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RE: Pros and Cons to BDSM Profile Boxes - 1/14/2010 2:32:16 PM

Jeffff

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Jeff,
You are going to have to do something about this whole... you know... speaking seriously and succinctly and with intellect. You are just totally blowing your rep, man.

Helpful Hannah Sunshine

I know... I am working on it..... I don't know what's come over me.

I even put the apostrophe in "what's"............... sighs

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RE: Pros and Cons to BDSM Profile Boxes - 1/14/2010 2:35:31 PM

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I have a lot of my boxes checked in the vaguely optimistic hope that anyone actually reads my profile. But I pay much more attention to the main writing or any interesting pictures when deciding whether to write back or not. I would only likely be put off if we had a live for!/hard limit mismatch.

I want a certain level of compatibility as well as an interesting personality, so the check boxes can sometimes help weed out the totally incompatible ones. And as far as I know the fact that I have my boxes checked has never completely put off anyone with the kind of personality I would click with. Guess I could be wrong but I don't think so.

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RE: Pros and Cons to BDSM Profile Boxes - 1/14/2010 7:09:02 PM

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I don't have a lot of kinky must-haves or deal-breakers in general, most of my limits are of degree rather than kind. Back when I was looking, I felt that people who wanted to talk kink before meeting were a waste of time. Most of them just wanted a casual playpartner and/or fuckbuddy or cybersex, and weren't actually interested in me as an individual person.

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RE: Pros and Cons to BDSM Profile Boxes - 1/14/2010 9:44:29 PM

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Bwahahahahahahaha, great topic, great thread . . . . .

Over here on CM I have mostly none of the BDSM interests checked, but tons of relevant 'vanilla' ones. My reasonably short CM profile text has an actual honest-to-gawd hotlink to my Fet profile . . . . ~pats self on back~ ... . . & therein can be found my completely unreasonably long list of 'fetish-y' stuff, for the interested.

I've done what I can to minimize 'moron-cmail', with great success, & eliminating the sexxxy-sexxxy interests stuff from my CM profile was a big help in that direction . . . . . . It feels like a happy compromise ... . .

In both cases, I'm primarily interacting via the fora. The profiles, for me, are more an exercise in alternating parts narcissism & marketing. (With very very very low expectations about the latter, lol. More generalized social-marketing than dating-marketing . .. . . )

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RE: Pros and Cons to BDSM Profile Boxes - 1/15/2010 7:50:24 AM

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I am torn. While I want to meet men who are compatible, I don't necessarily want to talk kink until I get to know them. So here we have those little profile boxes that allow us to list our likes and dislikes of specific BDSM activities. I just "unchecked" all of mine. I think just being on this site tells something about me.

Thoughts?

Do you find this information instrumental in finding someone? If you view a profile with no BDSM checked info does it discourage you?

Thanks

For me ,no. If I don't mesh with someone as a person or find them to be desirable as a woman, their kink preferences are of no significance.

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