Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

Ending relationships, what were your reasons?


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> Ending relationships, what were your reasons? Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 9:09:00 AM   
gorlove


Posts: 12
Joined: 12/5/2009
Status: offline 		Hi, seems the majority on here have a few bad stories, and i am not looking for anyone to give me a detailed account, just a quick answer, like things got old, things weren't the way they were promised, turned out He/She/Them were liars or way too sick, or what.
My reasons, people lie about who they are, what they want, the way things will be and it gets to the point it's intolerable. So, subs, slaves, former poly parnters, anyone who was in anytype of submissive role in a relationship, why did it end?
Thanks!
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 9:17:07 AM   
breatheasone


Posts: 4004
Joined: 7/14/2007
Status: offline 		All of the things you mentioned don't HAVE TO end a relationship, although i realize one, or all of those most likely would.  i ended a relationship with a D-type, He and i had talked about, and agreed to, a "one on one" relationship. It was crystal clear i didn't want to share, or be shared. Apparently he thought i had said "one at a time"  LOL....He wanted to play the field....so i left him to it.... This was 3 years ago easy, and he STILL *pings* me every few months to see if i'll respond LOL.

< Message edited by breatheasone -- 12/28/2009 9:46:33 AM >

_____________________________

Romans 10:13,For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
Mike posts in black font
candy posts in pink font

(in reply to gorlove)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 9:36:53 AM   
ErikaTate1


Posts: 23
Joined: 11/19/2007
Status: offline 		Ending a relationship..... Hmmm...  as is said 'It's complicated!'  We enter into a special place with another.  We have hopes!  Ideas?!  Wants!  Needs!!  Desires!  We try to  communicate and enter into anothers life - assuming you want to be close....  Sometimes, words get in the way.  Then there are actions....  and sometimes,  they're not experienced in the same way, on the same plain!
 
Did both Partners want the same thing, in the same way?  When that fit isn't exact,  are those involved willing to bend/accommodate?  How much do those present want to make a 'relationship' work?!  How patient are they to persevere?  How devoted??  How forgiving?
 
Does the Domina make the all the decisions in this?  Or does a submissive retain an exit clause?!
 
Since hindsight is  one hundred percent,  I can only smile knowingly..... waiting patiently.....  looking forward to what will be.

(in reply to gorlove)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 10:28:22 AM   
Missokyst


Posts: 6041
Joined: 9/9/2006
Status: offline 		I ended mine because as long as I was with him he could avoid the issues that had to be faced. I left him for his benefit not mine. Things worked out for him once I was no longer the crutch. I don't regret my action even though things did not work out as well for me. Hmm.. this is the second time I have pulled the plug on a relationship for someone else's benefit. Most other endings just fizzled out so gradually there was barely a ripple.

(in reply to gorlove)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 10:29:25 AM   
sweetsub1957


Posts: 2201
Joined: 4/28/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: gorlove

anyone who was in anytype of submissive role in a relationship, why did it end?

I would still be with my last Sir, if He hadn't died.  BUT, I did have one relationship end abruptly when He dumped me for my religion.  After quite awhile the subject came up and, oh well. 

_____________________________

Member: Lance's Fag Hags.

"That's not just a chip on her shoulder, that's the whole potato!" ~Lady Angelika~

In lowering yourself to talking behind my back, you're perfectly positioned to kiss my ass.

An it harm none, do what ye wilt.

(in reply to gorlove)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 10:38:43 AM   
sexyred1


Posts: 8998
Joined: 8/9/2007
Status: offline 		I ended a long term relationship this year for a complex, but in the end, simple reason:

The pain of being with him outweighed the pleasure of being with him. It was a case of being in love with someone who was not good for you, on both our parts. We just spent too much time trying to justify our relationship, when clearly it was not good for either of us.

(in reply to sweetsub1957)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 11:44:16 AM   
osf


Posts: 3288
Joined: 10/19/2009
Status: offline 		habitual willful disobedience would be a reason

_____________________________

all around nice guy and creative misogynist

i'm not very skilled so i just hit harder

i want a woman to make into the woman she never wanted to become

(in reply to gorlove)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 11:53:39 AM   
slavekal


Posts: 1486
Joined: 7/20/2004
Status: offline 		Last time I really got dumped was ten years ago.  She turned thirty and wanted kids.  I had a vasectomy in 1995, and I wouldn't even consider reversing it.  She was a fantastic domme, but I did not want to be a father.

_____________________________

"The Courage to Submit: the submissive male's guide to finding a dominant woman"
http://www.lulu.com/product/paperback/the-courage-to-submit-the-guide-for-the-submissive-male-seeking-a-dominant-woman/5968917

(in reply to gorlove)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 12:04:04 PM   
gorlove


Posts: 12
Joined: 12/5/2009
Status: offline 		i was interested in answers from subs/slaves

(in reply to slavekal)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 12:05:47 PM   
Aileen1968


Posts: 6062
Joined: 12/12/2007
From: I miss Shore, New Jersey
Status: offline 		It ended because he was a dickhead.

