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osf -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 8:24:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder what do they have to do with me? That's what a dominant man is to me? That's what I seek?? <scratches head like she does a lot on these forums these days> im not being a smart ass but would you not be happy with less than all of those?

littlewonder -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 8:25:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder what do they have to do with me? That's what a dominant man is to me? That's what I seek?? <scratches head like she does a lot on these forums these days> im not being a smart ass but would you not be happy with less than all of those? No

osf -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 8:27:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder what do they have to do with me? That's what a dominant man is to me? That's what I seek?? <scratches head like she does a lot on these forums these days> im not being a smart ass but would you not be happy with less than all of those? No did you see my post on narrowing your want list

Aynne88 -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 8:36:13 AM)
I think OSF has gotten a bad rap from the way he started here, and I also think that he poses some sincere and genuinely curious questions. I'll bite [;)]. My idea of a dominant is someone that is dominant in all facets of life, not just dominating me. I need the man that is powerful and respected socially, in the community, in the business world. I like a bit of a bastard in the "outside" world as well, youknow, the kind of man the people say "He's no one you want to piss off" Or "He's someone good to have on your side." Also respected of course, because he has earned it. I went through more than a few poseurs to fine the real one. I like a man that can take charge with a sommelier in a restaurant, is educated, traveled, opinionated, can converse with a diverse group of people without being too "much" and just naturally draws respect seemlessly because he cuts and authoritative figure. On a more personal level, I need a man that frightens me just a bit, because it turns me on to not know when he might have planned. A while ago there was a thread on "funishment" and it just isn't my thing. I don't like jokers, not for me personally as my Dominant, I need a stern figure. I need a sadist, with a high sex drive, that doesn't feel bad when he tells me to clean in lingerie, fix him a cocktail, or whatever else he wants done, and he might kiss me or slap me, I have no idea, and for me, that is thrilling. If I screw up, usually with me it's my mouth, I get it, and get it badly. I need a man that inspires me to want to sit at his feet, and crave whatever attention he doles out, pain, pleasure, a two hour conversation, or quietly massaging his feet. Of course we laugh, a lot, but I think most people know I mean by a joker and funishment. For us, we are both pretty intense people, and it would seem contrived if we acted that way with each other. He has a really stressful outside life so at home, he is usually quiet, talkative yes, but not clowning around, and lots of times his release is using me sexually or releasing frustrations physically, and that is exactly what I need to, even when I may not want it. I also need a man that is adept at humiliation, and lastly, loves me as fiercely as I love him. I hope this helps and wasn't too "wordy."

osf -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 8:38:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder what do they have to do with me? That's what a dominant man is to me? That's what I seek?? <scratches head like she does a lot on these forums these days> you do realize that there are very few that fit that, and they are usually heads of state?

littlewonder -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 8:39:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder what do they have to do with me? That's what a dominant man is to me? That's what I seek?? <scratches head like she does a lot on these forums these days> you do realize that there are very few that fit that, and they are usually heads of state? Yup..and why I stayed single for so very many years and why I've said many time before..very few men who describe themselves as "doms"..actually are.

osf -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 8:42:28 AM)
hell, my ducks don't even listen to me

GYPSYMAMBO -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 8:43:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one but what do they think a dom is? Some seek a DOMME GM

osf -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 8:43:31 AM)
cmail

osf -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 8:53:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO quote: ORIGINAL: osf I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one but what do they think a dom is? Some seek a DOMME GM you would probably want similar qualities, jump in

DarkSteven -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 8:59:59 AM)
OP, I think of there being two places where a Dom can be a Dom: in the bedroom and out of it. A sub who wants a Dom in the bedroom gets a sexual satisfaction of being controlled there, of being told what to do, of pleasing. A sub who wants a Dom out of the bedroom wants someone who has the ability to lead, who looks out for what is best for all involved, and who has a high level of maturity. A sub who wants a Dom in both places wants both.

Icarys -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 9:04:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth Many (most?) don't know and don't post about "what a dom is", or from the other side, "what a sub is". They are however, VERY, precise, clear, and have a concept of what a dom, or 'their' dom/sub is not. Usually they get those concepts from observing posts and perceive behavior, personality, and ability from the words the dom/sub write. Worse case, they see behavior conveyed in such a way that they forget about pursuing any relationship not wanting any part of the person behind the persona; deciding they are better off without dominance or submission in their life if the image being conveyed is typical of a 'lifestyle' participant. Unfortunately many think and say "all" making universal assumptions and projecting, if not actually believing, in a 'one true way'. Some come here and, through their posts, convey a pyramid hierarchy of needs so pointed that a pin is at it's peak; then wonder why a submissive (or dom) isn't dancing on the point; when they believed, and expected since this 'lifestyle' they 'discovered' was full of 'submissives', all that was necessary was to label yourself a 'dom' and he would be able to count and choose from the many dancing on the point. I for one know this to be the case and understand that my personal views and way of life(Some may say as extreme) may cause me to have to wait for a bit in order to find a compatible mate. I've spent many years getting to the point I am today and many learning to be okay with who I am first. It works for me. I look at it this way: A female will either gravitate towards me for the man I am or she'll run for the hills. If she runs with the rest of the herd..All that will remain will be a few wonderfully delightful people that meet my standards for love..Even if it's only one..that would be plenty for me..If it's none..I'll do what I have planned to do anyway..Pack my shit and move to Alaska about 50 miles from the nearest anything. I know what the consequences of my actions will bring me here and in everyday life. One of them is that my words here will polarize some and draw others closer. That's the nature of life..To thine own self be true.

osf -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 9:04:45 AM)
quote: OP, I think of there being two places where a Dom can be a Dom: in the bedroom and out of it. never understood that is there a force field in the doorway that turns him on and off?

