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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/17/2010 5:31:44 PM   
PrincessEllie


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Status: offline 		I'm insulted at the assumption that my ass is anything but squeaky clean. The toilet on the other hand is pretty gross. Just due to the fact that it is a toilet. 

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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/17/2010 5:47:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		Being a Master means... mean.. Ummmm.. Ummmmm... Being a Dom to me means... yeah.. it means... (hold that thought, I'll get back to you when I myself figured it out).

I knew there was a reason why I try so hard to simply be myself. I'm sorry if I Vanilla Horrified anybody like a victim in a bad B movie.

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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/17/2010 5:47:44 PM   
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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/17/2010 5:53:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: PrincessEllie

I'm insulted at the assumption that my ass is anything but squeaky clean.



Well, we're not gonna know until you show it to us, now will we?

Sorry, but them's the rules around these parts.

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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/17/2010 6:55:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth

For me, being the Master means that I can dictate the nature of the relationship. It means that I'm allowed to be compassionate, instead of being forced to be self-protective, because I know that if my needs are threatened, I can have them met by fiat. Paradoxically, being the Dominant allows me to focus more attention on my partners - I can afford to be more vulnerable and compassionate because I have explicit permission to correct any of the issues that usually punish vulnerability and compassion.

Damn, that's good.

Granted, that's usually par for the course for you.




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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/17/2010 6:58:10 PM   
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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/17/2010 7:00:06 PM   
wittynamehere


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ORIGINAL: PrincessEllie
I want to know what it means to be a Dom to you.


It means nothing at all to me. I would answer the same if you asked me what it means to have hair, or what it means to be a person. Nothing. I'm myself, exactly as you are yourself. I'm not acting, playing, or pretending.

If you asked "what does it feel like to be a breakdancer?" Assuming I was a breakdancer, I could answer that, because that's an activity, a hobby. Something I choose to do.

Being who I am isn't a choice or a hobby. :)


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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/17/2010 7:07:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AnimusRex

quote:

ORIGINAL: PrincessEllie

I'm insulted at the assumption that my ass is anything but squeaky clean.



Well, we're not gonna know until you show it to us, now will we?

Sorry, but them's the rules around these parts.


The man's got a point... so let's see that ASS!!! <hands out score-cards to the forum> 



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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/17/2010 7:23:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

Damn, that's good.

Granted, that's usually par for the course for you.





*bow* I suppose it's reached the level where counting points are superfluous. ;)


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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/17/2010 7:34:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth

*bow* I suppose it's reached the level where counting points are superfluous. ;)

Have you agreed to the newly affixed disclaimers I have had to include? If so, I can add the points.

Not that you were doing anything with them. :P


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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/17/2010 8:26:49 PM   
Ialdabaoth


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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

quote:

ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth

*bow* I suppose it's reached the level where counting points are superfluous. ;)

Have you agreed to the newly affixed disclaimers I have had to include? If so, I can add the points.

Not that you were doing anything with them. :P



... disclaimers?

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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/17/2010 8:58:20 PM   
Whiplashsmile4


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Status: offline 		First and foremost, my focus has always been upon what does it mean to be myself as a human being. In terms of what it means to be a Dom/Master, I reflect upon what I mean to myself, what my relationships mean to me and those I'm involved with mean to me. The depth and meanings can and will vary accordingly. I do not treat all people equally, however this does imply that I lack a baseline code of Human courtesy, ethics and moral values. When social group norms are not condusive to my own internal codes of conduct or ethics, I can and do rebel. I will challenge the norms and/or group authority figures. Challenge however does not imply confrontational means nor force.

This is but a scratch upon the surface of who I am as a person. In many ways I appear as rather bit of a swash buckling pirate. A little rough around the edges, like to laugh, have a good time. I'll venture into questionable places. There is also a side of me that's rather a Celtic Druid that bonds with nature and enjoys the simplicity of nature. There's a part of up that goes upscale and enjoys some of the so called finer things in life. Often, I'll break people's notions that one way or another. Some people only see certain facets of who I am. That's reserved for those closest to me.

I will be what I will be, not I am what I am. I care not to wear those chains of self imposed bondage in a state of helplessness. This is one of many governing ideologies possessed inside of who and what I am. Things like this translate into who I am as a Dom/Master.

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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/18/2010 1:53:25 AM   
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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/18/2010 9:05:21 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss
Do you have any suggestion about what would be a better thing to use an analogy? I totally get the feeling of being insulted (and if certain other posters had said it, I too would have been insulted.). I just don't know what would express it so deeply. I mean the Goreans often talk about their s-types as cars or dogs. Other folks use horses. What could we use that expresses the sentiment without being insulting (I'm being sincere here, not snarky at all).


D-type is to artist as s-type is to work of art?


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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/18/2010 9:13:25 AM   
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ORIGINAL: petmonkey
D-type is to artist as s-type is to work of art?


My name is Ialdabaoth, and I endorse this message.

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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/18/2010 9:16:02 AM   
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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/19/2010 2:37:07 PM   
PrincessEllie


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ORIGINAL: AnimusRex

Well, we're not gonna know until you show it to us, now will we?

Sorry, but them's the rules around these parts.


My man sets the rules around MY parts, including my butt, and I'd rather you think I had a dirty butt than him making sure I had a red one. He does not share my butt, my butt is his most favoritest thing.

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Sticks and stones
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But whips and chains excite me
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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/19/2010 7:24:12 PM   
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All real personal power stems from this.

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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/19/2010 11:01:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: PrincessEllie
I want to know what you enjoy about being in the Dominant role.


  • I like owning a woman Don't ask me why. I don't know. I differentiate this from all the pragmatic aspects like "getting all the blowjobs I want". For me, at least, it is deeply fulfilling all by itself.
  • I like efficiently running our marriage. This is pretty straightforward. I'm a good leader. Being in charge makes sense.
  • I like the responsibility: The more Carol submits, the more authority I have. With authority goes responsibility. I enjoy having an impossibly high bar to jump over. I enjoy it for two reasons. First, I enjoy it because it makes me smug thinking that most people could not manage it. Second, it makes me better myself constantly.


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RE: What does it mean to be a Dom/Master to you? - 2/20/2010 1:07:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: PrincessEllie


quote:

ORIGINAL: AnimusRex

Well, we're not gonna know until you show it to us, now will we?

Sorry, but them's the rules around these parts.


My man sets the rules around MY parts, including my butt, and I'd rather you think I had a dirty butt than him making sure I had a red one. He does not share my butt, my butt is his most favoritest thing.


kill-joy...



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