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early mistakes - 12/31/2009 6:46:25 PM

osf

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what were the relationship mistakes you made after you found out about bdsm

mine was my first submissive , being new and not confident i screwed it up by not being forceful enough

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 6:58:44 PM

RealSub58

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why are you always around here??

retired and not retread yet??

ooooooohhhhhhhhhhh ~~~~ that is what you are doing getting retread !

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:05:34 PM

littlewonder

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using bdsm as a crutch instead of actually going through a grieving process.

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:13:04 PM

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Thinking it would be easier to find someone the more experienced and knowledgable I became.

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:13:09 PM

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i thought this would be helpful to newbes and i'm glad to see you're into the spirit of things

i'm not referring to you stella

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:15:39 PM

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Getting emotionally attached to people (and a situation) I should not have gotten myself attached to...

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:16:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RealSub58

why are you always around here??

retired and not retread yet??

ooooooohhhhhhhhhhh ~~~~ that is what you are doing getting retread !

i have a farm and there's snow on the ground, if you must know

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:17:45 PM

UniqueRaven

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Mistakes:

- Thinking that the Internet held all the information i would ever need

- Submitting to men that were in retrospect not wise (and sometimes dangerous) choices

- Not being selective enough while searching for a prospective Owner/Master

- Being too afraid of 24/7 TPE to choose someone who was as strict and controlling as what i really needed

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:20:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

what were the relationship mistakes you made after you found out about bdsm

mine was my first submissive , being new and not confident i screwed it up by not being forceful enough

Mistaking cruelty for dominance.

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:21:18 PM

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I can't answer your question.

I don't consider anything I've done in My relationships as making mistakes. Poor judgment a time or two, perhaps.

At the same time, I've learned from My experiences and it's made Me the person that I am today.

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:23:05 PM

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what i don't understand is how women who call themselves submissive can act this way to somebody they do not know.

don't they realize men are reading this and judging them on their actions

a little more politeness goes a long way in projecting a desirable appearance

what kind of dominant man do they think wants a woman that acts like that, one wonders

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i'm not very skilled so i just hit harder

i want a woman to make into the woman she never wanted to become

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:25:05 PM

amaidiamond

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Mistaking obsession for control, being with an abuser not a Dom

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:26:24 PM

littlewonder

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osf, not all subs are here to impress anyone. Not everyone is here to search for a man. Some of us are simply here to waste time.
Some of us are already taken and not really interested in what others think.

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:26:31 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

what i don't understand is how women who call themselves submissive can act this way to somebody they do not know.

don't they realize men are reading this and judging them on their actions

a little more politeness goes a long way in projecting a desirable appearance

what kind of dominant man do they think wants a woman that acts like that, one wonders

What do you mean, "act this way"? Are you saying if subs give a differing opinion or a strong opinion they are less than desirable?

You know, osf, there are actually men who prefer smart spirited women.

Even if you do not prefer that type, don't put down the men who appreciate those women.

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:27:45 PM

LadyPact

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what i don't understand is how males who call themselves dominant can act this way to somebody they do not know.

don't they realize females are reading this and judging them on their words

a little more politeness goes a long way in projecting a desirable appearance

what kind of submissive female do they think wants a male that acts like that, one wonders

I know Christmas is over and all, but if anybody out there can't see where Dickens mocked Scrooge when the ghost of Christmas past used his own words against him, showing him exactly his own regrets, well..... I just give up.

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:28:09 PM

UniqueRaven

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

Mistaking cruelty for dominance.

i would argue that there is a certain degree of cruelty contained in some Dominants, especially sadists. Outright cruelty, no, unless that's what punches your ticket. But one of my favorite yin/yang statements about what i need from a Dom is his "love and cruelty."

Just thinking about what you've said. Not trying to hijack a thread that i'm sure is going to go south anyway.

< Message edited by UniqueRaven -- 12/31/2009 7:29:22 PM >

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:28:56 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

what were the relationship mistakes you made after you found out about bdsm

mine was my first submissive , being new and not confident i screwed it up by not being forceful enough

Mistaking cruelty for dominance.

one of the hardest lessons for a new dom to learn is accepting service

i was too gentlemanly and always wanting to help her when she knew instinctively that that's not the way it should be, she knew instinctively what i had yet to learn

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all around nice guy and creative misogynist

i'm not very skilled so i just hit harder

i want a woman to make into the woman she never wanted to become

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:30:54 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

what i don't understand is how women who call themselves submissive can act this way to somebody they do not know.

don't they realize men are reading this and judging them on their actions

a little more politeness goes a long way in projecting a desirable appearance

what kind of dominant man do they think wants a woman that acts like that, one wonders

What do you mean, "act this way"? Are you saying if subs give a differing opinion or a strong opinion they are less than desirable?

You know, osf, there are actually men who prefer smart spirited women.

Even if you do not prefer that type, don't put down the men who appreciate those women.

the snide backhanded attitude

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all around nice guy and creative misogynist

i'm not very skilled so i just hit harder

i want a woman to make into the woman she never wanted to become

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:31:56 PM

itsmeinLV

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Hear, hear!

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RE: early mistakes - 12/31/2009 7:34:11 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

what i don't understand is how women who call themselves submissive can act this way to somebody they do not know.

don't they realize men are reading this and judging them on their actions

a little more politeness goes a long way in projecting a desirable appearance

what kind of dominant man do they think wants a woman that acts like that, one wonders

What do you mean, "act this way"? Are you saying if subs give a differing opinion or a strong opinion they are less than desirable?

You know, osf, there are actually men who prefer smart spirited women.

Even if you do not prefer that type, don't put down the men who appreciate those women.

the snide backhanded attitude

You know how you always say no one gets your humor? Well perhaps the "snide backhanded attitude" is that person's attempt at humor, but you don't appreciate it.

Think about it.

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