6:21:00 PM

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And done well.

I prefer to think of myself as "rare"

Mmmmm, pink.

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 6:23:29 PM

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One of my favorite lines from a movie...

Rhett Butler, to Scarlet: "You should be kissed, and kissed often, and By somebody that knows how!"

*sorry to hijack Wisdomtogive*

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 6:25:15 PM

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And done well.

I prefer to think of myself as "rare"

Mmmmm, pink.

And a little bloody......

OK, maybe not.....

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 6:25:35 PM

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Dominants are pushy??!?!?!!?!?!!?

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 6:30:31 PM

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And done well.

I prefer to think of myself as "rare"

Mmmmm, pink.

And a little bloody......

OK, maybe not.....

Hee hee

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 6:54:43 PM

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Lady angelika
Thank you for both posts, and your suggestion on the 2nd post:)

by the way i really do like your s/n

wisdom

Aw thanks :-)

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 7:20:08 PM

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RE: Do ME - 12/26/2009 7:22:30 PM

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My two cents:

For me, all of this, dating, collarme, BDSM, all of it, is an intricate attempt to get someone who wants to do things together with someone who wants those same things done to them. Period, full stop, end of statement.

I want to tie you up, you want to be tied up. You want to be covered in milk chocolate? I want to lick your body and have a snack at the same time. You don't want to cook? I want to impose my will on this porkchop. There is nothing wrong in my book with a dom wanting things, or a sub needing things, or for a dom to have hard limits, or for a sub to have things they really don't want to do.

Sure, having a desire to please your partener makes finding someone easier, but it's okay to want things. I want a lot of things, among them a woman who wants things. Too many times I feel that anger at some self-absorbed asshat gets translated into bashing anyone, dominant or submissive, who isn't a dishrag.

*steps down off the soapbox*

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