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PeonForHer -> RE: Need advice on a rebellious boy (1/15/2010 2:06:55 PM)
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RG,
I've only skim-read the thread so far, so I apologise to you (and all) if I've not taken certain points on board as much as I should have done. However, it's clear to me that the general thrust of answers so far have pathologised your boy's behaviour more readily than I'd instinctively want to do so myself.
He's a young man. Young men just do get moody, depressed at times, and - in general - don't know where they're going in life. Some men - people, in fact - have somehow picked it up along the way that hitting an object, smashing something (not, note, 'someone'), is what one does when one is angry or frustrated.
I'm saying: yes, as others have remarked: he may have problems that require professional help of some kind. On the other hand, he may just be going through some moody phase that he'll leave behind eventually. I'd suggest: talk, listen, lay down ground rules, suggest help if it really looks bad to you - but also be patient. Quite possibly not even he knows, all that clearly, why he's in the emotional state he's in now. But . . . the storm could blow over without either of you ever fully understanding why it's gone, too . . . .
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