Aynne88 -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 9:17:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf cmail read and replied. [:)].

Lucienne -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 9:19:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: OP, I think of there being two places where a Dom can be a Dom: in the bedroom and out of it. never understood that is there a force field in the doorway that turns him on and off? I think it involves magnets.

sexyred1 -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 9:37:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aynne88 I think OSF has gotten a bad rap from the way he started here, and I also think that he poses some sincere and genuinely curious questions. I'll bite [;)]. You know I love you but, I cannot believe you really feel that way. He may have gotten a bad rap initially when people were not sure of him and his motives, but he has reinforced that bad rap with each and every thread. This thread for example: what is a Dom???? Not only is this a question like what is Beauty, therefore there is no ONE answer, but numerous people have given him THEIR definition and instead of graciously saying, thanks for your opinion, he was negative back, continuing to question them back. Worse, he tells them they should narrow their qualifications. There is such a thing as compromise but what most subs have said there and in their profiles are basic qualities they need for compatibility. He reminds me of a guy who wrote me here yesterday who said, "Hey Sexyred, I love your photos, but what does "cerebral" and "whimsy" mean? You probably won't get many answers here since I think this website is for kinks only." Since intelligence is at the top of my pyramid of needs/wants in finding a partner, should I drop that off so I can meet "Mr. I Never Heard of Google Or Dictionary.com possible Dom?" Who is he or anyone to tell someone that their definition is incorrect and that there is no hope in finding that? Just because osf cannot find it, his negativity permeates the air here. P.S. if some asks truly sincere and genuine questions, then the right response would be either thank you for sharing OR....use your own experience as illustration. Sorry if this sounds snarky but nothing annoys me more than someone who asks a question and does not listen, ever.

Aynne88 -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 9:42:57 AM)
Well SexyRed, I do think he is trying in his own way to change, I see little signs here and there, and believe me some of his earlier threads drove me nuts. I was in the "Is he a troll or he is for real" camp. I haven't read all of his threads, and I totally get where you are coming from, but I do think this one was sincere, I have adapted a wait and see mode. [;)]. I don't have quite as much generosity towards the "other" character though. Hey maybe I'm just feeling particularly soft today since compared to the one who's name I shall not mention, at least osf seems to read my replies before responding. Or it's the lord's day? lol. One or the other! I still always have on eye on him either way!

Icarys -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 9:47:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aynne88 I think OSF has gotten a bad rap from the way he started here, and I also think that he poses some sincere and genuinely curious questions. I'll bite [;)]. My idea of a dominant is someone that is dominant in all facets of life, not just dominating me. I need the man that is powerful and respected socially, in the community, in the business world. I like a bit of a bastard in the "outside" world as well, youknow, the kind of man the people say "He's no one you want to piss off" Or "He's someone good to have on your side." Also respected of course, because he has earned it. I went through more than a few poseurs to fine the real one. I like a man that can take charge with a sommelier in a restaurant, is educated, traveled, opinionated, can converse with a diverse group of people without being too "much" and just naturally draws respect seemlessly because he cuts and authoritative figure. On a more personal level, I need a man that frightens me just a bit, because it turns me on to not know when he might have planned. A while ago there was a thread on "funishment" and it just isn't my thing. I don't like jokers, not for me personally as my Dominant, I need a stern figure. I need a sadist, with a high sex drive, that doesn't feel bad when he tells me to clean in lingerie, fix him a cocktail, or whatever else he wants done, and he might kiss me or slap me, I have no idea, and for me, that is thrilling. If I screw up, usually with me it's my mouth, I get it, and get it badly. I need a man that inspires me to want to sit at his feet, and crave whatever attention he doles out, pain, pleasure, a two hour conversation, or quietly massaging his feet. Of course we laugh, a lot, but I think most people know I mean by a joker and funishment. For us, we are both pretty intense people, and it would seem contrived if we acted that way with each other. He has a really stressful outside life so at home, he is usually quiet, talkative yes, but not clowning around, and lots of times his release is using me sexually or releasing frustrations physically, and that is exactly what I need to, even when I may not want it. I also need a man that is adept at humiliation, and lastly, loves me as fiercely as I love him. I hope this helps and wasn't too "wordy." Beautifully said.

sexyred1 -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 9:48:02 AM)
Hi hon, I hear you. I don't agree, but as you said, time will tell. I think that other person just has a hard on for ya, babe and like the little boy in school who pulls the little girl's pigtail pretending not to like her, maybe that is what is going on there? [;)] Oh, and your definition of a perfect Dom for you, is almost identical to mine. Love it.

Aynne88 -> RE: I'm curious, all the female submissives say the want one (1/3/2010 9:52:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 Hi hon, I hear you. I don't agree, but as you said, time will tell. I think that other person just has a hard on for ya, babe and like the little boy in school who pulls the little girl's pigtail pretending not to like her, maybe that is what is going on there? [;)] Oh, and your definition of a perfect Dom for you, is almost identical to mine. Love it. Oh dear god!!! lol. I think he better not read this, it might kill him! Thanks by the way, both you and Icarys for the compliment. I'm not shy in saying what I need. I tried to convey it correctly and I am glad you both liked it. [:)].

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