Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: who makes a great DOM


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> RE: who makes a great DOM Page: <<   < prev  1 2 [3] 4   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/11/2010 9:25:48 PM   
WyldHrt


Posts: 6412
Joined: 6/5/2008
Status: offline
quote:

I'm not going to flame you

Why thankies.
quote:

but I have to say that yes I am confused. You can be a great dominant guy (hi ladies, message me any time) that is a great Dom, but couldn't you also be a great dominant guy that is a terrible Dom?
What's the difference?

Now you are talking compatibility, and that is completely down to the people involved in the relationship. My "perfect" Dom would be someone else's "Meh" or "Hell, no!", and vice versa. This is the problem with asking many women what it is that women want. Doms aren't "one size fits all" and neither are subs.


_____________________________

"MotherFUCKER!" is NOT a safeword!!"- Steel
"We've had complaints about 'orgy noises'. This is not the neighborhood for that kind of thing"- PVE Cop

Resident "Hypnotic Eyes", "Cleavage" and "Toy Whore"
Subby Mafia, VAA Posse & Team Troll!

(in reply to OriginallyFromLA)
Profile   Post #: 41
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/11/2010 9:29:47 PM   
osf


Posts: 3288
Joined: 10/19/2009
Status: offline 		bottom line, he's a great dominate if she thinks he's a great dominate

_____________________________

all around nice guy and creative misogynist

i'm not very skilled so i just hit harder

i want a woman to make into the woman she never wanted to become

(in reply to WyldHrt)
Profile   Post #: 42
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/11/2010 9:32:02 PM   
lucylucy


Posts: 612
Joined: 3/1/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

bottom line, he's a great dominate if she thinks he's a great dominate

And he may be a great Dom with one woman and not so great with another.

_____________________________

“There are those who give with joy, & that joy is their reward.” Gibran / "Those who are willing to be vulnerable move among mysteries." Roethke / "Let the beauty we love be what we do. There are hundreds of ways to kneel & kiss the ground." Rumi

(in reply to osf)
Profile   Post #: 43
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/11/2010 9:33:40 PM   
osf


Posts: 3288
Joined: 10/19/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: lucylucy


quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

bottom line, he's a great dominate if she thinks he's a great dominate

And he may be a great Dom with one woman and not so great with another.


zakly

_____________________________

all around nice guy and creative misogynist

i'm not very skilled so i just hit harder

i want a woman to make into the woman she never wanted to become

(in reply to lucylucy)
Profile   Post #: 44
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/12/2010 12:52:56 AM   
chelseasway


Posts: 12
Joined: 2/11/2010
Status: offline 		For me a great dom is a great man.  He's interested in more than just bdsm and he's interested in me.  

(in reply to sexyred1)
Profile   Post #: 45
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/12/2010 3:03:11 AM   
allthatjaz


Posts: 2878
Joined: 8/20/2008
Status: offline 		Comfortable being himself and the ability to be consistent.
A good imagination and the ability to use that imagination.
Self confident but not too big an ego.
Honest but diplomatic.
Loving and caring and the ability for that to shine through.
Self assertive and not too weak to be alwasy making compromises.
Generous and accepting of generosity, appreciative.
Can listen as well as talk.
Adventurous and perhaps a little impulsive.
Someone who doesn't need a title or anything that would take me away from reality.
Energetic and enthusiastic.
Someone who isn't afraid to show his vulnerable side or believe its a sign of weakness to cook me a meal or stack the dishwasher on occasion.
Someone who can love me and allow me to love him back.
Inspirational and complimentary.
Competitive in life but not amongst other dominants.
Laid back, generally happy.
sporty and reasonably fit.
cultured.
Brave enough to take me on a fabulous BDSM journey without taking all of this too seriously.


I was just discribing my partner!


_____________________________

S&M (Steve and Maria) persona libre de convencionalismos


Fan of edgeplay.co.uk

(in reply to sexyred1)
Profile   Post #: 46
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/12/2010 6:19:40 AM   
OriginallyFromLA


Posts: 87
Joined: 2/10/2010
Status: offline 		 
quote:

  Comfortable being himself and the ability to be consistent.
A good imagination and the ability to use that imagination.
Self confident but not too big an ego.
Honest but diplomatic.
Loving and caring and the ability for that to shine through.
Self assertive and not too weak to be alwasy making compromises.
Generous and accepting of generosity, appreciative.
Can listen as well as talk.
Adventurous and perhaps a little impulsive.
Someone who doesn't need a title or anything that would take me away from reality.
Energetic and enthusiastic.
Someone who isn't afraid to show his vulnerable side or believe its a sign of weakness to cook me a meal or stack the dishwasher on occasion.
Someone who can love me and allow me to love him back.
Inspirational and complimentary.
Competitive in life but not amongst other dominants.
Laid back, generally happy.
sporty and reasonably fit.
cultured.


Me, Me, Me, Me, Me...Me, Me, Me, Me, Me, Me..... Me, Me, Me, Me, Me, Me, Me! (anyone remember the movie Groundhog Day)


quote:

Brave enough to take me on a fabulous BDSM journey without taking all of this too seriously.