_____________________________



(in reply to gorlove)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 12:06:08 PM   
Justme696


Posts: 3236
Joined: 1/7/2008
From: Royal kingdom of the Netherlands
Status: offline 		he is

(in reply to gorlove)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 12:07:07 PM   
sunshinemiss


Posts: 17673
Joined: 11/26/2007
Status: offline 		You don't get to dictate who answers your posts, gorlove... *And if you love gor so much why aren't you asking this over on the Gorean forum?  *See that, I don't get to dictate where you post your question. 

I would think that people end relationships.  Sometimes they are kink related but I am betting that usually they are the same as vanilla folks.

_____________________________

Yes, I am a wonton hussy... and still sweet as 3.14

(in reply to gorlove)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 12:11:47 PM   
hlen5


Posts: 5890
Joined: 3/2/2008
Status: offline 		Slavekal was speaking from the sub's perspective.

I ended a relationship due to a lack of communication between the two of us. I tried to speak of my feelings but there never seemed to be enough time. I got tired of thinking "next time, we'll get this ironed out". Next time never came. I ended up feeling like his weekend ho.


_____________________________



My fave Thread: http://www.collarchat.com/m_2626198/mpage_1/tm.htm

One time "Phallus Expert Extraordinaire"

(in reply to gorlove)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 12:24:11 PM   
lally2


Posts: 2621
Joined: 4/16/2009
Status: offline 		um

D#1 - he was a complete freaktard, wanted TPE but couldnt run his own life never mind anyone elses
D#2 - he was domineering not dominant
D#3 - we went poly and it went tits up
D#4 - i wasnt/am not over D#3 (yet)



_____________________________

So all I have to do in order to serve him, is to work out exactly how improbable he is, feed that figure into the finite improbability generator, give him a fresh cup of really hot tea ... and turn him on!

(in reply to hlen5)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 12:45:12 PM   
LaTigresse


Posts: 26123
Joined: 1/15/2006
Status: offline 		I would say that aside from the one death........it's always been a case of unrealistic expectations for them.

So I took my expectations elsewhere. 

_____________________________

My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

(in reply to gorlove)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 12:46:11 PM   
osf


Posts: 3288
Joined: 10/19/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2

um

D#1 - he was a complete freaktard, wanted TPE but couldnt run his own life never mind anyone elses
D#2 - he was domineering not dominant
D#3 - we went poly and it went tits up
D#4 - i wasnt/am not over D#3 (yet)




so suffering has it's limits?

_____________________________

all around nice guy and creative misogynist

i'm not very skilled so i just hit harder

i want a woman to make into the woman she never wanted to become

(in reply to lally2)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 2:01:08 PM   
DesFIP


Posts: 25191
Joined: 11/25/2007
From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		He was, and is, a poor father. Mother trumps submissive every day.

_____________________________

Slave to laundry

Cynical and proud of it!


(in reply to osf)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 2:06:44 PM   
lally2


Posts: 2621
Joined: 4/16/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: osf


quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2

um

D#1 - he was a complete freaktard, wanted TPE but couldnt run his own life never mind anyone elses
D#2 - he was domineering not dominant
D#3 - we went poly and it went tits up
D#4 - i wasnt/am not over D#3 (yet)




so suffering has it's limits?


everyone has limits

< Message edited by lally2 -- 12/28/2009 2:07:28 PM >

_____________________________

So all I have to do in order to serve him, is to work out exactly how improbable he is, feed that figure into the finite improbability generator, give him a fresh cup of really hot tea ... and turn him on!

(in reply to osf)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 2:13:03 PM   
breatheasone


Posts: 4004
Joined: 7/14/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf


quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2

um

D#1 - he was a complete freaktard, wanted TPE but couldnt run his own life never mind anyone elses
D#2 - he was domineering not dominant
D#3 - we went poly and it went tits up
D#4 - i wasnt/am not over D#3 (yet)




so suffering has it's limits?


everyone has limits

Man, is this the truth!


_____________________________

Romans 10:13,For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
Mike posts in black font
candy posts in pink font

(in reply to lally2)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/28/2009 2:18:23 PM   
osf


Posts: 3288
Joined: 10/19/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf


quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2

um

D#1 - he was a complete freaktard, wanted TPE but couldnt run his own life never mind anyone elses
D#2 - he was domineering not dominant
D#3 - we went poly and it went tits up
D#4 - i wasnt/am not over D#3 (yet)




so suffering has it's limits?


everyone has limits




lolololol

_____________________________

all around nice guy and creative misogynist

i'm not very skilled so i just hit harder

i want a woman to make into the woman she never wanted to become

(in reply to lally2)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2 3   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> Ending relationships, what were your reasons? Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.093