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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/27/2010 9:40:41 AM   
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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/27/2010 9:44:15 AM   
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I'm also curious if he bothers to tell them that when they hit 25 he'll be dumping them. You know, being upfront and honest about his problems.


I find this as insane as people saying they would never date anyone under the age of 25 or whatever, age limits are stupid in that regard what do you do? Like go up to someone and ask to see their ID card before asking them out.

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In regard to your comment, specifically the highlighted text, in general I find younger women to be much less bitter as well


I actually was not being serious when I spoke about older people being bitter, I agree that bitterness comes with experience, I mean thats kinda what the term implies, but experience isn't age dependent. When I mentioned about bitterness it was more as a backlash to all the shit on this thread about 'what young women are'

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/27/2010 10:03:04 AM   
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Yes but there is this problem in that as we get older we are expected to change what we find to be the peak of physical attractiveness. An 80 year old (nine times out of ten) will still think someone in their mid twenties more physically attractive than someone of their own age.

You have a source for these statistics, or are you just making them up as you go?

Yes I did a survey of people at various retirement homes but unfortunately the dog ate it.
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I find the effects of time, of life, of experiences on a man's face to be FAR more physically attractive than a baby-faced 20-something.

How long have you felt this way, all your life or just recently? My larger point from the opposite end of the spectrum is that what we find attractive can remain consistent throughout our lives and this offers cultural difficulties for us to deal with.

There is more to physical attraction than the face especially for a man I suppose. I always find it amusing that we have a list of things that larger society tells us are ok to find attractive such as the eyes, the smile, the face etc. and then we have the list that we aren’t supposed to judge people on.
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What I do NOT find attractive in a person is someone who is looking for someone in an age range of "18 to 50"... if they think that someone who is 18 is just as compatible with them as a woman in her 40's, then clearly they are NOT the person for me.

I guess people that do that are trying to convey the message that they are willing to judge each person as they find them and not assume they are this or that based on age. I find in terms of musical tastes, preferences etc. there are some people younger than me that like the same types of things as people much older than me. Also literature and philosophical ideas for example can be ancient and any number of different generations can read them and find a preference for them. Likes and dislikes of artwork is also another area in that respect. Then there is the common argument that perhaps at certain stages of life you are looking for people different to yourself, who compliments yourself rather than someone who is an exact like for like match.


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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/27/2010 10:24:32 AM   
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But we've gotten away from the op's problem which is that if he gets together with a hot 25 year old, he won't think she's hot when she's 31. He at that point will be that much older and still looking for a female under 25. If he doesn't do something, he's doomed to have short term relationships because every time they get above 25 he loses interest in them. So he can only be involved with someone for six or seven years max. But knowing that he won't want them in a couple of years will prevent him from getting emotionally intimate with them because he knows it is a short relationship from the beginning.

I'm also curious if he bothers to tell them that when they hit 25 he'll be dumping them. You know, being upfront and honest about his problems.


Oh wow, I never even thought of this.

I remember when I was 23 or 24 or something, there was this 39 year old interested in me, and I wouldn't be his girlfriend, not because of his age, but because he had multiple divorces, multiple children by different women, and it was obvious he was more interested in "fun with a cute young girl" than "a relationship that will lead to a lifelong commitment."

This seems like it might be an issue for someone like the OP, but tbh so long as he keeps in relatively good shape and has three times the income of a 22 year old guy, he'll always be able to find some cute young girl for a short term relationship.

Cuz really, once she hits 29, she's going to want to settle down. And not with him.

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/27/2010 10:32:33 AM   
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I know, right? I just don't get the philosophy about bitching about exes on a first date. I mean, like, dude, wouldn't you rather be bantering than bitching?

Yes, whether it is from a younger or older guy, it is not attractive.

I find that people who do that think you will feel bad for them, but no, I don't like a pity party when someone should be paying attention to the date at hand.


I really don't know why they do it. Maybe it's a defense of sorts. "See all my exes were just pyscho so it's not my fault any relationship ended! I'm completely innocent so you should be in a relationship with me!".

I'd rather have someone who owns how they screwed up or helped screw up the relationship. More "Yeah, I wasn't around a lot, I think that probably had something to do things just getting out of control". That, to me, shows that they that had something to do with it and might be doing something to fix it as opposed to just going "She was so fucking insecure and jealous of my job!".

I don't mind talking about exes a bit but bitch to your buddies, not when you are trying to score with me.

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/27/2010 10:53:02 AM   
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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/27/2010 11:02:09 AM   
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Don't tell me this. I'm about to turn 25. Cripes I might start lying about my age...


26 is even worse - I feel like I'm racing toward 30 and that 21 is a distant memory.

I wonder if I'll be able to lie about my age when I get older...I kinda want to, there's something totally Hollywood about it, but I think I'm too upfront to be able to.

I'm totally going to colour my greys though.


If any of you ladies are gonna lie about your age (is that not considered a bit immoral btw?)  i advice you to add years rather than deduct... adding has the effect of the lied to geezer thinking: Jeez she looks good for her years... deducting obviously will result in him thinking you're a hag...