Ahh here we go. The Fabulous BDSM Journey. Care to go into a little more detail?

I ride a motorcycle. I am a veteran rider and have ridden all over the US. Can anyone guess what I ride? God help you if you guess wrong!

I get it, BDSM relationships are relationships first, at least here in these threads they are. But as I have found out, there is a large percentage of people that DON'T frequent the boards for whom it is all just a game (again just like regular relationships).

I guess what it boils down to is I assumed that as a member here, we all had at least one thing in common, and since we did we would all be one level deeper and be able to bypass a lot of the protocol you have to deal with in a vanilla relationship just to find out who it is you're dealing with.

_____________________________

We keep you alive to serve this ship. Row well, and live.-Quintas Arius

Love IS pain, Highness. Anyone that says different is selling something.-Dread Pirate Roberts

(in reply to allthatjaz)
Profile   Post #: 47
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/12/2010 6:34:39 AM   
WinsomeDefiance


Posts: 6719
Joined: 8/7/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: OriginallyFromLA

I guess what it boils down to is I assumed that as a member here, we all had at least one thing in common, and since we did we would all be one level deeper and be able to bypass a lot of the protocol you have to deal with in a vanilla relationship just to find out who it is you're dealing with.


What is with people wanting BDSM to be a shortcut to communication and getting to know the person? 

How many different types of motorcycles are there out there?  Why do you think there isn't just one motorcycle to serve the desires of all motorcycle enthusiasts?  Why do you ride the one you ride?  Why did you PICK that particular model?  Why do you think someone might pick a completely different model?  Now tell us who you want to ride bitch in your life?  What ONE quality, do you think ALL dominant men are going to want their bitch seat riding slut to be like? Think there'll be one quality everyone agrees upon?  Are you starting to understand that BDSM is still made up of individuals with individual preferences? 



(in reply to OriginallyFromLA)
Profile   Post #: 48
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/12/2010 6:46:00 AM   
Jeffff


Posts: 12600
Joined: 7/7/2007
Status: offline 		We are all very special! God has blessed kinky folks! We are better than everyone else!


Do you know that I can spot your kink just walking down the street and catching a glimpse of you? My kink-dar is THAT good



Let this resonate in the community!

Jeff

_____________________________

"If you don't live it, it won't come out your horn." Charlie Parker

(in reply to WinsomeDefiance)
Profile   Post #: 49
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/12/2010 6:49:32 AM   
WinsomeDefiance


Posts: 6719
Joined: 8/7/2007
Status: offline 		Just because this amused me:

Motorcycles (Dominants) have been produced in myriad configurations for innumerable purposes. Most motorcycles (Dominants) fall into one of three main categories — street (Tops), off-road (Doms), and dual-purpose (Masters)— depending on the surface (s-type) they are intended to be used on. A few specialty machines do not fall into one of these categories (Switches). Each configuration offers either specialized advantage or broad capability, and each design creates a different riding posture. 

< Message edited by WinsomeDefiance -- 2/12/2010 6:53:03 AM >

(in reply to Jeffff)
Profile   Post #: 50
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/12/2010 7:33:36 AM   
osf


Posts: 3288
Joined: 10/19/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

We are all very special! God has blessed kinky folks! We are better than everyone else!


Do you know that I can spot your kink just walking down the street and catching a glimpse of you? My kink-dar is THAT good



Let this resonate in the community!

Jeff


not all are special

i'm the only unspecial person on earth

_____________________________

all around nice guy and creative misogynist

i'm not very skilled so i just hit harder

i want a woman to make into the woman she never wanted to become

(in reply to Jeffff)
Profile   Post #: 51
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/12/2010 7:44:30 AM   
lucylucy


Posts: 612
Joined: 3/1/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: OriginallyFromLA

 I guess what it boils down to is I assumed that as a member here, we all had at least one thing in common, and since we did we would all be one level deeper and be able to bypass a lot of the protocol you have to deal with in a vanilla relationship just to find out who it is you're dealing with.

The part I bolded stands out to me as problematic. I found when I was dating that lots of people know what they WISH they were but don't actually know what they ARE. I met a lot of lovely men who wanted to be confident but just weren't. They wanted to be modest but just weren't. Hell, they wanted to be 6' tall but just weren't. Their profiles all said confident, modest, 6'. Except for the height, which can be objectively measured, most characteristics are part of a continuum and it's easy to kid yourself about where on the continuum you fall.

Sure, it would be nice to bypass the bs and get down to "here's who I am" and "here's who you are." But to do that, you gotta know who you are. That's the tough part.

_____________________________

“There are those who give with joy, & that joy is their reward.” Gibran / "Those who are willing to be vulnerable move among mysteries." Roethke / "Let the beauty we love be what we do. There are hundreds of ways to kneel & kiss the ground." Rumi

(in reply to OriginallyFromLA)
Profile   Post #: 52
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/12/2010 7:49:54 AM   
LanceHughes


Posts: 4737
Joined: 2/12/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

Who makes a great dom?  I can't ever be absolutely sure but my guess is....

