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can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 6:27:55 AM   
LowlyArtist


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Status: offline 		I have been talking to her for a while, and it has been a positive experience so far. However she asked me to sort out £300, which I am to send to an address of a bondage craft man/company, in order to purchase equipment for us, and then we will arrange a meeting. Now Obviously intelligence tells me to be cautious, so I have been asking her if it would be ok for me to bring a cheque or money etc with me when we meet, so we can sort out delivery addresses etc. But she stated that I was taking on a dominant position, which Im really not, I just want to make sure, she is who she says she is. I have tried everything, I have said we can talk on the phone, gave her my number. Im obviously not going to send money to a place when Im not sure who Im talking to. some advice would be greatly appreciated. (removed username)

thank you LowlyArtist

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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 6:42:50 AM   
Lucienne


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Status: offline 		Free advice: stop corresponding with this woman.

Why? Because I said so. To do other than I say is to assume a dominant position. Now... do as I say.

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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 6:52:25 AM   
MistressDemeter


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Status: offline 		She wants you to part with cash before you have even spoken to her on the phone ? .... Tell me, if I was telling you this tale what would you advise me to do?

Stay well clear I imagine.

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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 6:52:44 AM   
Jeffff


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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 6:52:59 AM   
CarrieO


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LowlyArtist

I have been talking to her for a while, and it has been a positive experience so far. However she asked me to sort out £300, which I am to send to an address of a bondage craft man/company, in order to purchase equipment for us, and then we will arrange a meeting. Now Obviously intelligence tells me to be cautious, so I have been asking her if it would be ok for me to bring a cheque or money etc with me when we meet, so we can sort out delivery addresses etc. But she stated that I was taking on a dominant position, which Im really not, I just want to make sure, she is who she says she is. I have tried everything, I have said we can talk on the phone, gave her my number. Im obviously not going to send money to a place when Im not sure who Im talking to. some advice would be greatly appreciated. (her usename is mistressalex79)

thank you LowlyArtist


So, a stranger on the internet demands you send a large sum of money to a "bondage craft man/company" and you're seriously asking if you're topping from below by wanting to meet first?  Is that what you're saying?

Also...posting her screen name, I believe, is against TOS.

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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 6:56:50 AM   
LowlyArtist


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Status: offline 		Im sorry I didnt know the rules, I will remove her screenname straight away, thank you for the advice, it does sound silly being asked to part with money after just a few conversations, and obviously I wouldn't ever do that until I was sure she was genuine. However I wanted to know how I should proceed with my questioning of meetings or phone conversations until I could be sure they were either genuine of fake. I dont want to just accuse her, and find out she is genuine.

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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 6:58:11 AM   
Underumam


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lucienne

Free advice: stop corresponding with this woman.

Why? Because I said so. To do other than I say is to assume a dominant position. Now... do as I say.


LOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!


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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 7:00:13 AM   
HisGoddess


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Status: offline 		Be more comcerned that Mistress is actually Master. Never send money to anyone you haven't met. This ruse of the money going to a craftsman, for gear, is clever but  transparent. Do not allow your desires to cloud your judgement.

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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 7:03:34 AM   
Jeffff


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Status: offline 		Does she FEEL genuine?

If you were comfortable with it, you wouldn't be here asking.

A woman you don't really know, a stranger, asks you for money. Your response is to come and ask a group of strangers what you should do?

people are crazy!

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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 7:05:43 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Im obviously not going to send money to a place when Im not sure who Im talking to


Just repeating the bit of wisdom you put in your post.

We have a saying in the states - There's a sucker born every minute (PT Barnum)

Don't let the sucker be you. 

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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 7:06:26 AM   
LowlyArtist


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Status: offline 		the intelligence of the collective is greater than the intelligence of the singular.

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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 7:07:04 AM   
MissiCat


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quote:

ORIGINAL: HisGoddess

Be more comcerned that Mistress is actually Master. Never send money to anyone you haven't met. This ruse of the money going to a craftsman, for gear, is clever but  transparent. Do not allow your desires to cloud your judgement.


Hear, hear.  I agree totally.

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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 7:08:47 AM   
Lucienne


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ORIGINAL: LowlyArtist

Im sorry I didnt know the rules, I will remove her screenname straight away, thank you for the advice, it does sound silly being asked to part with money after just a few conversations, and obviously I wouldn't ever do that until I was sure she was genuine. However I wanted to know how I should proceed with my questioning of meetings or phone conversations until I could be sure they were either genuine of fake. I dont want to just accuse her, and find out she is genuine.


