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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 9:48:45 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		I believe that each person is accountable for themselves and no one has control over everything another might say. However, I do feel that my submissive, if he wishes to remain my submissive, will want to be pleasing to me and not cause situations I feel I must oversee or be involved with to some degree. He is my submissive and therefore associated with me and I don't want a lot of drama and I surely don't want him starting drama. If there is drama, as there is bound to be somewhere down the line, deal with it and make me proud. I hold myself to the same expectations.

Now if either of us is getting into a situation quite often... there is a problem and it will be addressed! As per an agreement between us, I have final say and if I say a thing is bad, it is bad and we act accordingly. To start trouble is bad. To deal with trouble not started by us, is okay. It all depends on the situation.

I will hold my submissive accountable if he is going around saying things to inflame people or stir them up. He most likely will not last long with me if it is something I didn't see beforehand. I will suggest how he is to conduct himself and if he can't see fit, he is not only breaking our agreement and disagree's with how I would want the situaiton handled, but then getting into our dynamic's on his behavior outside our relationship. If I am a part of the group, online or in person and he comes storming in with attitude and pushing buttons... I sure as hell am going to have something to say about it and if it happens more than once... he just might be looking for another dominant.

I see witty submissive's speaking their minds all the time... lol... and love it! I love humor. Sometimes something might cross a line here or there or be misunderstood and these things can be worked out and should be or I would have a problem with my submissive's handling of the situation. Typically if I am seeing poor behavior with other people, it is going to come out in our relationship as well and I simply will not have a button pusher near me for long.

If he takes pride in being my submissive, as I would in having him as my submissive, he darn well better respect that relationship and see that it goes as smoothly as it can. If he is a smart ass in a funny situation.. I love it... but a smart ass to a cop who has pulled us over or in a group of my friends... we have another type of situation!

Our actions and words do reflect who we are and I think striking a balance there is important and for someone like me who doesn't like a lot of drama... he better make sure he isn't causing a lot of drama. Anywhere. Don't make me look the fool for chosing you! lol Don't make it so people don't want to invite me because you come with me! lol

There is a time and place for snark or humor and sarcasm in my world... but not to the point of constant drama and trouble making. Offending people is drama and while I don't care about some who cause their own drama and think it is okay to go toe to toe in some situations for a time... I don't want toe to toe situations everyday.

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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 10:17:52 AM   
LillyoftheVally


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Do you judge a dominant by the behavior of their submissive? If you do; how and why? Is it fair? And if you don’t, what are your reasons?


Yes, I probably shouldnt but I do, the simple one is the conditions on speech such as third person, the second is respect and then there are a million other things. I guess because I used to know a sub who was a right nightmare, real mixer and it turned out his partner was telling him to be as annoying as he was, it just makes me a little wary.

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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 10:37:45 AM   
LadyAngelika


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Status: offline 		Can we also say that when our partner, be it dominant or submissive acts brilliantly, it is also a reflection on us. We are proud of them. :-)

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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 10:55:26 AM   
Lockit


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Can we also say that when our partner, be it dominant or submissive acts brilliantly, it is also a reflection on us. We are proud of them. :-)

- LA



You've got that right! lol Oh happy day! I was talking offline to another domina last night... darn if she doesn't have every reason to be proud. Kind of made me a lil green... but how wonderful is it to hear of a wonderful submissive to a wonderful dominant?!

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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 11:41:40 AM   
LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: Lockit

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

Can we also say that when our partner, be it dominant or submissive acts brilliantly, it is also a reflection on us. We are proud of them. :-)

- LA



You've got that right! lol Oh happy day! I was talking offline to another domina last night... darn if she doesn't have every reason to be proud. Kind of made me a lil green... but how wonderful is it to hear of a wonderful submissive to a wonderful dominant?!


I'm working on a cloning machine Lockit, just you hold on!

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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 11:44:59 AM   
Lockit


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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 11:48:41 AM   
LadyAngelika


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You do remember my age and health condition right? Please hurry! lol


Oh in parallel, I'm working on a physical rejuvination serum which enables us to get a younger body but keep our wisdom. I'm only going to make it available to Dominas ;-)

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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 11:51:29 AM   
Lockit


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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 1:36:52 PM   
MasterWilliam55


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Status: offline 		MzMia....you are absolutely right. It's human nature. By the way, I didn't know anyone still read Cervantes.

