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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 7:58:28 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		ok the word kittininsol would have given you might be:

je nais se quoi. (perhaps that is what you exchange.)

she must go down and get up with the chickens, I guess.

Ron

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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 7:59:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: wisdomtogive

I am going to make a suggestion to you osf. Yes, i know you didn't ask me too, but that never stops me, when i feel it is needed. What you do with it is not a concern to me either, since i am not doing this to benefit me.

Take 2 days away from the boards, and put your focus on anything but BDSM for those 2 days. Take a vacation, even if it is blogging or what have you. You need to refocus yourself on any thing but BDSM. This has become an obsession, with the many new posts started each day. All this energy can be put somewhere else for a bit. I clean when i become obsessed, or paint, or play with clay, or write a short story..anything to divert my attention from the obsession. Obsession for me is so unhealthy.

Anyways...best to you....
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I am going to make a suggestion to you osf. Yes, i know you didn't ask me too, but that never stops me, when i feel it is needed. What you do with it is not a concern to me either, since i am not doing this to benefit me.

Take 2 days away from the boards, and put your focus on anything but BDSM for those 2 days. Take a vacation, even if it is blogging or what have you. You need to refocus yourself on any thing but BDSM. This has become an obsession, with the many new posts started each day. All this energy can be put somewhere else for a bit. I clean when i become obsessed, or paint, or play with clay, or write a short story..anything to divert my attention from the obsession. Obsession for me is so unhealthy.


i make too many posts?

i'm so not into bdsm

i just want you to leave me alone, if leave me alone is an obsession then i guess i'm obsessed

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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 7:59:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Sorry LadyE.... I type this shit as it pops into my head...:)



Jeff



Ah! I think I see your problem - dont pop the shit into your head, youre supposed to be throwing it at osf (apparently).

E

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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 8:03:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: alittlegirllost

steps into the discussion to really talk about the initial topic....unique, huh?? lol...i would imagine that anyone can answer but perhaps LadyPact would not mind answering because i always find Her words very easy to understand....i understand TPE means Total Power Exchange....i understand that, in essence, when submitting i am giving up my power to the Dominant....but exactly what are we exchanging....the Dominant is not giving me their power....at least i hope not, that would be no fun..lol....but seriously, exchange makes me think it is a back and forth, give and take..but the Dominant always retains the power, so what is the Dominant exchanging?

You join this discussion any time you want to. 

I would tend to agree with you that you have the concept correct.  As the submissive, you are giving the power over to the Dominant.  The Dominant then takes that power and then uses it in their authority.  What the Dominant gives in return could be explained as structure, responsibility, enforcement, and a lot of other terms that some folks include in there.  How the individual Dominant sees that, and what type of dynamic is created from those principles is going to vary.

This is one of those areas that I lump into that big pile that falls under the umbrella of compatibility.  Like Ron said, it really is something of a form of currency, so you have to ask yourself as a submissive, if you're going to give your power to your Dominant, what do you want in return?  There are lots of possible things you might want in your 'exchange' that will lead to being most fulfilled for you.

You feel free to come ask Me anything you'd like at any time.  If I can help, I'll be happy to.


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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 8:09:10 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Well, we most all agree however we slice it, something is traded, more than wind and void.

Lady Pact does have a way with words I could never get out of my nasty fucking head and string together though, gotta admire that.

Ron

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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 8:11:37 PM   
LadyPact


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Don't you know blushing isn't Dommely.

(Thank you though.  I do appreciate your kindness.)


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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 8:14:48 PM   
alittlegirllost


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Status: offline 		Thank You, LadyPact....that definitely cleared it up for me....and made me finally understand what Ron had been saying...lol...and thank You for Your kindness, LadyPact

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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 8:15:51 PM   
Jeffff


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Status: offline 		I would like to add that it seems to me many folks put the accent on "Power. You should'nt forget the exchange part.


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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 8:18:48 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		and, as was tossed out at the outset, if you dont wish to call whatever that synergistic thing is....
Total Power Exchange....

Then fuckin dont. call it I love it when a good plan comes together or.........{@} or the artist formerly known as prince, or.......

it aint no thang.

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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 8:19:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: alittlegirllost

Thank You, LadyPact....that definitely cleared it up for me....and made me finally understand what Ron had been saying...lol...and thank You for Your kindness, LadyPact

Absolutely any time at all.


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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 8:19:37 PM   
alittlegirllost


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Status: offline 		the exchange part is what was confusing me but no longer...thanks to all of you

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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 8:23:56 PM   
UniqueRaven


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Status: offline 		i've always thought of it as more of a cycle than an exchange.  

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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 8:24:20 PM   
Jeffff


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Status: offline 		There is no "right" way to do this here thang.

There is only your way.


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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 8:25:50 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Its my way or the highway, you're outta here Patrick Fuckin Swayze!!!!!!


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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 8:28:04 PM   
Jeffff


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Later I die of pancreatic cancer.


Life sure can blow!

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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 8:28:38 PM   
wisdomtogive


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it will be my pleasure to leave you alone. As i said i was giving unasked for advice. I had to expectations of you taking it or not. ...have a blessed life.

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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 8:31:31 PM   
Jeffff


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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven

i've always thought of it as more of a cycle than an exchange.  



That works too...... thats kinda the point Ron was making.

You are gonna read a lot of shit...... I am gonna type some of it.

We all must find our own way.


LaoTzuJeff

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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 8:48:18 PM   
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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 8:49:20 PM   
sweetsub1957


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Status: offline 		I just had to put all these together in one place.  It's just way too funny!! 
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
I think I can use this same reply as an answer to several of the OP's threads.
If you don't like the term, don't use it.

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ORIGINAL: osf
if you don't like the thread stay out of it

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Cupcake, you ain't never gonna be Dom enough to be giving Me commands.  You can take that one to the bank.

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail
who exchanged the power in that little vignette?

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ORIGINAL: osf
please if you want to get into a pissing contest don't do it here

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf
ok, i'll leave this thread to the book burning mob, pissing against the tide is sometimes a futile gesture

My reply: Unless you like do-it-yourself watersports. 

OMG, this is just too too funny!!  LadyPact, You are just way too cool.



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RE: the power exchange principle - 12/29/2009 8:50:35 PM   
sweetsub1957


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quote:

ORIGINAL: osf
and of course new people don't deserve to hear the old guard school secrets

Now, that's just plain not very nice.  I haven't been here that long, and I want to learn more.......  


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