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ORIGINAL: MasterJC69

I myself do not believe in being rude or disrespectful to people and simply ask the same in return. I would greatly appreciate feedback from the folks here in the threads.

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ORIGINAL: Lorenzo19

The girls with vague profiles get flooded with mail they consider rude from Humiliation specialized Doms looking for a humiliation style sub. They dont realize it is not rude mail.. it is humiliation email. So they get all pissed off and start threads like this.

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It would be good for everyone if they wrote profiles that are descriptive... But I dont think that is a realistic solution because of several problems. 1) some people dont know themselves well enough to know where to begin. 2) some people are not comfortable enough with their fetish to articulate it. 3) some peple are simply not good writers 4) some people think if they say exactly what they want it makes it too easy for the fakers to waste their time.

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ORIGINAL: Lorenzo19

Just gotta try to just ignore the unpleasantries.

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ORIGINAL: Lorenzo19

I have had the same experience as you, MasterJC. I dont think there is a single answer to it.

From what I have read on CM and in some of the profiles and My gut feelings I surmise the following:

The subbies get so much mail that unless you tweak their curiosity or feed their ego in some way your mail goes straight into the trash with no reply. It is simply a matter of too much mail not enough time.

The other problem is that their profiles are so vague that they get flooded with mail from every Dom with every fetish imaginable.

Since you basically have one shot to make yourself interesting you cant do the chitty chatty thing. You got to make yourself real interesting real fast. which leads to another problem....

The girls with vague profiles get flooded with mail they consider rude from Humiliation specialized Doms looking for a humiliation style sub. They dont realize it is not rude mail.. it is humiliation email. So they get all pissed off and start threads like this.

It would be good for everyone if they wrote profiles that are descriptive... But I dont think that is a realistic solution because of several problems. 1) some people dont know themselves well enough to know where to begin. 2) some people are not comfortable enough with their fetish to articulate it. 3) some peple are simply not good writers 4) some people think if they say exactly what they want it makes it too easy for the fakers to waste their time.

So, in the end... Live with it and do the best you can... You'll get a feel for it... Try to read between the lines... People expose themselves in subtle ways. Good luck and dont take it too hard.

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ORIGINAL: Lorenzo19

The above two posts are a perfet example of what I'm talking about. I usually just ignore them but I think they prove the point I am making. How fortuitous. smile.

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ORIGINAL: curiouskitten8
And why do these "Doms", who are supposed to understand women, treat us with such disrespect when they don't know us?

What has led to your assumption that people who are dominant all "understand" females? Why only that gender?

In any event, your assumption is wrong. Being dominant has zero correlation with understanding females (or males, or any other gender). Some dominants understand people, and some don't.

If you're going to make baseless assumptions like "all dominant people understand everybody else", you can probably understand that perhaps some of those dominant people made the assumption about you that "all submissive people want to be spoken down to in messages". Some do, and some don't. If YOU don't, don't reply.

Or, get angry, and make a thread about it, to add to the other 6000 threads on the exact same topic.

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ORIGINAL: SoulPiercer

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ORIGINAL: wittynamehere

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ORIGINAL: curiouskitten8
And why do these "Doms", who are supposed to understand women, treat us with such disrespect when they don't know us?

What has led to your assumption that people who are dominant all "understand" females? Why only that gender?

In any event, your assumption is wrong. Being dominant has zero correlation with understanding females (or males, or any other gender). Some dominants understand people, and some don't.

If you're going to make baseless assumptions like "all dominant people understand everybody else", you can probably understand that perhaps some of those dominant people made the assumption about you that "all submissive people want to be spoken down to in messages". Some do, and some don't. If YOU don't, don't reply.

Or, get angry, and make a thread about it, to add to the other 6000 threads on the exact same topic.

I hope this doesn't come across as my being rude, but this post is awesome. This saved me at least 4 hours of researching The Great Dom Guide trying to determine how I missed the chapter on Understanding Women.

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ORIGINAL: Lorenzo19
In real life people are overly polite, usually. In cyber space the real person tends to come out because they think no one is watching them or will hold them accountable.

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ORIGINAL: MasterJC69

I am new to this site but I do have a question that maybe some of the sub/slaves may be able to answer for me. I have written several who have left their profiles very vague and with little information.

I have been very polite and respectful in my approach in asking what age range they are looking for, what experience they have in the lifestyle and what it is they are seeking. I have not received a single reply from any of the emails and I know they have been read.

I find this in itself very rude to not take the time to reply to someone who has at least showed an interest and took a few minutes to ask a few questions worthy of an answer.

I myself do not believe in being rude or disrespectful to people and simply ask the same in return. I would greatly appreciate feedback from the folks here in the threads.

Thanks.