Sigh. Life would be so much easier if people just did what I tell them to do without all this incessant explaining.

Define "genuine." You shouldn't be sending money to strangers, regardless of whether or not you consider them "genuine." People of honest intention and the merest hint of experience in the world will not ask you to send them money, as a stranger on the internet. Because even if they are "genuine," they know that a person who sends money to strangers on the internet is a person of poor judgment. People who like you and want to meet you will not be giving you opportunities to look like a chump or an idiot (send me 300 for equipment!) before they ever meet you.

I already told you how to proceed -- you stop communicating with the woman. She's given you plenty of indications that she is not to be trusted (1. send money to a stranger 2. behaving with common sense is an offense to her sense of dominance 3. won't talk on the phone 4. {garnered from reading her profile, I'll leave it out}). That you're still trying to find a way to convince yourself that this is a good idea is what makes you a perfect mark for scamming. You've fallen into "you can't con an honest man" territory. You know something is off, but you're still trying to work it for your own benefit. But you are being played. Game is over. You have lost. Stem your losses at the time you've spent on this woman and walk away. Don't bother accusing her of being fake. Just... move on.



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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 7:12:11 AM   
CherokeeRose2


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Status: offline 		Your big head already knows the answer;  it's your little head that's trying to convince you otherwise.

If you want to spend 300 on a Mistress, go ahead and book a session with a good prodomme ~ then you know you'll be getting something for your money other than blue balls.

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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 7:13:19 AM   
CarrieO


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LowlyArtist

Im sorry I didnt know the rules, I will remove her screenname straight away, thank you for the advice, it does sound silly being asked to part with money after just a few conversations, and obviously I wouldn't ever do that until I was sure she was genuine.

Once you find a way to verify her being "genuine". then you'll have no problem?  As for the rules, it helps to read the forum guidlines before posting.  You'll find them listed at the top of every board here.

However I wanted to know how I should proceed with my questioning of meetings or phone conversations until I could be sure they were either genuine of fake. I dont want to just accuse her, and find out she is genuine.

Just because you identify as submissive and someone identifies as dominant, it doesn't follow that your common sense flies out the window.  Do you find yourself giving money to random people, regardless of who they are and for what reason, in RL? 
Your profile reads like an invitation to be taken advantage of.  I would think about how you present yourself and what you're willing to part with.  Also...please take my suggestion and use a more flattering photo.  The ones you offer come across as pure HNG and makes it very hard to take you serious. 



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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 7:21:51 AM   
Drifa


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From: Rural Texas
Status: offline 		Everywhere on the collarme site it says "Don't send money to people". Anyone asking you for money isn't there for the relationship, they are there for your money.

If she is really a domme, she can make do with bare hand spanking, or use spatulas from the kitchen, or apply a belt. You don't need special equipment purchased before you have met in person and agreed to scene, and not even then.

If, after you've been together and played some the two of you want to invest in more fun toys together, that's a whole 'nother thing. But to make it a precondition when you haven't even MET... why are you even ASKING us this? You KNOW it's a scam.

BLOCK AND DELETE AND FIND SOMEONE AFTER YOU, NOT YOUR WALLET.

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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 7:28:03 AM   
MissHarlet


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Status: offline 		Those of us that live in the real world .. prefer submissives with a brain ..... maybe you should start demonstrating you have one ........

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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 7:35:13 AM   
LowlyArtist


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Status: offline 		ouch. Im sorry if I asked a question which I presume has been asked a million times on this forum, and I have experienced hundreds of fake profiles who are simply wanting money. But I really was looking for a friendly opinion and friendly advice. and thank you to those who have helped in some way rather than just insulting me.

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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 7:36:13 AM   
OttersSwim


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Status: offline 		Sometimes when you are new at something - you don't know what you don't know...ya'know?  

Good move to the OP for posting here before you sent out money to someone who you don't really know from Eve.  I am sorry that happened to you and hopefully it is a learning experience that you can gain something from rather than losing, eh?

Get thee to a munch of real BDSM people in your area!  They are out there in RL and waiting for you.


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RE: can someone help me with this Mistress - 12/29/2009 7:36:25 AM   
vincentML


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ORIGINAL: LowlyArtist

the intelligence of the collective is greater than the intelligence of the singular.


I wish you would change your picture. Really don't need to see male arse. Now, if you were female, well ......

On second thought, nevermind. Perhaps it brings pleasure to the Mistresses.

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