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in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 8:17:46 AM   
ownedkatt


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Status: offline 		my Master and i have been together for a little over 6 months now. we used to be extremely open talking for hours on end about everything. for the last few months we havent been talking as much and when we do, He always seems to get annoyed over the smallest things. for instance, i asked Him a question last night about going on a trip with Him and he changed the subject. so i asked Him again today and he started yelling about how i didnt act like His slave and how he just wants me away from Him. ive thought of every possible way that i could have done something wrong, but i cant come to any conclusion.

please.. any thoughts for what might be going on with Him? of course i know that everyone, and of course every Master, is different, but is there a common theme that could be happening with Him?

thank you..
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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 8:22:45 AM   
ownedkatt


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Status: offline 		this is the latest quote from Him from my just telling Him that i wouldnt ask Him again.

'Just go away then. Stay in your little hell. Stay far away from Me.'

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 8:44:52 AM   
elleX


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fast reply
,,,, are you living togheter ? are you part time ?,, .. is he known for having mood swing  ?, are you now walking on eggs all the time ?
, no one here can really help you if you dont have a clear idea of what he means
to me it sound no good at all,,  if it happen all of a sudden,, a good explanation is mandatory,, no matter how mad he is ,,,
good luck

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 8:50:52 AM   
Lucienne


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedkatt
'Just go away then. Stay in your little hell. Stay far away from Me.'



If a man said that to me, regardless of the power dynamic in the relationship, I'd take him at his word and get the fuck out. This is one of those "guys aren't that complicated" moments. If he's telling you to stay far away from him, stay the fuck far away from him and assume he isn't going to change his mind. It doesn't matter how he got to that place, but once he's communicated to you that he's in that place you're basically engaging in hand-to-buzzsaw combat if you continue relating to the guy.

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 8:53:59 AM   
Lorenzo19


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Status: offline 		"you dont act like his slave". that's simple. He has probably already explained to you the probllem. Were you listening? Ask him how you could be a better slave to Him. That's pretty obvious.

The common theme? No. Just ask him.

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 8:59:19 AM   
Lucienne


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ORIGINAL: Lorenzo19

"you dont act like his slave". that's simple. He has probably already explained to you the probllem. Were you listening? Ask him how you could be a better slave to Him. That's pretty obvious.

The common theme? No. Just ask him.


Your advice is bad on its own terms. If a master tells the slave to get far away from him, then wouldn't the proper slave response be to follow that direct order? Isn't sticking around to ask how she could be a better slave just providing more evidence of not being a "slave."?

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 9:08:48 AM   
ownedkatt


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Status: offline 		to elleX - i have been walking on egg shells for a while, but He didnt really get mood swings until a few months ago.. im not sure what happened..

to Lucienne - we got in a huge fight a few weeks ago, and i told Him to release me 3 different times. He wouldnt. Hes scared of me leaving but He doesnt want me around? im not sure what to take from it..

to Lorenzo19 - i do listen constantly to Him, im of course not allowed to interrupt, but when im talking and He starts to talk, i shut up. i listen to every word he says.

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 9:09:50 AM   
Sakone


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lucienne

quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedkatt
'Just go away then. Stay in your little hell. Stay far away from Me.'



If a man said that to me, regardless of the power dynamic in the relationship, I'd take him at his word and get the fuck out. This is one of those "guys aren't that complicated" moments. If he's telling you to stay far away from him, stay the fuck far away from him and assume he isn't going to change his mind. It doesn't matter how he got to that place, but once he's communicated to you that he's in that place you're basically engaging in hand-to-buzzsaw combat if you continue relating to the guy.

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What makes you say that? I have met a couple that the Domme has told this to her sub, and never left. Maybe her leaving like you said would make that buzzsaw combat actually happen. My advice ask him how to better serve him. He more then likely explained it but a refreasher shouldn't hurt to much.

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 9:12:50 AM   
ownedkatt


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sakone

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lucienne

quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedkatt
'Just go away then. Stay in your little hell. Stay far away from Me.'



