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Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 12:44:13 AM   
Ialdabaoth


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Status: offline 		So, as one gets older, the sorts of people that one is attracted to is supposed to get older, as well.

What's a good solution for when they don't? What is one supposed to do when one discovers, 15 years on down, that one still only tends to find 18-24 year olds attractive?

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 12:47:40 AM   
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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 12:57:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		Welcome to real life and getting older, alas...  Also, shout out to you in Tempe from a former Temperature!  Hope the tornado warnings for the area blew over... erm... you know what I mean >.<  Hope everything is okay down there.

But back to your post and question, let's be honest, we're guys, hot young thangs will ALWAYS be hot young thangs, and we're always going to like them.  What do we do about it?  Considering my pet is 12 years younger than I, and my ex-secondary partner and now roommate is 14 years younger, and both legal, yes...(smartass)   I would have to say it's all on composure and the way one carries ones self. 

They both could have gone for someone far younger than I, easily.  I wouldn't have blamed them.  I'll admit I'm not the best looking... not the elephant man by any means either though, but I won't be winning no beauty pagents any time soon, that's for damn sure.  I've got a bit of a belly growing on me (Damn you, Computer Ass Syndrome!) 

The thing is, I found them attractive, in their personalities long before I ever saw a picture of either of them, and they found the same thing with me.Admittedly though, I lucked out, my pet is hot!   And although my ex #2 isn't my type physically, I loved and still love him, and there's a bear or three on this site that would go absolutely ape shit over him. And I can completely see why, he's not unattractive by any means.

Confidence and a bit of swagger will get you far.  Very very far indeed.  Age means little anymore (as long as they're legal).  So what if you're 70 and he/she is 18?  You'll get people saying things like "Cradle robber!",  "Old pervert!", etc...  They're just jealous, trust me on this one.   If I saw that, I'd probably say "DAMN MAN!  Good on you!  Go get em, tiger!"

That being said, well... Go get em, tiger!  And while you're at it, stop in at long wongs and have a plate of wings for me... I miss that place... 


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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Get therapy?

Awww, lushie, come on now...  You can't deny that you wouldn't like some cute 18 year old cabana boy at the end of a leash as your own personal playtoy...  I sure can't.


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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 12:58:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, what is one "supposed" to do when one finds an interest in BDSM? Or an interest in one's own sex? Abandoning a long-term partner for someone younger would be Not Good, I think. But if you are single, and if 18-24 year-olds also find you attractive, is there necessarily a problem? If you are looking for something serious, mutual respect and emotional and intellectual depth are what matter. Some 45-year-olds lack those things, and some 21-year-olds have them.

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 12:58:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		Which one? There's like, 3 Long Wong's now. One in Tempe, one in Scottsdale and one out in Chandler.

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 12:58:53 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth

So, as one gets older, the sorts of people that one is attracted to is supposed to get older, as well.



Most anthropologists would disagree on this, in biological terms.
 
The natural tendency is to continue to (attempt to) promote ones own genomes into the population, using those most close to optimum age of procreation.
 
It is actually more unnatural to adopt societal attitudes that you should mate within your (increasing) age range.
 
Solution: live in Hollywood.
 
Seriously, I dont think anyone should beat themselves up over who or what they are attracted to.
 
 

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 1:00:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth

Which one? There's like, 3 Long Wong's now. One in Tempe, one in Scottsdale and one out in Chandler.


Tempe, of course.  The only REAL Long Wong's.  Even better, get them to go and kick back at the ASU commons or at Tempe Town Lake.  God... why does it have to be so deathly (for me, literally) hot there?  If it weren't for that, I'd move back in a heartbeat.


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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 1:01:53 AM   
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ORIGINAL: EbonyWood

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ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth

So, as one gets older, the sorts of people that one is attracted to is supposed to get older, as well.




Solution: live in Hollywood.
 
Seriously, I dont think anyone should beat themselves up over who or what they are attracted to.
 
 


Hollywood?  Piffle.  Check out Tempe sometime, Hollywood doesn't have a thing on the hot young ladies and gents there. :)


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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 1:02:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, I'm currently attending my second cycle of college through ASU, so you're describing a typical Thursday evening for me. ;)

... hence the libido consternation.

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 1:04:09 AM   
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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 1:05:56 AM   
Ialdabaoth


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Status: offline 		Before I was single again, my poly enclave and I were seriously considering heading to Tucson. Due primarily to fallout from the transition from "poly enclave" to "single again", I'm not currently in the position to disconnect from Tempe. ;)

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 1:28:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth

So, as one gets older, the sorts of people that one is attracted to is supposed to get older, as well.

What's a good solution for when they don't? What is one supposed to do when one discovers, 15 years on down, that one still only tends to find 18-24 year olds attractive?




Find a 20 year old who fancies them, seems logical really

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 1:36:50 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LillyoftheVally


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ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth

So, as one gets older, the sorts of people that one is attracted to is supposed to get older, as well.

What's a good solution for when they don't? What is one supposed to do when one discovers, 15 years on down, that one still only tends to find 18-24 year olds attractive?




Find a 20 year old who fancies them, seems logical really


Precisely.  And beautifully put. :)


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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 1:46:36 AM   
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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 3:27:11 AM   
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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 3:55:56 AM   
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the sorts of people that one is attracted to is supposed to get older, as well.


Says who? The first thing in life you need to obviously learn is that you set your own rules, and live your own life.

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 4:16:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth

So, as one gets older, the sorts of people that one is attracted to is supposed to get older, as well.

What's a good solution for when they don't? What is one supposed to do when one discovers, 15 years on down, that one still only tends to find 18-24 year olds attractive?




Work out and make a lot of money.

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 4:48:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		I know exactly how you feel.  The age group I found attractive at age 20 hasn't changed.  I was most fortunate to find a Master 9 years my junior.  A little older than I would normally be attracted to but He's such a kid at heart that it's easy to overlook His advanced years.

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 5:01:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth

So, as one gets older, the sorts of people that one is attracted to is supposed to get older, as well.

What's a good solution for when they don't? What is one supposed to do when one discovers, 15 years on down, that one still only tends to find 18-24 year olds attractive?




Just be aware of something very vital to your continued sucess in a relationship with that younger hottie. If indeed she is attracted to older men, it is not their body that is her first concern. Chances are she is attracted to the assumed increase in maturity. If you have the maturity of her male counterparts, what is the benefit of dating an old man?

Additionally, do not underestimate the possible influence her family and friends may have on her continuing a relationship with you.

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/23/2010 5:06:04 AM   
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