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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 1:53:25 PM   
DesFIP


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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists


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... that since having a tantrum is not normal 14 year old behavior, you should not judge the parent of such a child as being a bad parent but instead as having a child with a major problem which is not visible.


The idea of a 14 year old throwing a tantrum is to me so out of the norm... instead of judging the parents... I would be questioning for more data.



Allow me to tell you that you are very rare.

I cannot count the number of people who went out of their way to tell me what a bad parent I was and when I enlightened them about their error, they did not even have the decency to be ashamed and apologize. The most I would get was "well, I didn't know" with an attitude implying that I should hang a sign on her saying mentally ill as though she were a leper in the Middle Ages who wore identifying symbols on their clothing or a not yet transported Jew in Nazi controlled territory.



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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 1:58:23 PM   
Jeffff


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Status: offline 		I have decided to Judge all Dominants by height. I am 6' 1" from now on shorter than Me equals a lessor Dom. Taller will equal greater.

This should make my life much simpler.

Jeff

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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 2:01:19 PM   
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i have seen people being run off  of here because one period was out of place. This is not good behavior and i feel that if they were happy in their lives with their partner they wouldn't feel the need to act awful.



She told me she was utilizing birth control...Fucking bitch lied.  Damn right I ran her off, straight to an abortion clinic.

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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 2:02:51 PM   
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I have decided to Judge all Dominants by height. I am 6' 1" from now on shorter than Me equals a lessor Dom. Taller will equal greater.

This should make my life much simpler.

Jeff


I think you should use dick size as a barometer of better or lesser Doms. Or is it different in the anteater hierarchy?

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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 2:04:20 PM   
BKSir


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1


quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

I have decided to Judge all Dominants by height. I am 6' 1" from now on shorter than Me equals a lessor Dom. Taller will equal greater.

This should make my life much simpler.

Jeff


I think you should use dick size as a barometer of better or lesser Doms. Or is it different in the anteater hierarchy?


Very different.  Most anteaters use their snouts and tongues to display dominance.  Also, damn man, 6'1"?  You're one big anteater!


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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 2:06:08 PM   
LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1


quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

I have decided to Judge all Dominants by height. I am 6' 1" from now on shorter than Me equals a lessor Dom. Taller will equal greater.

This should make my life much simpler.

Jeff


I think you should use dick size as a barometer of better or lesser Doms. Or is it different in the anteater hierarchy?


Yeah! My dick is 13" :-)

- LA


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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 2:07:46 PM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		I judge people all the time.  How they dress, speak, articulate their thoughts, their overall demeanor and if they are slovenly and on and on and fucking on and on.

I do it for sport. I do it for fun. I do it to surmise whether this is someone that I would want to hang around with or should avoid.

I am usually spot on in my assessments of people.

Who you hang with definitely casts a light on how you will be judged. 

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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 2:08:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1


quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

I have decided to Judge all Dominants by height. I am 6' 1" from now on shorter than Me equals a lessor Dom. Taller will equal greater.

This should make my life much simpler.

Jeff


I think you should use dick size as a barometer of better or lesser Doms. Or is it different in the anteater hierarchy?


Yeah! My dick is 13" :-)

- LA



Ooooooh...LadyA, now you are even hotter than you were before!!

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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 2:14:39 PM   
LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1


quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

I have decided to Judge all Dominants by height. I am 6' 1" from now on shorter than Me equals a lessor Dom. Taller will equal greater.

This should make my life much simpler.

Jeff


I think you should use dick size as a barometer of better or lesser Doms. Or is it different in the anteater hierarchy?


Yeah! My dick is 13" :-)

- LA



Ooooooh...LadyA, now you are even hotter than you were before!!


Yeah! And it *never* goes limp ;-)

- LA


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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 2:17:45 PM   
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Who you hang with definitely casts a light on how you will be judged. 


~strokes her chin~

And you're involved in a very public, very steamy bromance with Jefffffffffffff....

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RE: Judging a dominant by their submissive's behavior? - 1/25/2010 2:20:12 PM   
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Who you hang with definitely casts a light on how you will be judged. 


~strokes her chin~

And you're involved in a very public, very steamy bromance with Jefffffffffffff....


Bromance?....... we are hop-bonded!

That is sacred.

Jeff

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