If a man said that to me, regardless of the power dynamic in the relationship, I'd take him at his word and get the fuck out. This is one of those "guys aren't that complicated" moments. If he's telling you to stay far away from him, stay the fuck far away from him and assume he isn't going to change his mind. It doesn't matter how he got to that place, but once he's communicated to you that he's in that place you're basically engaging in hand-to-buzzsaw combat if you continue relating to the guy.

\

What makes you say that? I have met a couple that the Domme has told this to her sub, and never left. Maybe her leaving like you said would make that buzzsaw combat actually happen. My advice ask him how to better serve him. He more then likely explained it but a refreasher shouldn't hurt to much.



i have asked how i can serve Him better, at which point He gets annoyed and says that i should already know. He knows saying goodbye, or bye, hurts me, but He doesnt leave. He will stop talking to me for a few days, but then He will come back. the time between though is getting longer and longer..

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 9:13:52 AM   
Sakone


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Status: offline 		Well thats not confusing in any shape or form. You asked to be released and he didn't, and now he wants you to leave. Why is it you wish to stay now?

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 9:17:46 AM   
ownedkatt


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Status: offline 		because i care about Him and i enjoy being His slave and serving Him, but the only way i can truly leave is if He releases me He said. so since He hasnt released me, i dont think that He is officially done.. 

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 9:18:08 AM   
Jeffff


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Status: offline 		SOme folks are just assholes

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 9:21:40 AM   
ownedkatt


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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

SOme folks are just assholes


this is true.. but He isnt. He is just.. confused (?) and confusing me along with Him?

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 9:24:41 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		My first reaction is the guy is either in need of mental health care and/or involved in drugs.

You cannot fix him. If he says stay away from, do yourself a favour and stay away....... LEAVE!


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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 9:24:46 AM   
EbonyWood


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedkatt

because i care about Him and i enjoy being His slave and serving Him, but the only way i can truly leave is if He releases me He said. so since He hasnt released me, i dont think that He is officially done.. 


Bullshit.
 
No one ever needs to be officially released. Myth, bullshit, crap.
 
Stop listening to people who have said you haven't been a proper slave.
 
Just leave. Stop admiring an image and face the reality.

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 9:26:02 AM   
ownedkatt


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

My first reaction is the guy is either in need of mental health care and/or involved in drugs.

You cannot fix him. If he says stay away from, do yourself a favour and stay away....... LEAVE!



he has multiple personality disorder as well. one, which is rare, is a quiet, passive person. the other is his Master side.

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 9:26:38 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		And you are submitting to both........bad idea.

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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 9:29:02 AM   
ownedkatt


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Status: offline 		to EbonyWood - so who should i listen to... you or my Master? im confused and i really dont know how to go about this..

to LaTigresse - like i said, im confused.. how does submitting to both become a bad idea?

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 9:29:23 AM   
CarrieO


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quote:

ORIGINAL: EbonyWood

quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedkatt

because i care about Him and i enjoy being His slave and serving Him, but the only way i can truly leave is if He releases me He said. so since He hasnt released me, i dont think that He is officially done.. 


Bullshit.
 
No one ever needs to be officially released. Myth, bullshit, crap.
 
Stop listening to people who have said you haven't been a proper slave.
 
Just leave. Stop admiring an image and face the reality.


Quoted for the honest truth.  OP....the only one making you stay in a bad situation is you.  Your choice.

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RE: in need of an opinion please.. - 2/18/2010 9:31:02 AM   
ownedkatt


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CarrieO

quote:

ORIGINAL: EbonyWood

quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedkatt

because i care about Him and i enjoy being His slave and serving Him, but the only way i can truly leave is if He releases me He said. so since He hasnt released me, i dont think that He is officially done.. 






Bullshit.
 
No one ever needs to be officially released. Myth, bullshit, crap.
 
Stop listening to people who have said you haven't been a proper slave.
 
Just leave. Stop admiring an image and face the reality.


Quoted for the honest truth.  OP....the only one making you stay in a bad situation is you.  Your choice.


but if He doesnt release me.. isnt He still my Master in some way..?

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