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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

I think OSF has gotten a bad rap from the way he started here, and I also think that he poses some sincere and genuinely curious questions. I'll bite [;)].

You know I love you but, I cannot believe you really feel that way. He may have gotten a bad rap initially when people were not sure of him and his motives, but he has reinforced that bad rap with each and every thread.

This thread for example: what is a Dom???? Not only is this a question like what is Beauty, therefore there is no ONE answer, but numerous people have given him THEIR definition and instead of graciously saying, thanks for your opinion, he was negative back, continuing to question them back.

Worse, he tells them they should narrow their qualifications. There is such a thing as compromise but what most subs have said there and in their profiles are basic qualities they need for compatibility.

He reminds me of a guy who wrote me here yesterday who said, "Hey Sexyred, I love your photos, but what does "cerebral" and "whimsy" mean? You probably won't get many answers here since I think this website is for kinks only."

Since intelligence is at the top of my pyramid of needs/wants in finding a partner, should I drop that off so I can meet "Mr. I Never Heard of Google Or Dictionary.com possible Dom?"

Who is he or anyone to tell someone that their definition is incorrect and that there is no hope in finding that? Just because osf cannot find it, his negativity permeates the air here.

P.S. if some asks truly sincere and genuine questions, then the right response would be either thank you for sharing OR....use your own experience as illustration.

Sorry if this sounds snarky but nothing annoys me more than someone who asks a question and does not listen, ever.

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i never said here what to look for, i merely said when you narrow your focus you narrow the field of people available, i stand by that


and questions are a way of provoking thought about something not always a criticism , i often question my personal assumptions, it's just the way i am


i believe that more thinking you do ahead of time the quicker you'll have an answer when a situation arises that you already thought about, hint that's a good domly characteristic lol

and i do listen, it's just that to some you haven't listened unless you accept their advice and use it

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A far as thinking "ahead" of time, I am assuming you mean that smart adults should think hard about the kind of person they want to be with, and be realistic, which is a smart thing to do, but that is not what you are communicating in your replies.

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Perhaps I will never understand your posting style and guess what? the earth will still continue to turn on it's access and dusk will always lead towards dawn.

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i can't post to please everybody, so i post to please me, the earth has been here a long time

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ORIGINAL: osf

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OP, I think of there being two places where a Dom can be a Dom:  in the bedroom and out of it.

never understood that

is there a force field in the doorway that turns him on and off?

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: osf

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OP, I think of there being two places where a Dom can be a Dom:  in the bedroom and out of it.

never understood that

is there a force field in the doorway that turns him on and off?

Nope.  Read the rest of the post.  Some are Dom in the bedroom, some are Dom out of it, and some are Dom in both.  The force field with the on/off switch is within the Dom.

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Some gals say they are looking for a Master, some are looking for a Daddy, some a partner, etc.  Might want to be careful about your presumptions there, O.P.

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When I go window shopping for  a dom (vulgar slang by the way)

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all have their ideas of what they want and if they state as well as they can understand what they are that's fine and i cheer them on

but they have to understand that based on how wide or narrow those wants are ,are the chances of fulfilling them, for my part my wants are very narrowly focused, but then i understand and accept that it lowers my pool of available partners

it's my choice and i have to live with the consequences of that choice

maybe a unintended consequence of this question will be to bring that fact home to some that may not have considered it

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ORIGINAL: sofuntoplay

maybe a dominant that doesn't keep fishing on the boards on how to write the most manipulative profile by repeatedly asking what subs are looking for, how to write the best dom profile etc etc. Just be who you are.

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Many dont even bother to read it.

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

~FR~
I am not looking for a Dom. In fact, I clearly state that I am looking for a Man. I wrote this as a "wish" back in November...

Dear GT,
... Interesting thing happened, I met the most amazingly dominant man - not a Dom, just a man who is a Mayun. We are in love and planning to vacation at his villa in Italy over Christmas. I've seen it, met his family (with whom I have a mutual admiration society), and I couldn't be happier ...

Some gals say they are looking for a Master, some are looking for a Daddy, some a partner, etc. Might want to be careful about your presumptions there, O.P.

sunshine

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I hope my continued shopping doesn't diminish their worth.

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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I hope my continued shopping doesn't diminish their worth.

How would it unless you think they define themselves by your attentions.

Yet another reason why living by myself in the woods in Alaska is looking better all the time.[:D]

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When you have your dreams come true, can you send over his hot Mayunly brother???

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and you can fantasize about sarah