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/27/2010 2:56:48 PM   
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If any of you ladies are gonna lie about your age (is that not considered a bit immoral btw?)  i advice you to add years rather than deduct... adding has the effect of the lied to geezer thinking: Jeez she looks good for her years... deducting obviously will result in him thinking you're a hag...


LOL that's a good point.

I don't think lying about my age is immoral (it falls into 'white lie' category for me) but I remember my very old world Euro grandmother saying "never ask a woman her age, her weight, or whether she colors her hair" and that always stuck with me.

I love SexyRed's answer though - a witty evasion is always better than an outright lie.

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/27/2010 4:33:09 PM   
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I wonder if I'll be able to lie about my age when I get older...I kinda want to, there's something totally Hollywood about it, but I think I'm too upfront to be able to.


You know how they say women lie about their age, my experience on this and other fetish sites is the men lie bad! lol. i have only had a couple meet and greets that the guy was the age he said he was. Usually they shave about 5 yrs off :).

My Mom used to lie about her age by adding a couple years. When i asked her why, she said because then everyone says "wow you look great for your age!" i sure do miss her :(.

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/27/2010 4:37:20 PM   
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If any of you ladies are gonna lie about your age (is that not considered a bit immoral btw?)  i advice you to add years rather than deduct... adding has the effect of the lied to geezer thinking: Jeez she looks good for her years... deducting obviously will result in him thinking you're a hag...


Is that going to appear everywhere now?

While I can't speak for the others, I was goofing around. I'll probably never lie about my age, adding or subtracting years. I am, however, likely to go the face-lift route.

Now if that's immoral is a whole different subject.

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/27/2010 4:54:44 PM   
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I know, right? I just don't get the philosophy about bitching about exes on a first date. I mean, like, dude, wouldn't you rather be bantering than bitching?



You should be spending the time demonstrating to the bitch that the dick worshipping she will be doing later is wholly justified and that she is so completely used that she can barely move, let alone think of an ex.
 
Just my passing thought.



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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/27/2010 6:44:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		The concept of age appropriate attractiveness is just weird. You're attracted to who you're attracted to. You know how many young girls I've seen saying they're looking for a mature gent? I'll just be pleased if at age 50 I can still screw like I'm 20. 

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/27/2010 9:21:41 PM   
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If any of you ladies are gonna lie about your age (is that not considered a bit immoral btw?)  i advice you to add years rather than deduct... adding has the effect of the lied to geezer thinking: Jeez she looks good for her years... deducting obviously will result in him thinking you're a hag...


Is that going to appear everywhere now?

While I can't speak for the others, I was goofing around. I'll probably never lie about my age, adding or subtracting years. I am, however, likely to go the face-lift route.

Now if that's immoral is a whole different subject.


Seconding that - I was totally kidding.

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/28/2010 2:53:35 AM   
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I'll probably never lie about my age, adding or subtracting years. I am, however, likely to go the face-lift route.

Now if that's immoral is a whole different subject.


eventually you reach an age where it really doesn't matter anymore

i suppose it is only immoral if you think the money it would cost to make you look 'good' could be better spend on saving someones life... or even finding a cure to pad rash... or airconditioned underwear

... it is something the op might consider though... book his ageing partner in for botox, collagen, lipo, lifts and tucks...
or maybe incorporate the agreement to future medical procedures into a contract...
might be very good for sado masochistic tendencies too in certain cases maybe?

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/28/2010 3:08:23 AM   
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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/28/2010 4:04:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have never never never understood why anyone would lie about their age (except when young, stupid, and trying to get into places one should not be.... ). If someone isn't attracted to me because of a number, there is zero chance I want them in my life anyway.

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/28/2010 4:12:54 AM   
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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/28/2010 5:07:10 AM   
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Greys will never even see the light of day.


I found a couple the other day... I decided just to call them "ultra platinum blonde." 

Even when I was 18-24 I was never "hot".  Lucky thing, that, because I never had to worry that someone was interested in me just for being young and hot or that they would dump me just because I had another birthday.  I've always been able to have interesting relationships.  And strangely, my very best relationship ever happened when I was well into my 50s.

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/28/2010 7:49:03 AM   
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Greys will never even see the light of day.


I found a couple the other day... I decided just to call them "ultra platinum blonde." 


Ooo...I like that.

I just don't know if I'll ever even see mine since getting my hair dyed is one of those things that is really important to me. I'll give up a lot of other things without a thought just to continue to afford to get my hair done.

Might change as I get older but I kinda doubt it.

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RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness - 1/28/2010 7:51:17 AM   
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Greys will never even see the light of day.


I found a couple the other day... I decided just to call them "ultra platinum blonde."

Even when I was 18-24 I was never "hot". Lucky thing, that, because I never had to worry that someone was interested in me just for being young and hot or that they would dump me just because I had another birthday. I've always been able to have interesting relationships. And strangely, my very best relationship ever happened when I was well into my 50s.



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