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how does online work? - 2/20/2010 6:08:55 AM   
tsatske


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Status: offline 		I got another letter today asking if I would be someone's online slave. It's not really what I'm looking for, I'm fine with that.

But I do have at least one couple I am friends with who do it long term. He is a member of the same munch as I am. they plan to be together eventually, but in the mean time, they do it all online, and have been, for two years. so it works for some.

How does this work? If I am in a F2F M/s, and I am supposed to be waiting by the door kneeling naked, and I'm not, because there was a traffic jam or I worked late, it is chalked up to the eb and flow of the day, because he is there and he knows the eb and flow of the days just as I do. I don't have a terribly dramatic life, but I have things that interfere and limitations, just like anyone.

Most subs I know that have 'online Masters', that part about reqal life does not enter into it. they are off being 'punished' because of the traffic jam, or staying up till 3 am because that's when he can get online, then getting up at six to go to work, ect. How do I talk online sounding respectful, explaining to someone why I really prefer to wear a bra? If a Maser I lived with who owned me decided I wouldn't wear a bra, then, after explaining why I prefer to, I wouldn't. But how do you trust someone you've never met to put enough importance into your needs?

I'm not ever going to do online only, I am just wondering how those who do it make it work.

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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 7:22:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		I can't wait to hear the answer to this because I keep immagining someone saying they're flogging themsleves while they are really making a sandwich and checking to see whats on tv.

"Oh yes I punished myself just the way you described" with cheese and mustard and some spanish olives on the side.

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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 7:29:20 AM   
Justme696


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Status: offline 		How online works depends on the person.
Some people just search for guidance and that can be done online.
It is for every one different.

For serious relation, online should/could be followed up with real life and often does.

ps.
Funny how many people looking for a partner on CM ( which is online) always look down at online...lol

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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 7:31:39 AM   
VideoAdminSigma


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Status: offline 		If you go to the Video Chatrooms here on CollarMe, and observe some of the interactions there you will get an idea of what online might entail.

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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 7:33:23 AM   
Justme696


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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 7:44:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: OriginallyFromLA

I can't wait to hear the answer to this because I keep immagining someone saying they're flogging themsleves while they are really making a sandwich and checking to see whats on tv.

"Oh yes I punished myself just the way you described" with cheese and mustard and some spanish olives on the side.


If you require a sub to humiliate and torture himself in front of his webcam, you can see and hear him, and the only one who can do whatever he wants are you.

You can for example have the sub sit on his knees for a couple of hours while you read a book and just now and then watch the sub in front of his webcam.

With online, you can interact with people from all over the world.

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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 8:08:31 AM   
OriginallyFromLA


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If you go to the Video Chatrooms here on CollarMe


CollarMe has video chat rooms I can watch? I guess I need to read the on line help., get it? "on line"

I think I will do that.

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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 10:12:25 AM   
aldompdx


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How does pornography work?

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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 10:13:53 AM   
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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 12:05:57 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Pick someone who understands about real life, who cares that you get enough sleep to function properly and so on.

You know that noobs come on all the time to say guys they've met are causing them to lose their jobs, outing them, causing family upset etc. So does knowing them in real life mean they're smart and realistic? Nope.

Same with online. You talk to them and see how realistic they are, how concerned with your well being they are.

The Man and I were LDR for about 3 years. We saw each other about every six weeks in good weather and every three months came winter. He still wanted to know about my real life; where I was going, what sports events I was taking the kids to etc. He understood that if I was escorting a school hiking trip then I sure wasn't going to be pantiless in a short skirt and heels. He would never have done anything harmful to me. And he insisted I sign off and go to bed at a reasonable hour.

Just because you've met them in real life doesn't mean they're good dominants and just because you haven't yet doesn't mean they're bad. It's up to the individual as always.

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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 1:35:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		more or less you role play typing out what or who is doing what ever so like Dom "whips girl" sub "skreems" lol how fun hey?

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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 2:20:40 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		I think it depends very much on the connection you feel with the other person whether or not online will work. I'll admit there have been times when I wasn't quite so enamored of my current man that I've pretty much blown off his online instructions for punishment or whatever in a manner somewhat like OFLA mentioned. They'd tell me to do something and I would say yeah, uh huh, get right on it and then write emails ...or make a sandwich lol. Obviously there were no cams involved. All of the relationships I've had were also RL so maybe the online interaction when we did it didn't have quite as much going for it. I'm not exactly sure beyond knowing that at the times I felt connected like say in the beginning of the relationship I didn't ignore the instructions at all.

I feel differently about my current partner and wouldn't choose to ignore him ever. I feel enough of a connection with him that I just would do what he wanted without being tempted to get a sandwich instead.

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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 2:39:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Justme696

ps.
Funny how many people looking for a partner on CM ( which is online) always look down at online...lol


I really don't understand this statement, what has one have to do with the other?  CM is used for many things.  One way is that it's used as a tool to meet people who are into the same things as you are.  So are you saying that just because you meet online that is all you are regulated to do?  I don't think people "look down" on it, it's just not their thing, which is their right.  Like me, they are more into being able to touch, so online is not for me. 

