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Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 9:39:21 AM   
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The content of this thread may tend to become very explicitly sexual in nature.  For those who would prefer not to participate in what may turn into a graphic discussion, you may want to pass on this thread.

A comment on another thread got Me thinking about this subject this morning.  I do realize that we are somewhat revisiting this topic, but I hope it will be a fun one.  Something to give our forum participants a little bit of excitement talking about yummy activities within the context of what it is that we do.

We talk an awful lot about preferences around here.  Granted, preferences are very important on a vast array of subjects.  This is particularly true when we are talking about searches for partners and such.  There are some areas that we should never give up our preferences on or settle in any way.

Yet, there are areas we are often asked about where two options are given and both things are equally good.  They are just fun in different ways.  There are all kinds of subjects that fall under this category.  Do you like floggers that thud or sting?  Do you prefer canes or crops?  Do you like experienced bottoms or someone new that you can teach to have the reactions that you want?  Do you prefer a masochist or someone who is submitting to play to please you?  We may have preferences in these areas.  Maybe one that we enjoy just a tad bit more than the other.  At other times, we may enjoy them both so much that we have a hard time choosing.

An excellent example of this was in our famous "Heterosexual Males Sucking Cock" thread.  (I know that's not everyone's kink, but hang in there with Me on this.)  During the course of that thread, those of us who enjoy this play were asked which we preferred.  Someone who was brand new to the experience, so we could enjoy the fear, hesitation, the follow through of submitting to our will, or someone who was comfortable with the act, so that we could relax more about the mental aspects, and maybe we could be a bit rougher with the play.  Speaking as someone who enjoys this in a D/s scenario, both of them are HOT.  It's the same act, but both of them are turning Me on for completely different reasons.  They are both so good that it's almost impossible for Me to say which one I prefer.

I think a lot of things fall into this area.  Other good examples of this would be rope vrs mental bondage, topping a masochist vrs topping a sub who is submitting because you want them to take pain, introducing someone to a particular type of play vrs someone experienced, the raw excitement of playing with someone new vrs playing with someone you know so well that you know exactly what pushes their buttons.

So that's the task at hand, Ladies.  (Gents and boys, you can play, too.)  Let's hear your areas where two situations turn you on and it's hard for you to pick just one.  Get those creative juices (and maybe other juices as well) going.  Tell Me about those areas where you enjoy both that you don't want to have to choose.


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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 2:52:29 PM   
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With clothespeg zippers, the choice between yanking it off fast and hard or tugging veryveryveryveryslowly.

Or slow and then suddenly fast.

Or if it's a long enough zipper, alternating between the two.

Or gradually speeding up.

Sorry, that's like, five options. But I do have difficulty choosing.


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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 3:17:06 PM   
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I must say that a boy tied down with a cold knifepoint tracing the side of his cock is combining a host of my favorite things at once....helplessness, genital play, mindfuckery and knife play all at once. 

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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 4:00:27 PM   
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For me its the anticipation that does it. Mindfucks scare me, yet I never say dont, no matter how apprehensive I get. 

LadyP, I know what you mean about rope. Someone once asked me if I wanted to be tied up. I said yes please, she said I may just tell you to keep still. Right then I wasnt sure which idea turned me on most.

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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 4:12:43 PM   
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Mental bondage or chains?
 
Blindfold or let them watch in fear/excitement?
 
Positioned on stomach or on back?
 
Flogger or crop?
 
Decisions, decisions...

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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 4:19:28 PM   
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A few random selections...  Tying him up or simply holding him down.  Spanking him to make his ass hurt for days or simply to turn him on.  Slapping his mouth when he gets mouthy or gagging him.  Making him lick his cum off me or out of me.  Making him wear my used panties or his own clean ones. 

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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 4:25:45 PM   
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Hot sex or watching soccer on TV..... Hmmm give me a while to think about it.

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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 4:28:32 PM   
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quote:

Do you like experienced bottoms or someone new that you can teach to have the reactions that you want? Do you prefer a masochist or someone who is submitting to play to please you?


That is probably the biggest "Do I have to pick just one" set in the lot for me.

It is so yummy to watch a man discover things for the first time. Having flipped my share of vanillas, this was one of my favorite parts.

Then again, it is fabulous to play with someone who knows his body and limits well, who can really be a partner in S&M with me.

The fun bit is when I get a seasoned masochist to experience something new. Oh baby!!!

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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 4:30:47 PM   
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That sounds like endless entertainment for me. Mind if I keep this scenario in mind for when I start doing rt sessions?


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ORIGINAL: AlexandraLynch

I must say that a boy tied down with a cold knifepoint tracing the side of his cock is combining a host of my favorite things at once....helplessness, genital play, mindfuckery and knife play all at once. 


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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 4:34:35 PM   
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One that has been on my mind lately:  When we get to the point where we intro a third....do I make my slave husband, on command, sit still while I give commands for another to touch him...and more.  Flexing my authority type thing, as in I will do whatever to your body it belongs to me

OR

....do I make my slave husband do things to "him" while I command him also with the authority thing, but making it more a chore or punishment type thing...

there's a story with both scenarios but I won't bore you with that ...lol

that one has been bothering me for some time now...lol

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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 4:35:55 PM   
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One for me would be to blindfold or not. On one hand I don't want him to see, just hear and all that comes with it and then sometimes I want him to see and hear and want to see his eyes bug out and I couldn't decide between the two! lol

I'm with the other's that said to bind or just be still... that is fun too! lol To watch the helplessness or the frustration or steel will to do what I say.

Then there is that man on man thing. I haven't done this yet, but I have thought a lot about it with certain men who haven't and we have talked about it so I can determine if it is something I wish to persue. How they may not want to but may waiver on it... and make them think they are going to and not and then deciding to actually do it. I love the surprise elements and yet I also love tormenting a bit with something and that blend of torment and yet excitement.

Sorry, in a fog here... I hope that made sense. lol

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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 4:41:25 PM   
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heck, actually come to think of it, and reading the responses so far, I have problems with decisions on almost everything said here so far...lol

I need a coin to flip...lol

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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 4:44:37 PM   
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This is why so many guys start wanker threads here.... left to your own devices, you Ladies are skeery! 
But, umm.... don't stop


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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 4:46:18 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

This is why so many guys start wanker threads here.... left to your own devices, you Ladies are skeery! 
But, umm.... don't stop



hey I haven't even gotten to the scary stuff that's running around in my head yet...lol

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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 4:48:41 PM   
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 That's pretty much the desired effect for the submissive and where the debate within us, come's in Wyld one!

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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 4:50:39 PM   
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*smooches the ladies and goes back to work.... where's she's safe* 

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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 4:54:26 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

This is why so many guys start wanker threads here.... left to your own devices, you Ladies are skeery! 
But, umm.... don't stop



But, My dear, you know it's why you love us.  

I'm glad to see everyone getting into the spirit of this!  Keep those hard choices coming!


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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 4:57:34 PM   
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The back of my hairbrush or the back of HER hairbrush 

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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 4:57:48 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DrkJourney

quote:

ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

This is why so many guys start wanker threads here.... left to your own devices, you Ladies are skeery! 
But, umm.... don't stop



hey I haven't even gotten to the scary stuff that's running around in my head yet...lol


Me either.  I never told you about this one time, with this one sub, and what I did with my collection of "sharp and pointies"...

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RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? - 1/26/2010 4:59:59 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

The back of my hairbrush or the back of HER hairbrush 


ROFL! Nice! 

I have this thing... I really want those kit's... I can't think of the real name for them... but it's like mould a cock or something like that. Kind of a mind trip knowing they are getting it with their own cock kind of thing.

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