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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 4:48:28 PM   
osf


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I am glad you have a fan club through pm. You need to have a fan club and let everyone know. It is hard for some to stand on their own without calling in the troops for support. Nothing to be ashame about that.

P.S
I give you credit for coming up with good topics..but it gets so hard to weed through all this. I am grateful for those that can set someone like me, a newbie, in a brighter light. That is only reason i come to your threads to learn from those who can teach. And i cant find a way to say this without being rude, i am glad many don't teach the way you do. i would have ran from this if i met you 2 and half years ago. Your remarks would have shut the door to bdsm for me..so i am glad i know better...though sadly still thirsty to learn.


i dont teach anybody, i share my ideas and let others accept or reject but it would be nice if more were civil about it

as far as you running, why?

i dont push myself off on anybody , if i dont feel your right for me, i'm the first one to say so, and i try to be gentle about that

i only abuse the woman that is with me not others

your probably safer with me on a desert island than some nilla guy away from his wife

no one here can acuse me of rudeness in one on one communication and ive had that with a few

who shall remane nameless

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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 4:52:33 PM   
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no one here can acuse me of rudeness in one on one communication


One on one isn't the only place politeness counts.

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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 4:53:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: osf

no one here can acuse me of rudeness in one on one communication


One on one isn't the only place politeness counts.


i'll make a deal with you, you be polite and civil with me and i''ll return it

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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 5:00:17 PM   
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What is your idea of structure in a relationship?


Structure is the architecture of ethos, rules and protocols in a D/s relationship which serve as a guide for both parties. It is essentially the skeleton in a D/s relationship upon which one adds flesh. Like bones, structure keeps the "body" of the dynamic in form which may otherwise be lost without it. In a nutshell, that's what it is to me.

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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 5:03:06 PM   
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i'll make a deal with you, you be polite and civil with me and i''ll return it


I believe I've been very polite and civil. I've simply disagreed with you, pointed out how your behavior is reflecting negatively on you, how insults don't make you look better and asked you improve your communication.

Being polite and civil doesn't mean not saying anything that you don't like.

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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 5:04:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MarcEsadrian


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ORIGINAL: osf
What is your idea of structure in a relationship?


Structure is the architecture of ethos, rules and protocols in a D/s relationship which serve as a guide for both parties. It is essentially the skeleton in a D/s relationship upon which one adds flesh. Like bones, structure keeps the "body" of the dynamic in form which may otherwise be lost without it. In a nutshell, that's what it is to me.


that works, but you expand it to include things i think of as separate

just amounts to two different approaches is all

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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 5:06:01 PM   
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I believe I've been very polite and civil. I've simply disagreed with you, pointed out how your behavior is reflecting negatively on you, how insults don't make you look better and asked you improve your communication.


but you do so at every opportunity

lets just keep our conversation to just us

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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 5:10:08 PM   
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I believe I've been very polite and civil. I've simply disagreed with you, pointed out how your behavior is reflecting negatively on you, how insults don't make you look better and asked you improve your communication.


but you do so at every opportunity

lets just keep our conversation to just us


No. I just post frequently. Since you post where I hang out on the forums, I come accross your posts a lot. I don't say half the things that come into my head when I look at your posts.

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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 5:11:13 PM   
osf


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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 5:12:50 PM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		Given your insults to men you don't know on your thread in "Ask a master" I have no interest in private communication with you. I have found that people's behavior tends to be worse in private.

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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 5:24:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		osf, i never said you were rude, but i said i did not want to be rude to you, or anyone for that matter.



I thank you for the topics and no you are not rude to me. When i see a statement or comment that you or anyone for that matter, that confuses me, i will create a thread. I don't understand the disregard you and some others have for women submissives in general.  I am fortunate to not run into that, but i haven't experience a lot of this, so it makes me wonder why so low regard to s-types, and is this the norm? Hence why my questions lately...just trying to understand BDSM a little bitter..broaden my scope. I am glad i have the brains to start a post, though poor people think i am referring to my Sir :(.

Anyways sorry for taking this off topic, i cant reply to your topic at this time..you confuse me. i need others to make it clearer

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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 5:28:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: wisdomtogive

osf, i never said you were rude, but i said i did not want to be rude to you, or anyone for that matter.



I thank you for the topics and no you are not rude to me. When i see a statement or comment that you or anyone for that matter, that confuses me, i will create a thread. I don't understand the disregard you and some others have for women submissives in general.  I am fortunate to not run into that, but i haven't experience a lot of this, so it makes me wonder why so low regard to s-types, and is this the norm? Hence why my questions lately...just trying to understand BDSM a little bitter..broaden my scope. I am glad i have the brains to start a post, though poor people think i am referring to my Sir :(.

Anyways sorry for taking this off topic, i cant reply to your topic at this time..you confuse me. i need others to make it clearer


i love women, my apparent cavalier disregard of women is in jest

which to me should seem so obvious that to think otherwise is absurd





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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 5:31:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: osf

i love women, my apparent cavalier disregard of women is in jest

which to me should seem so obvious that to think otherwise is absurd



At the risk of earning your wrath yet again...

The fact that so many people do not understand that it's a joke implies that there is something lacking in the delivery. This is not intended as an insult. Hopefully you will not take it as one.

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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 5:32:59 PM   
osf


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Status: offline 		what i am into is a very extreme form of d/s

of very close control

of not wanting the whole limits , thing, if they cant trust me they then have no business with me and i have not made that a secret


so why are people so misunderstanding this and saying im dangerous lol

you dont want extreme stay away, is that simple enough?

does everyone understand?

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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 5:34:09 PM   
osf


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Status: offline 		it's a joke , its humor now let it go

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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 5:35:10 PM   
osf


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Status: offline 		now can we get back to the topic?

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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 5:38:48 PM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		No one brought up what you are into or what you are looking for.

I realize you are attempting to make jokes. However, when a comic repeatedly tells jokes that no one gets or finds funny, their shows don't do well.

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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 5:41:24 PM   
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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 5:41:43 PM   
osf


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lololololol
that is hilarious

god i love young girls lolololololol

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RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship - 1/12/2010 5:46:43 PM   
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