Even though I'm not into online CM has worked perfectly for me, not only have a made loads of friends here that I can learn things from, I also met my husband here.

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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 5:15:06 PM   
Lorenzo19


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Status: offline 		I did online M/s with My current real life little girl nikki. Also did it once again about three years ago but it was Daddy/little girl. (I had to end the D/lg online thingy cause I didnt have the time anymore. And she finally admited the relationship would never be r/l.)

I see online as pointless if there is not the possibility that it would or could end up r/l. However, an interesting exception, was the last D/lg online thing, even though it did not end up r/l, it still had major impact on My life and I will never forget that little girl. That little girl taught Me how to be a Daddy, I have been Daddy ever since and always will be. It feels much more natual to Me and to My lg, nikkki. Seems kinda funny learning from a little girl, But All you Doms out there, dont let your ego get so big you cannot learn something from the little ones.

My only advice about online relationships: Go for it. If you have the time.

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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 7:35:39 PM   
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We've been training and owning slaves online (and in person) for years and it works great for slaves that are married, long distance, novice, shy to try it in person, famous, handicapped, and for other reasons. It's slightly different than being in front of the person. Some things have to be done another way but it still works fine. It depends how dedicated both persons are. If they're both trying then it works.

Hope this helps.

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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 10:03:37 PM   
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We, at Domiguy Industries, have been owning and training slaves online (and in person) for hundreds of years. It works great for us not so much for you....You have to pay. Are you a slave that is married, long distance, novice, too shy to try it in person, famous, or just really disgusting?...Sucks to be you!!!

When it comes to the handicapped we are much more user friendly than academyforslaves because we have built a ramp to assist the handicapped in being able to comfortably utilize our online site. It is slightly different than being in front of a person. But let's face facts. You are undoubtedly such a horrid looking individual that this is probably the only outlet that you will ever be able to utilize.

Hope this helps.

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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 11:15:51 PM   
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You can for example have the sub sit on his knees for a couple of hours while you read a book and just now and then watch the sub in front of his webcam.

With online, you can interact with people from all over the world.


I am early May flying my sub in South Africa to Austria, meeting up with her high up in the mountains. The planning, anticipation, seeing each other for the first time in months, going somewhere I have not been for years, where she has never been, meeting up at the airport, and you are seriously telling me that you prefer watching the sub while you read a book? I can read a book on the plane, I suppose. It is anathema to me that seemingly some folks don't have the desire to try, because they have a PC? What a waste of life...

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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 11:20:47 PM   
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If they're both trying then it works.


Especially the online Bondage BBQs in summer are wonderful!

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RE: how does online work? - 2/20/2010 11:21:56 PM   
Justme696


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ORIGINAL: DrkJourney


I really don't understand this statement, what has one have to do with the other?  CM is used for many things. 



Well, often meeting a person, leads to wanting more...at least when you look for a partner and you connect.
I just find it rediculous that online looking for a partner is normal, but when people stay a little longer online ( for what ever reason) it is suddenly seen as stupid.
So..the search is ok....but the rest is stupid.
Looking for a partner you can do offline also. So why is this normal?
By times I find it an egoistic view. It are afther al 2 adults that chose this option, their choice.

ps
Perhaps it is eassy to compare to chat about personal stuff on this forum, instead of talking to friends about it.
Also an offline / online thingy.

< Message edited by Justme696 -- 2/20/2010 11:23:40 PM >

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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 12:41:46 AM   
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You can for example have the sub sit on his knees for a couple of hours while you read a book and just now and then watch the sub in front of his webcam
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I call that online sceneing. I think it's silly. If some people like it cool. I dont think they are silly. I feel silly doing it.

That's not the only way online can work. I never did that with the two girls I have had online relation with. They were online collared and had to obey Me but I never punished them online. that's silly. The commands they received were no big deal. If they were late because of traffic. No big deal. they called Me Sir and sat on My lap when in the chat rooms.

The value of the online relationships was pre-training before the real-life training and getting to know the person. There are lots of things to train a girl before the first meeting and lots of things to discuss and work out. So what's the difference if it takes place online, on the phone, or snail mail. If you are 10,000 miles apart it either that or nothing.

And even if you are only ten miles apart. Going into a D/s relationship real life is intimidating even for the Domly types. It's nice to get to know someone in an online relationship first. Then meet and go for more when the feeling is right.

The funny thing is the second online girl trained Me. It was valuable training. she was expert and I was the novice. I will never forget that girl and she will always have a place in My heart because she changed Me from a Master into a Daddy. That was a turning point in My life. If I had a cynical attitude about online relationships I would of missed out BIG time.

I guess if all one is interested in is sex and doesnt care who does it to them then any relationship online or otherwise is pointless.

< Message edited by Lorenzo19 -- 2/21/2010 12:50:01 AM >

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