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ElanSubdued -> RE: Daily Feminization (2/1/2010 1:43:29 PM)
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slavecatia,
Alright. I've now made it through the entire thread so I'm changing my response.
Your approach was (perhaps) mistakenly misguided. Consequently, people judged your OP and follow-ups rude and imposing. You had an opportunity to correct this, but instead you continued in a bullish way. In short, you demonstrated a lack of social grace and the replies reflect this. I did notice your apology to the women of this forum. How about to everyone? For example, I was offended at your declaration that "men work more with images than women in terms of eroticism". This may speak for you, but it certainly doesn't speak for me.
Someone suggested that had a woman written an OP in similar fashion (one that included fetish pictures) the responses would be different. I think this is likely true, but so be it. It is often useful to observe the social customs of an environment before jumping in with both feet.
I don't think there is anything wrong with your kink even though it isn't my own. Certainly, I'd defend your right to discuss BDSM topics of interest to you in a respectful, appropriate way. Unfortunately, that didn't happen here and your thread degenerated quickly because of this. Next time, take a more subtle, cautious approach and one more appropriate and respectful to the target audience of a given forum. For example, this is the "Ask A Mistress" forum and we get dozens of "do Dommes like to... feminize men, fuck men in the ass, force men to suck other's cocks, hurt men, etc.". These aren't interpreted as questions and instead come across as requests for masturbation fodder. So... if you want to start a feminization thread that is taken more seriously, try an approach that is less "you" focused and more geared toward opening discussion.
"Thoughts on feminizing men... is this something that appeals to you and, if so, why? If this doesn't appeal to you, are there any elements that spark your interest or are you simply not interested at all? Would those who aren't interested be willing to share why this is a turn-off for them? I enjoy many aspects of feminization (shopping for clothes with my partner, picking out items my partner thinks look good on me, sharing an emotional connection that is very different from man-to-woman), but before I ask for more detailed feedback on things of interest to me, I'll wait to see what others have to say."
With this kind of approach, you invite conversation rather than force your kink on others. I hope you have better luck next time out of the gate,
Elan.
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