Jeff (cuz he's my fav)
Merc
LadyHabiscus
LadyPact
LaT
KnightofMists
I'd say RS but he'd smack me for calling him a dom
RS (for the smacks)
Ron
Domiguy
DominateUrDreamz (sic?)
Ebonywood
DarkSteven

Especially
MOD16!



::: sniff ::: /drys eyes and wipes nose after crying for a few minutes/ LOL!!!

How can I get on this list?

_____________________________

"Train 'em the right way - my way." Lance Hughes
"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer, but wish we didn't." Erica Jong

10 fluffy points
50 nz points

Member: VAA's posse

(in reply to WinsomeDefiance)
Profile   Post #: 53
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/12/2010 7:55:03 AM   
WinsomeDefiance


Posts: 6719
Joined: 8/7/2007
Status: offline 		Who makes a great dom?  I can't ever be absolutely sure but my guess is....

Jeff (cuz he's my fav)
Merc
LadyHabiscus
LadyPact
LaT
KnightofMists
I'd say RS but he'd smack me for calling him a dom
RS (for the smacks)
Ron
Domiguy
DominateUrDreamz (sic?)
Ebonywood
DarkSteven
LanceHughes
MOD16!

(I just left you off to get your attention!)

(in reply to LanceHughes)
Profile   Post #: 54
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/12/2010 7:59:25 AM   
ModeratorSixteen


Posts: 1275
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

Who makes a great dom?  I can't ever be absolutely sure but my guess is....

Jeff (cuz he's my fav)
Merc
LadyHabiscus
LadyPact
LaT
KnightofMists
I'd say RS but he'd smack me for calling him a dom
RS (for the smacks)
Ron
Domiguy
DominateUrDreamz (sic?)
Ebonywood
DarkSteven

Especially
MOD16!



See?Someone does love us moderators.

_____________________________

Freedom of expression and personal opinion is a positive input.

(in reply to WinsomeDefiance)
Profile   Post #: 55
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/12/2010 7:59:27 AM   
LanceHughes


Posts: 4737
Joined: 2/12/2004
Status: offline 		Thanks, Winnie.  I feel better now.

_____________________________

"Train 'em the right way - my way." Lance Hughes
"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer, but wish we didn't." Erica Jong

10 fluffy points
50 nz points

Member: VAA's posse

(in reply to WinsomeDefiance)
Profile   Post #: 56
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/12/2010 8:00:38 AM   
LanceHughes


Posts: 4737
Joined: 2/12/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

Just because this amused me:

Motorcycles (Dominants) have been produced in myriad configurations for innumerable purposes. Most motorcycles (Dominants) fall into one of three main categories — street (Tops), off-road (Doms), and dual-purpose (Masters)— depending on the surface (s-type) they are intended to be used on. A few specialty machines do not fall into one of these categories (Switches). Each configuration offers either specialized advantage or broad capability, and each design creates a different riding posture. 


Quoted for TRUTH.

< Message edited by LanceHughes -- 2/12/2010 8:06:22 AM >

_____________________________

"Train 'em the right way - my way." Lance Hughes
"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer, but wish we didn't." Erica Jong

10 fluffy points
50 nz points

Member: VAA's posse

(in reply to WinsomeDefiance)
Profile   Post #: 57
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/12/2010 8:20:40 AM   
OriginallyFromLA


Posts: 87
Joined: 2/10/2010
Status: offline
quote:

Are you starting to understand that BDSM is still made up of individuals with individual preferences? 


Hey it only took me a week and a half and I didn't get pissed off or run away. Patience (on both sides) is a virtue.

_____________________________

We keep you alive to serve this ship. Row well, and live.-Quintas Arius

Love IS pain, Highness. Anyone that says different is selling something.-Dread Pirate Roberts

(in reply to LanceHughes)
Profile   Post #: 58
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/12/2010 8:24:23 AM   
sexyred1


Posts: 8998
Joined: 8/9/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

Who makes a great dom?  I can't ever be absolutely sure but my guess is....

Jeff (cuz he's my fav)
Merc
LadyHabiscus
LadyPact
LaT
KnightofMists
I'd say RS but he'd smack me for calling him a dom
RS (for the smacks)
Ron
Domiguy
DominateUrDreamz (sic?)
Ebonywood
DarkSteven
LanceHughes
MOD16!

(I just left you off to get your attention!)


Win, I was just going to ask about your choices but then was distracted by my boyfriend being in the tub with you, bitch!

(in reply to WinsomeDefiance)
Profile   Post #: 59
RE: who makes a great DOM - 2/12/2010 8:26:04 AM   
WinsomeDefiance


Posts: 6719
Joined: 8/7/2007
Status: offline 		Fess up RED.....you were there, just UNDER all those bubbles.  I was impressed at how long you can stay submerged...among your other skillful attriubtes!

(in reply to sexyred1)
Profile   Post #: 60
Page:   <<   < prev  1 2 [3] 4   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> RE: who makes a great DOM Page: <<   < prev  1 2 [3] 4   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.078